I have my first ever visit with a provider for next week.  Just wondering if I can get some helpful hints, tips on etiquette, etch.  Thanks.

Shower. Be nice. Don't worry about being nervous and write a review.

Be on time. What that means is, be early and stop to wait a short distance away so you can arrive exactly on time. Don't arrive early and expect her to be ready 15 minutes before time. Don't arrive 15 minutes late and expect the hour will commence at your convenience.

If it's a two call, call two or three minutes before the appointed hour.

Wash your hands when you arrive. Winter gloves are breeding grounds for bacteria and she will appreciate it.  

On a first visit, make sure she sees you pull the envelope out of your pocket, especially if you're going to drop it in the bathroom.

Confirm your appointment early in the day. Make sure she has the phone number or contact info on how to reach you on short notice. Hopefully she will give you her info as well.  

Be on time, or if you aren’t on time be in communication with her regarding why and when you’ll show up to be sure she’s ok with the delay.  

Prior to the visit, check out her website and become acquainted with how she wants things done. Some providers want some things done a certain way to avoid having to discuss them. Make sure you do what she asks as directed in her website.  

If she doesn't have a website, here are some tips:
• If you are visiting her at a hotel, don't knock loudly on the door. If it's open, let yourself in quietly. If it's closed, knock very quietly so that only she can hear the knock. She should be expecting you at this point so she should be listening for you if the door is closed. Probably a good idea to text that you're on your way to the door.
• Close the door quietly, lock the door, and latch if that is an option. Smile! Give her a hug and kiss on the cheek. If she wants a deeper kiss follow her lead.  
• Place the money in an open envelope (or a greeting card, unsealed) on a table or desk at the very start of the date (after "hello") and excuse yourself to the bathroom for a minute or two. That gives her time to check it and put it away (some people stiff the girls, so it's an uncomfortably necessary step) while you freshen up.  If you are hosting, be fresh before she arrives, and place the envelope in the bathroom and ask her to use that bathroom to freshen up. Another option is to place the envelope on a table near the entrance door, point or gesture to it, and offer her something to drink. Walk away and get yourself a drink if she declines, or get something for the both of you if she accepts. ...some diversion to allow her to count and put it away is the point.
• If you haven't showered in the previous hour or so, might be a good idea to do a quick wash, even if only with a wet washcloth, to make sure the area is fresh. She may want to join you in the shower for a quick rinse off, so follow her lead if she suggests go with it. If you showered that morning and worked all day, you are no longer fresh. If you showered and then drove 2 hours in the hot sun, you are no longer fresh. Be considerate of her senses and make sure you are squeaky clean.
• If there is mouthwash on the counter, use it. Even if you don't think you need it. Use disposable cups which are usually provided. Don't drink straight from the bottle. If there are mints, use them. Too many people skip this and trust me, it's not pleasant.
• Return to her and take her lead. If you are nervous, go ahead and tell her. She should be able to put you at ease. Ultimately you are in charge, so if there is something that doesn’t feel right go ahead and let her know. Maybe you want to go slower, maybe you want to pass too much small talk. Just be polite in how you approach the topic.  
• If you want to extend time, come prepared with extra money and place the money on a surface in plain sight at the start of the extension, but only if she’s ok with the extension. Extending and paying at the end can put her in an awkward place to ask for it in the event that you forget and that’s not fair to put her in that position. Money should never be discussed. It should never come up. Just do it.  

If you notice, basically everything above is about respect and consideration. Hygiene, timeliness, politeness…it all pays off in the end. If you find you connect, she will welcome you back. If you are not looking for a repeat, she will be a great reference for you in the future. .. as long as you are respectful and considerate.  

I’m excited for you!!! I bet you'll do just fine and have a lot of fun too!!

-Abby

-- Modified on 12/7/2014 12:19:21 AM

Ask her if she would like you to write a review and/or do a Friday shill.

If she wants a review, ask her where she'd like the review. Some ladies prefer reviews on their personal website.

Good point Abby!  

Yes, if she has a few reviews already fire away. If she hasn't got a single review there may be a sound reason and it would be good to ask her if you want to write one. Some providers like to stay Under The Radar, but alot of UTR providers rarely post ads or don't post ads at all. Think of an Under The Radar provider as a nice gem you stumble upon, like when you buy a candy bar from the machine and two fall instead of one. Don't boast about it, keep it to yourself and enjoy your sweet rewards :

First be clean and smell good.  Have the donation in envelope in plain sight but dont mention it.  After a minute or two of chatting inform her you are going to the rest room and for her to relax.  Wait a few minutes so she has time to have the donation.  Do not haggle over price on her menu, do not try and get something that is not on her menu and do not try and stay longer than your time is scheduled.
If a long session then use mouth wash every once in awhile to stay fresh. DO NOT TRY AND TALK HER INTO BBFS.  Also, don't surprise her such as having another escort or whoever there when she arrives and not informing her.
Have the donation in easily countable bills (not a bunch of fives, ones, etc).  Be polite, don't be a jerk.  
Afterwards, write a truthful review.  If the lady has alot of 9's and 10's and your time with her was amazing and fantastic do not write a review saying she' s a seven or six as if you are really tough on rating.  Usually providers don't need a tip but it really is nice to give her a good tip or even a gift, something to show her you appreciate the time with her.  Hope that helps.

Behave as though you were trying to make a good impression because, even though it is a business relationship, making a good first impression is still an excellent idea.  Be clean, be well groomed, be decently dressed, be on time, etc.  Don't do or say anything that would make her nervous and wonder if you are not who you seem to be, such as make clear references to specific acts or to money.  Just discreetly drop the envelop in an easily noticeable place but do not refer to it.  As a first timer, hopefully you have chosen an experienced provider for your first experience.  Follow her lead.  Good luck!

I totally agree Abby! Great advice

I just want to say thanks for all the helpful tips and advice. A social thanks to Abby for really taking the time to lay it all out.  I am hoping it goes well for both of us.

Nicely summary - well thought out!

You're welcome!!  

As you stick around, you'll learn I'm rarely short for words and I'm almost always pretty detailed. It's just how my brain works and no matter how hard I try to be concise, it's just not gonna happen.

I'm like this in person too. I'm a nurturer at heart, so I often deliver when given a chance to help someone else out...and the list wasn't just for you, either. I think some of those things are what a lot of providers *want* to say but they are just such delicate topics it's hard for them to bring them up (especially the hygiene part)....and I think that's universal for everyone. It's hard to be intimate with someone who has issues there.

Yes, you are paying us. Yes, we are here to serve you (to a certain extent. we're not slaves). However, YMMV greatly depending on your respect, hygiene, and basic attitude. It's really hard to provide a fantastic time when we're miserable and can't wait for the time to be over. Don't be that guy, and you'll do great!  

I'm excited to hear how it went!!!

xoxo
Abb

Make sure your fingernails are trimmed!  I'm pretty sure I don't have to explain why!

Seems like these type questions usually get a shitstorm of 'check the newbie board/do a search' replies so it was a pleasant surprise to read all of the helpful responses.

I'll add this: It's nerve-wracking at first but after you confirm everything is safe (LE check, no one else in room, no red flags), remind yourself that you are there for fun!  

It's easy to fall into an automatic 'get er done' mode or to be so nervous/excited that you forget to have a good time.

Also try to make it fun for her. Yeah, you're the customer but she might be tired or even a little worn down from seeing a few jerks, so making her feel at ease, making her laugh and then making her moan (don't force it though) will all combine to make it far more likely you'll have a great time.

I guess I'm a little surprised that some hobbyists need this tutorial, although I've heard from some ladies that some guys show up looking like they just got done working on their car all day! I spend more time cleaning, scrubbing, trimming, dressing than on the actual appointment! Do many guys show up nasty?

Totally agree... I patiently awaited my flaming but got the nicest most helpful tips I could have hoped for.  

Are a real gentleman, I know  
I don't get so many dirty -but disheveled yes...like they were in too much of a hurry to have fresh breath or they don't think  
To wash their hands. Clean hands...(waay important)

Of course there are bad cases, like you can still smell the other lady on them, or a man who sweats a lot naturally..... A man who keeps a beard should be extra cleanly with it..most guys I've met are pretty darn good about this.  
 Still it's good to remember this stuff..  

Here's one to think about: if you have to go #2 please try to get it done b4 our visit, not at the start....but if you must please, please -utilize the shower (or at least a washcloth