As I get older I no longer have the staying power I once did and feel I would not be able to last long enough to please the lady I was with - especially with all the beautiful ladies we have to choose from here in Minnesota! Am I crazy? Suggestions?

When she says to you "Take that thick thing out of your pants and make me yours with it", she's not talking about your cock - Regardless of how good or bad your sex-skills are, she's there to provide YOU with a service and you are there to provide her with a livelihood... Keep that front and center in your mind, talk openly to her about your shortcomings, BUY some extra "time" from her and get your rocks off!

 She sees several men per week, and experiences every level "performance" and her pleasure is NOT your goal, rather YOUR pleasure is HER goal! This is why you hired her in the first place and she understands this or she wouldn't be in the business!  

Do you also go to an appointment with your dentist and have him sit in the chair while you floss his teth for him?? NO! Clearly he has a plan in place in his personal life to take care of those "needs" long before you arrive at your appointment! And he is now there ONLY to charge you an exorbitant amount take care of your needs as long as you're able to pay the bill...  And so it is with your provider, She's there for you - ONLY, and if she's a good actress, she'll "act" plenty pleased for you if that's what gets you off...

And there's a lot of truth to that. I mean, your anxiety comes from wanting to know the provider is having a good time - why would she not feel the same about you having a good time?

I understand where you're coming from and even share some of that anxiety. But my experience is that being up-front about that with your full-service provider will lead to your still very much enjoying the session.

Not to mention that simply wanting the lady to have a good time makes you a 'gentleman client', which is usually a very good thing as well!

Communication is key ... Tell us what's on ypur mind ... also we want to know you are being pleasured ... That makes us happy but if that's not enough to get through the anxiety maybe these 2 suggestions can help:

1) daty or hand simulation first so you know she is satisfied (it can be just as good taking turns being pleased)

2) rub one out before hand (isn't this a first date rule or used when you think you might get lucky?)

A few more ideas in addition to Brilove's advice:

1. Don't forget about the possibility of store bought "Hobby Helpers". I have had good luck with these toys as long as your provider is game to get a little "Freaky" ... some are not. Also, go to the Mayo's web site and research meds. for whatever your condition is. Whether your challenge includes maintaining your wood, shooting early or shooting late ... they have medication for all of these things. Your Doctor can and will help.

2. Regarding ... "rub one out" ... I have no idea if this helps men with PE or not, but I love that Bri said it. How often do we hear hot women say ... "rub one out". Goodness ... I think this audio/visual scenario is getting stuck in my head. (Note to self: Ask my ATF provider to whisper ... "I want to watch you, rub one out" ... next time we see each other)

Oh my ... excuse me, I need to make an appointment.  

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Be a gentleman and let her do what she does best.  I don't doubt that the ladies enjoy it when their client is skilled as well but most of them aren't going to think less of you because you are older.  And FWIW, with the right lady, you might be surprised how well things go.

I have the same thoughts, too. I have found a massage therapist that does FS and I get uncharacteristically hard and long lasting when I am with her w/o drugs. Some will really do it for you. Keep looking. My issue is not with seduction, but with the lack of joy in my partner. I found one that is genuinely happy doing whatever and I am 30 years younger.

Just kidding.....
Take the advice offered that is appropriet for you. Spend some time practicing your oral skills, either licking or talking, most of the better ladies will respond possitively to both. Slow down, breath through it, think about baseball or an ex wife or whatever works for you. For me each Woman and experience is so different it is hard to predict how it is going to go.

You could give yourself a real treat by searching out a lady you are attracted to for multiple reasons and who offers a full gfe as well as having great massage skills. Then book enough time to relax and enjoy In multiple ways. Maybe try an extended date with oppertunity for multiple play times.

If all alse fails, there is the sure fire way to give every woman a truely satisfying experience; Do the laundry,  wash the dishes, clean the kitchen, this time of year you could shovel her sidewalk, and take the garbage out while she  watches Opra. Guaranteed

stick with it. If you're not satisfied pick another lovely lady, leave yourself relax and just allow her to give you pleasure.

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