Wondering if there is any wisdom out there on letting providers know about preferences for dress, style, mood of a date, etc. prior to the date.  On the one hand, discretion is always the best route, but on the other, I have some non sexual 'mood setters' I'd like to share to optomize my experience.  Don't want to raise alarms with the provider, so I do not bring it up.  Advice

Otherwise, I'd bring it up after the first time you see her, assuming you want to see her again

As long as you don't discuss sex and money together, I do not see a problem

I aim to please. If you're happier if I wear something in particular, I'm happy to help!

I wouldn't rock the boat on a first meeting, but once you've established yourself with a particular provider, you can make requests for certain things.

+1

with the heels, in profile...
be careful how you use that. The net effect is somewhere between a heart attack and an orgasm and I still haven't figured out which.