Ask to have your Testosterone and other hormones  evaluated. Your doctor will review yourr overall health status and provide you with viable alternatives. Good luck!

This person has something here. Doctors are all "medical", short on time and mostly just dish out Meds.  Such a topic is not suitable for discussion among most of our friend groups. Internet is full of garbage, often just fake trolls. Anyone in the common world will think you're nuts.  Providers are the most awesome people our planet has to offer. Someone hopefully will actually accept such a topic, be open and honest. Likely there is someone that will be playful and exploring of this. They are not judgmental. I've gotten some of the best feedback and perspectives from the individuals I've met in this space. Believe we all in the world have something to learn from providers. Wish you the best in finding your fit in this sexual exploration as I would call it. Everyone has their thing, this appears to be yours and thanks for being so open. Make sure you are kind and understanding to the partner you seek for this experience.  
So yes you should see a willing provider, you also might want to seek some ED medical solution to try that too.

If you’re paying for the providers time I highly doubt she’d say no to using a Fleshlight on you. Try getting exotic massages. Only a woman gets her hands in between your legs soft and slowly. I bet the magic is there