So I'm new to the hobby. As in, I haven't gotten comfortable enough to meet anyone yet. There are a few thing I'm running into.

1) I'm in a wheelchair and not sure when to bring it up. What I've been seeing is if I bring it up right away, I don't get any message back, but if someone were to show up and not be into it, I'm worried that could cause a bad situation. Thoughts? I'm also concerned that when people hear, "wheelchair" they think of the homeless guy riding around the skyway all day that doesn't have access to a regular place to bathe, when I'm more the suburban homeowner, corporate professional type, but I'm trying to walk a line between presenting myself well without sounding either arrogant or desperate knowing that most of the time people don't want to read multiple paragraphs about you.

2) I'm concerned about being a target because of the wheelchair thing. I'm really only looking at people that have quite a few reviews right now. I probably won't be in the hobby for long, or otherwise might have a regular more than a selection, but any other advice? I'm pretty limited in who I can see based on that (There are some great options, don't get me wrong) but while I'm willing to get verified, I just don't have much history right now, so I'm not sure that's a turnoff to some.

3) Because of the wheelchair, I'm really trying to focus on people that are a little more athletic looking or skinnier, hoping that there will be less downtime because this stuff can be strenuous work and I'm able to carry around less (but definitely not none) of the physical burden. I also want to find someone that is reasonably open to experiences, not necessarily the most unsafe ones, and I'm willing to pay closer to the high end of the market to get there, but I don't know how often the price listed is a base or all inclusive. It seems like it really depends? Being who I am, I hesitate to bring too much more cash than what I need. How often are upgrades available and what ballpark are we normally looking at?

Anyone have any tips or advice?
Any names of girls that have been open minded (DM if needed)?  
Do the more expensive traveling people tend to be on the less risky side of things?
Would it help to pay to get verified by a service?  

Thanks

Here are my thoughts; I have known two guys that were clients. The first one had polio and always had an aid with him. He did see or go on a lot of dates. I heard what he wanted or could do from other companions on his date." He was a great guy. I don't think he had any issues finding a date companion. Many local companions want to go out with a client with a disability. I have a disability and find that most escorts are thoughtful and helpful. One right off the bat that has said she likes to see clients with a disability is Kali.

The second guy I didn't know as much about, but I knew he did go out on dates. I would communicate with the companion that interests you to talk about it. I have never been rejected because of a disability. I have seen escorts nationwide with no issues because of a disability. So, Have fun!

Getting verified might be more challenging, depending on how much info you want to give her. I don't have much trust in those services because of what happened in the past. Any other questions you can DM me

I'm not in a wheelchair, and I've had my disability for over 40 years. I've seen escorts for over 30 years...think positive. I'm sure you know this, but if you do an incall, some places are not so wheelchair friendly. So you can have an outcall. If she doesn't do that, find another place like a hotel.

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Get yourself approved on preferred411.com. I takes a bit more effort without a provider that can vouch for you but if you allow them to do a brief background check on you, you can become a "client". Some providers on P411 require that new clients have seen/received okay(s) from an other P411 provider(s) but many, probably most, Accept All Members/Newbie Friendly. Within the provider's section for, "Other details for xxxx xxxx" the provider has the option to include "Disability Friendly" which indicates, "Companion is open to meeting with Admirers who have disabilities." A provider that does not indicate "Disability Friendly" does not mean that they won't see someone with a disability but the ones that do list it have at least considered the possibility.

Be safe and god luck!

Worst case she turns you down or maybe goes radio silent but at least you would know it was time to move on.  On the other hand, if you don't disclose it, then things may go fine until you meet her and if things go badly then everyone ends up unhappy.  If she knows what to expect going in then the odds of things going well improves.

I've seen many providers advertise that they are happy to entertain clients with disabilities so I don't think you should find it too hard to someone willing to show you a good time.

there are more than you would believe out there that are willing to see those of us with a disability. I speak from knowing first hand and also from the heart. I have been hobbying for over 25 years and the last 10 from my wheelchair and short distances with a  walker with only one year off while i was healing and rehabbing to even get into my wheelchair.  
I have found that as soon as you get the first response to your first message that is when it is important to break the news to the lady. Never come off as a victim of your condition but just honestly let them know that you are there to share with them and hope that they can agree to pamper you while the two of you share with each other.....and you will not disappoint (save the story for when she is in your arms cuz lots of times they do not want to read your autobiography as you are trying to connect)  
Some concerns are, you always have to ask about stairs to get to them, if I can get to the studio easy enough from where i need to park and travel with the walker then i attempt that. I have had ladies move their table or futon to a more convenient area of their studio once I proved to them that i was worth spending time with. your best results will be from the seasoned providers who actually care about what they provide and it seems the young gorgeous groups have not been that successful for me (and not for lack of trying). some will tell you up front that they are worried about you getting to them and will not even give you a chance to try. Others have actually met me at the short steps and carried my walker or chair up and inside while they tried to be discrete and we laughed about it after entering their space.
Hotel incall is always the easiest (if you trust that environment), due to access to their room via elevator but you will never enter the lobby without being obvious to everyone, so just be cool about just going straight to the elevators. Most travelling ladies are very willing to see you and usually stay in high end hotels. Maybe more expensive but you can check my reviews for some that I have seen that were absolute gems, a very fair price and all were more than willing to see this disabled old gigalo and invite me back. Some ladies take it as a challenge and the connection is very special as long as they treat you as others once you are together. For some of us, the disability will also restrict some of our stuff not working but probably no more than that same disability that just comes with our age if you know what i mean. Tell the lady that your dream is to provide full service to them and pamper to your hearts desire .
 I think you will not be disappointed with what you will find in this hobby if you are honest and up front with the lady. There are too many amazing providers out there and i am sure many of us on here can share names but maybe by DM alone. Good luck and stay safe as always.

Thanks everyone! I'm having a little bit of luck right now. Still no visits, but probably soon with one or two wonderful ladies.  

I've noticed that many of you seem to go to massage places for more than just a tug. It looks like that might generally be cheaper than the gfe providers for otherwise similar services? Or do those just upcharge a lot more?

I'm no expert on massage girls, but the few times I did it, there was an upcharge.

most of the massage ladies are very welling to disrobe and receive a blissful massage from you and i have never been asked for an upgrade but am always willing to leave a tip depending on the total session.....and some have moved close to a GFE experience with repeat visits if they enjoyed your massage the first time and actually invited you back..

I personally have quite a few clients that are in wheelchairs. I like to know in advance if I will be needing to do transfers ahead of time. I lift regularly and I have gotten pretty good with transfers over the years. I also fine it good to  have a  quick phone chat. That way we. can talk about your limitations and expectations. I do recommend scheduling at least 90 mins for your first appointment. That way you don't feel rushed with the fun if logistical things take a little longer.  

I hope you have wonderful first experience.

Andrea