TLDR: Thanks to relying too heavily on negative reviews left by vindictive scammers or other bad actors, I embarrassed myself in front of a very kind man.
I want to share this here for anyone to see: remember to take bad actors into consideration when looking at reviews. People can say anything behind a screen. I hate to be negative but it sure seems to lean in that direction due to anonymity.
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Thursday, I got a text from a person who is easily googleable and we had a nice chat about some of his very publicly available info.
I searched the number on a popular service and while his name popped up, I read the person contacting me was likely a catfish bc he would ghost in spite of screening.
The reviews saying he did show were 50/50 good things (one with a woman’s name signed to it).
The others said, “aggressive honestly would not see again” or ranted about how he’s a weirdo/clown.
I had multiple cancellations. One last minute led to me being in the hole for my room.
I focused on the good reviews and gave the person texting me my hotel info. I went to sleep thinking he wouldn’t show. I woke up to his messages that he was a few minutes away from my hotel.
When he walked into that elevator and was who he said, I immediately got sick with nervousness that he might truly be aggressive.
I rarely consider these paranoid things bc I trust the people I agree to meet! But this time it got in my head.
I’m not usually so emotional but I was up til 5 a.m. trying to book someone and woke up just in time for his 9 a.m. arrival. I was barely awake much less showered or fed, and low blood sugar affects me a lot.
I burst into tears!! 😭 WHY
I explained to him what happened; I psyched myself out into bad nerves. I didn’t mention that my tummy flips when I get upset.
Y’all this man comforted me, gave me my rate, and left to see a girl he knew.
Anyway, I left him a shining review with my name. I also told him next time (if) he wants, he has a prepaid appointment. I’m sure I scared him away.
