Sorry for the reference but you should have it YOUR WAY.  

Although it is nice to get some attention and many clients enjoy pleasing the woman, you are paying so it IS about you. For some of us ... Probably many providers ... It's exciting to cater to you!

Neither do I hire an escort because I'm looking for someone to "please" with my awesome skills...  

The main reason for hiring out for a service is because I've got a shitty job that needs doing and I don't want to do it myself, why some guys make it more complicated than that is beyond my ability to fathom...

It is not an unreasonable request, and it is your time, isn't it? Just ask prior to the date so she isn't surprised.... I don't think the right girl for you will be judgmental and condescending.

We hire a provider to provide.  If she pleasures the hobbyist with her activities and/or he pleasures her with his activities in order to bring him even more pleasure, (and in the best of worlds both take place) its still all about the hobbyist.  A perfect binez relationship.  We work hard for our money and enjoy spending it on pleasure activities.  Likewise the providers work hard for their money and I hope their time with me is not TOO painful.

My honest thought is that I receive a great amount of pleasure from giving. I do love receiving from my partner, don't get me wrong- but giving pleasure and spoiling my lover gives me great satisfaction of a different kind.  

I will add that in my experiences, the majority of my encounters are with gentlemen who are givers; in a typical GFE encounter, giving AND receiving equate the "norm" and that's what typically goes down. Pun intended...

I do completely agree its all about your wants & needs...however I believe more gents are also givers than not. There is not one thing wrong either way, it is about what the caller wants.

Personally,I get as much pleasure from giving as I do receiving.

Re: All about me....is this a problem?

Most of the gentlemen I have seen are givers also, and I totally get into that as well on my end, giving comes naturally and that's what I am here for. However, in my own mind the occasional appointment that just has the clients needs and that's it- well..I guess I just love sex and I can certainly wrap my mind fantasy around that too! I think somehow you can purvey your desires in a courteous way to who you are seeing also...

And it depends on who you see some ladies with limited menu getting off is about all you can do with them and there is times where that is all I want or all I have time for. Other times I want more. I once told a lady how much I miss just holding a women. My next visit she called and instructed me to come in lock the door and strip. When I came in she was in bed under the covers and I joined her there it was very nice very special. I like to repeat the more times I see someone the more I learn and the good ones will learn what you like. I have been surprised by how much some remember.

Hard part is finding the one that fits. And just because they are top rated dont mean you will click many a time I thought what was the big deal over rated but its differnt storkes for differnt folks.


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....it's your time and your money and with that I feel like i'm there to do what you like/for you to be able to do what you please (within reasons of safety of course lol). I'm naturally a people pleaser and try hard to make everyone happy so...if you like being selfish and just want to be served I LOVE IT.   But...I am a woman though so I like to be pleased but at least in the hobby anyways it's okay if my pleasure is second to yours (of course outside of the hobby lol it's sort of opposite but i'm nowhere near a selfish lover).  Some guys like spending the bulk of their time trying to please the provider because that's just what he wants to do....you're not some freak of nature if you just want to lay back and reap your reward .