I've been seeing providers for quite awhile.  

For me that’s a no. Personally I think it’s hypocritical that they want your real name and won’t give you theirs. I understand their need for safety, but who looks out for you? This hobby could turn a guys life upside down if his real info got out there. I’m not afraid to be outed, it’s more the hypocritical ness of wanting that information but not willing to provide it yourself? For me there has to be collateral information, if you want to know my info I’ll provide it in exchange for yours.  Not acceptable? Cool have a nice day, I’ll go give my money to the next willing provider and bust a nut with her.

I will never give out my real name. One provider saw my real name on my phone and a couple weeks later one of her co-workers lol asked me some personal questions already knowing the answers. I have had personal relationships with three providers (dating) but I got to know them very well and knew their names too. Those relationships are done and I only worry about one causing problems for me but not the other two. All three have dependency issues but the one could be vindictive.  So be very careful with your personal information.

Only the obvious.
I have no problem with them asking and I get it although it seems odd the references can't clear up the concerns. But then again I'm not in their shoes and am not privy to the circumstances that causes them to ask.  

In over 20 years now I don’t think I’ve been asked for my full name, existing references and white listings have been sufficient.  Here would be my advice:

One girl I wanted to see asked for my drivers license, work ID, work email and a selfie. I decided to look elsewhere.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d3i7ndJL9YQ&t=13s

If the provider is well known, been around and reviewed for a while, I am more apt to give my name.  I tend to mostly book through p411, so those providers risk losing p411 should they do anything untoward with my private info.  

I'm sure most providers would not use that information against you but most is not all and all it takes is one to really screw your life up.

I put myself in the camp of never providing my real name. Occasionally that means I need to use the big head and walk away from a desirable liaison. Usually when requested, I try negotiating (my standing with local providers and on p411 is solid), but that has only worked once in my experience. As others have said, it's not for me to question their rules on that anymore than I might about a CBJ, and there are plenty of options to keep me happy.

I have been doing this for a few decades and I have only ever provided personal information once.

There are quite a few very expensive ladies in other big cities that ask for a hell of a lot of info and they travel alot and are pretty prevalent on twitter. I have never noticed any of these ladies ever coming here and i don't think they would do well but I have seen it quite a bit where they want names, photo ids, work info, and all that or no date.

I agree with many of the sentiments expressed above.  It's hypocritical for them to ask for ours but not provide theirs.
Just move on to another.  There are many good ones available.
One day in Nov. I reached out to someone I had not seen before, had a date, time, and length of visit set, then she asked for something with my name and picture.  I declined and named 3 references and said I had more if needed.  I also briefly described myself.  After a couple hours of no response, I inquired if she was still interested.  Then she asked for a work badge or ID and said she wanted to know who she is meeting.  I said I couldn't do that and offered to meet her first in a public place.  No response.  I suggested that my references were safer; end of communication.
The best part is that I reached out to another provider who is one of the best I have encountered recently and have repeated with her.  Moral is: move on.  The grass may be greener on the other side of the fence.

I do appreciate all the feedback on this and it pretty much confirms what I've always felt.

How would you, like to be treated in the event that caca happens. Worst case scenario. Have you ever thought about it?

Do you give your real name to your clients?

There are plenty of providers you can without a reference that will then turn around and give you a good reference to use for future verification.  A couple of good provider references should be enough for the gal you want to see to ensure her safety. If she wants your actual identity then move on. This can only hurt you and potentially in a huge way.

That's a really weak argument, imo.  If I am dead her having my real life info does me no good at all.  I am dead and literally could not care less (or at all, actually).   Also not worried about becoming a John Doe, as I would be dead and would not care.   Realistically, I will be identified at some point, as missing persons reports will be filed and my identity will be discovered.  

I understand that you feel vulnerable, but you are not alone. I wish I could fix that, but I can't.  But the guy is vulnerable, too, especially if we have to divulge our real life details.  That is why so many of us refuse to provide it.  I suppose in many ways we are much bigger chickens than the ladies.

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I’ve heard about, even known a few, so-called “reputable” providers who turned out to be not quite as reputable as one might have hoped. 😞

My question is, what about real life info makes you feel safer? What does that provide to you that four reputable providers saying you are safe does not? To me, the only reason I can possible think of is leverage. You want leverage when things don’t go your way, but yet refuse to provide that same leverage to your client. That by definition is not equal treatment.  

I've seen plenty of reputable providers over the past nearly 20 years without giving them my name without any hint of malevolent intent on my part.  Provider references and a reputation for good behavior was good enough.  As far as the paranoia goes, the simple fact of the matter is that some providers have used client's personal information against clients.  And some of these providers were thought to be quite reputable.  Once that personal information is given out, we don't know where it might end up.  I understand providers are looking out for their own safety but please don't act like clients don't have concerns for their own well being.

Once again, without apologies, and totally unfiltered, the Rocket launches another unfiltered commentary....
And if you apply common sense and look at it objectively, is totally correct. Many fine providers accept references, and none of the past Providers I’ve had the pleasure of seeing would I ever consider “bargain bin” but rather first class.

A) I can literally remember a number of threads on the general boards where a client was outed by what you referred to as reputable providers years ago. I also have seen it on Twitter. Your reputation means nothing. You think guys book you because of your reputation?  They book you because they read the latest reviews and want that awesome dick sucking skills that you do (although in your case your recent reviews have not been that stellar).  

I agree totally. I’ll take fun and down to earth every time, and come to think of it, I’ll save enough for actually a “extra time”. Not to mention, we are lucky to have some really pretty “massage Gals” in the Twin Cities.