I set up an tentative appointment (we weren't sure what time it would be) with a very nice gentleman yesterday and had an emergency, my daughter got hit by a softball Poor baby!  I ran out of my apartment without  my phone, or my laptop so I couldn't email,  But I must admit, my thoughts were on my daughter...not on my work.  

You did the right thing taking care of your daughter first. We are all human and things happen.  
 I hope everything turns out good with the client but most importantly I hope your daughter is OK and doing well

Just be up front and appoligize.  We have all had emergencies happen from time to time.  Maybe an offer for a special on a future appointment.  But he should understand you have a personal life.

Kyra, you have a solid reputation

You are correct that we are people first with families, civi jobs, etc. Those are the things (frankly) that should take priority. ALWAYS! That goes for the gentlemen as well. It's completely understandable to me that your priority was to tend to your daughter without thought about grabbing the phone or laptop. What loving parent does that?! "Oh wait! Hold your ear so it doesn't fall off so I can grab my phone & laptop!" Duh...  

She's fine.  Bruised and swelling.  Thanks for the support!

Offer him an extra half hour or $50 off the same length appt.   He will appreciate the offer

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My main concern is that if his final email was "pretty bad,"  maybe he would be a pretty bad client.  I would personally remain polite if things fell through with no explanation, and just let the provider know that she could contact me in the future if she wants to explain and still wants to see me.  I was once on the receiving end of a NCNS, and I haven't even bothered outing the provider who did it to me on the board.  I just figure, her loss, and there are plenty of other ladies around here who are eligible for my love and affection.

I agree with the lovely Ms. Chayse. Offer up the story and apology, the discount or extra time is a nice touch. I know if it was me, I would still pay the originally agreed upon rate because Life Happens, but I would always know you are a stand up person.
It is a little sad though that he had written 4 emails in the course of the day and had even went to the dark side. One or two emails, ok, another one the next day, ok, but never get negative. It's worse that he was the one being visited. If he drove a long ways to see you, ok, maybe a little emotion should be expected. But come on, after realizing something must have happened, just pull up some porn and get rid of the evil juices.... LO

You are TOTALLY doing what you should do by emailing him AND all of TER letting us know that you are very professional.  As a mom, I would lose all respect if you had not handled your daughter as you did.  Your Karma is clear, Baby.

good point!  

for a while now and I've seen Providers burned at the stake for less.

Is that you didn't have a cell phone with you, especially in this day and age. If you say you didn't have your "provider" cell phone and only had your "real life" cell phone, that would be understandable.

Kyra, I read the responses from quality people like Trinity and Belinda (and everyone else).

I think you just set it right already...if he reads this thread.  Only a moron would not understand so if he doesn't it is no big loss.  Hope your daughter is okay as she is all that matters in the entire situation.

candy crush on was terrible.  The other thing was...we hadn't even confirmed the appointment.

First of all family always comes first and I can understand rushing out.  Personally I would rather have some extra time than a discount on the session.  If you are going to offer anything.  That would go a long way to showing sincerity.  Them the guy just has to decide if he is getting the truth or the run around.  I have told this story before.  I was NCNS'd by a lady once.  Several days later when I got a response to my emails, she said her mother had a heart attack and she never left the hospital from 6am until late night.  Well I had saw her about the time of our appointment on the street obviously on the way to a lake outing.  So a lady can say what ever she wants (I like to think I am getting the truth) and a guy sometimes has just gotta go by his gut feeling.  So to me an extended visit would help me believe.  And yes I know most ladies have many more NCNS's than I've ever had.  Lots all have some respect and be people of or words.

Hopefully he will accept your apology and be understanding of what happened.  This sort of thing is why I think it is wise to wait a while before a hobbyist or escort goes off and blasts someone for a NCNS either publicly or even privately.  Give the other person time to get back to you and see what they say.

The general feedback is that family comes first.  No brainer in my opinion, so no need to worry there.  Any guy should be able to figure that out.  I had a similar incident where a provider's family pet needed to see the vet, which pushed back our appt.  I wasn't exactly thrilled, but I understood the situation and was fine with the time delay (we had an awesome session regardless).  

Couldn't resist

to inform others ("publicly or even privately") of a NCNS and yet be innocent of "going off and blasting" the person who NCNS-ed?  I say "Yes".  (But my Spidey sense tells me that I may be in the minority on this one.)  For the record, I am also one who waits to hear from all parties involved in a NCNS report before drawing conclusions about anyone's behavior or reliability.

I specifically made it that way so no one would be implicated other than myself.

as bellinda said; explain, apologize, and offer to "make it right".  That's what the thoughtful do.

I particularly like the to horny part... LOL BTW, did he except the apology? :

...I'm know he has other issues going on in his life as well.  

I think it is perfectly fine to privately or publicly express your displeasure at being NCNS'd if you don't get some sort of reasonable explanation or apology.  Whether that still constitutes "blasting" is up to you.

"blasting"/bad form.  On the contrary.  But that doesn't answer the question.  The question is whether informing others of a NCNS, say by posting about it on TER, before receiving ANY explanation (reasonable or not) from the NCNS-er, makes one guilty of "blasting"/bad form.  As I said earlier, my view is that it does not.  I suspect you disagree.  That's fine -- I'm OK with my view being a minority one and have no need or desire to defend it against those who see things differently.  Mostly I wanted to get a sense of how minority my view might be.

while sitting in your car 10 minutes after your appointment time when you're mad about being NCNS it could be considered to be in bad form. In my opinion you should wait a few days for her to contact you. If she doesn't respond or try to make it right you should feel free to call her out on the public board. Doing that will often get a response from her even if she won't answer your emails but it can also shine the light on you if she baled out because of something you did or said.

Thanks to all for your empathetic responses and attempt to console this provider.

because I left my apartment without my phone or laptop.  

... in this case, I think you should have used your handle. You are challenging the facts presented here by a provider who used her handle, so we know who she is.  Since you publically challenged her story, i.e. called her a liar, I think it's only right that you identify yourself with your handle.  

I suspect that most of the time we would disagree.  But there might be situations where it would be appropriate.

"Fact of the matter is the story is fabricated since when I emailed to confirm our appointment for that evening this is the response I received:  
 
"Howdy...So...how does tomorrow look for you?" "

To all the folks who chimed in before knowing all the facts and realizing there are three sides to every story...SHAME ON YOU !

He normally is...nice, that is.

Without details, it's all smoke and thunder so I'll focus on options if you get NCNS'd (from a monger's point of view):