...and even times when it's better to just text me --like when I'm working-- and 80% of the time I still don't hear back.
Anyway. Maybe, in your case, add something to your voicemail greeting or in your ads asking callers to help out and leave specific, comfortable times it's best to be contacted if they have to leave messages.
And I would say that if they still don't leave specific times, don't call back. If they want to see you badly enough, they'll keep trying.
On a lighter note, given the common theme of most of us thinking with the other head, there's probably not enough blood to enable the memory to relay call-back times!
I hope this was helpful. ![]()
When we get calls that say "Hi, this is John. My number is 123-456-7890. I'd like to see you. Please give me a call." how long after the call is it ok to call?
In a perfect world they would tell me "Please call me at this number until 10pm and tomorrow 11-1pm or whatever."
Case in point. I had a VM that I picked up this morning at 10:15 while doing my bookwork. He had called at 8:30pm last night, Sunday. My phone was off for family reasons.
You guys are always saying how you never get called back, so I called him. After I said who I was, he just said "Not a good time." not real happily. I said I'm sorry and hung up.
Am I not in a catch22 here?
What should I have done, just not called him back? Oh--in the message he wanted to get together last night, or sometime this week.
Opinions please.
Hugs,
JD
I know it's been discussed before. I think it comes up every year.
When we get calls that say "Hi, this is John. My number is 123-456-7890. I'd like to see you. Please give me a call." how long after the call is it ok to call?
In a perfect world they would tell me "Please call me at this number until 10pm and tomorrow 11-1pm or whatever."
Case in point. I had a VM that I picked up this morning at 10:15 while doing my bookwork. He had called at 8:30pm last night, Sunday. My phone was off for family reasons.
You guys are always saying how you never get called back, so I called him. After I said who I was, he just said "Not a good time." not real happily. I said I'm sorry and hung up.
Am I not in a catch22 here?
What should I have done, just not called him back? Oh--in the message he wanted to get together last night, or sometime this week.
Opinions please.
Hugs,
JD
I don't call back. Unless it is less than five minutes after the VM was left.
Well this kind of answers one (of the countless questions) this newbie has, whether to even leave a VM. I just called someone earlier and hung up thinking that it would be bad to leave a message.
So, for the providers here, should I leave a message with a time to call and that is kosher?
OK, so after calling and NOT leaving a voicemail I e-mailed this girl to ask when would be a good time to call, then I saw your reply. So I called and left a voicemail. No response. First off, I had seen an ad was just posted on Backpages (though is highly and positively reviewed here), so I assumed this was not done automatically. Posting of the ad made my kind of assume she would be somewhat available. Numerous reasons of course exist as to why I have gotten no response.
So I guess the question is do I call again?
I certainly wouldn't put my hobby life on hold for her. There are way too many beautiful, & reputable ladies at your disposal. It's up to you. Your time & money is precious. I'm not a hobbyist but I would probable make someone else my primary goal & either move on completely, or put her on the back burner.
Best of luck to you luv!
Leann
...and even times when it's better to just text me --like when I'm working-- and 80% of the time I still don't hear back.
Anyway. Maybe, in your case, add something to your voicemail greeting or in your ads asking callers to help out and leave specific, comfortable times it's best to be contacted if they have to leave messages.
And I would say that if they still don't leave specific times, don't call back. If they want to see you badly enough, they'll keep trying.
On a lighter note, given the common theme of most of us thinking with the other head, there's probably not enough blood to enable the memory to relay call-back times!
I hope this was helpful. ![]()
When we get calls that say "Hi, this is John. My number is 123-456-7890. I'd like to see you. Please give me a call." how long after the call is it ok to call?
In a perfect world they would tell me "Please call me at this number until 10pm and tomorrow 11-1pm or whatever."
Case in point. I had a VM that I picked up this morning at 10:15 while doing my bookwork. He had called at 8:30pm last night, Sunday. My phone was off for family reasons.
You guys are always saying how you never get called back, so I called him. After I said who I was, he just said "Not a good time." not real happily. I said I'm sorry and hung up.
Am I not in a catch22 here?
What should I have done, just not called him back? Oh--in the message he wanted to get together last night, or sometime this week.
Opinions please.
Hugs,
JD
That idea sounds like an excellent way to handle the situation. When they get your voicemail greeting they will know what to include the information to avoid confusion about when CBs are OK. I've seen providers do this and also include other information in their greetings, such as if they are not available for a while, etc.
1. I am able to immediately return the call, i.e. within 5 minutes.
2. If not able to immediately return the call, if he states a specific time frame that he will be available to talk, I will try my best to call him....but even then I am not always able to.
I believe if he wants to see me, he will try again at least once. I would rather miss a date than call a gent at a bad time.
Great question, Jane!!!
Hugs, Belinda
I have no problem with being called back anytime on any of three phones. I always let the ladies know that. The worst they will do is wake me up. All guys should give OK times to call. Improves the chances of a meeting. It's really ain't hard to figure out. And ps judempls if you set up that meeting with jane can I attend. LOL
More often than not, if it isn't a good time, they can (calmly) say so, and then get back to me when it is good. If I don't call them back when it's a request, well...that's just not a good practice. They may think that I don't give a shit, and not call me back.
Emails are better for me, for initial contact. Once I have met someone, I give my phone number. Then you can discuss these details before someone's hand gets caught in the cookie jar!
Alantra
It's hard to know what to do at times, so I'll just keep hoping they'll leave instructions.
Thanks everyone for the suggestions. I appreciate it.
Play safe and have fun!
Hugs,
JD
about getting a call back should have a specific "hobby" phone and keep it turned off if they cannot talk. I always prefer to get a call back or a text. Just nice to know the Lady cares enough about her trade to be that professional.
I guess we have different view points when it comes to whether or not a call back is professional behavior. In this business I consider discretion the #1 priority. Therefor, in the event a gent is not specific about a call back time in his VM, I will assume calling him back more than 5 minutes after could very well put him in an awkward position. Taking such a risk (IMHO) is totally unprofessional. I have a responsibility to the hobbyist to do what ever I can to keep his secret, a secret. Even texting can be dangerous. To err is human. Phones can be laid down & forgotten. Wives can snoop. Wow! What a keen sense of smell they can have while on a mission! Lol! I am not ok with jeopardizing anyone's livelyhood. Just my personal view point.