I personally hate upsells but honestly I don't offer all services to everybody. I consider my self gfe but the true definition to me is bbj. I to offer this to everybody. I try to inform people my two different rates but it is hard
To discuss things  I find it ackward when I do , do it but I'm not going to do it for my plan rate.

This has to be my most hated part of the business aspect. The worst part is, it seems to work. The same gals stay around for years doing the same thing. If you don't drop the extra $$ you'll wish you stayed home. Yet, every once in a while, you'll read this great review of someone that (apparently) really loves upsells.

I'd much rather see a tiered menu up front than arrive to the surprise that we have to negotiate like I'm buying pork bellies on the exchange. That's some erotic stuff right there.

It's difficult to deal with an upsell when you're pants are down around your ankles. Not to mention the fact that she probably has some of your money already.

I've seen the reviews also which treat an upsell as though it's a normal and accepted part of the business. The only thing we can do is keep each other informed and walk away when we can.

For me, upsells, clock watching, playing with cell phone, and watching tv, are a sure fire mood killers. Clarifying every detail up front will save problems for everyone.

Then there's those of us that CLEARLY have rates for all budgets, are upfront about rates and yet they still don't get  it and try to negotiate the rate when arrived leaving room for upsells to occur.
That's a big mood killer : making it awkward by having to discuss rates after I've already played them out ahead of time.

I couldn't agree more. Although some may find it awkward, clarify the details up front and stick to them. If you desire more than you agreed to then you should expect to pay more. Poor communication starts wars. Conversly, good communication greatly increases the chance of a positive outcome. Broach all subjects up front or expect to have varying results. It's easier for all involved to walk away if you don't agree up front.....no harm no foul. Have fun out there boys and girls.

If I'm spending my hard earned money and am looking for true GFE, I want the reviews and rates to match their website and TER profile. I've done my homework and I want what $$$ pays for. In this situation, I expect the rates to be accurate.

I'm also a fan of erotic massage and expect upsells. Extras are extra so rarely do I visit a massage provider for her base rate. I bring a Ben along and see what else is on the unspoken menu. In this situation, upsells are a turn on.

Not for me. I'd much rather know the menu in advance, discuss the session briefly at the onset, drop the envelope and that's it. Seriously I don't understand how it can be a turn on, but that's why I had to ask the question and I appreciate your input.

What would be wrong with a wall menu?  And you would order by #.  She would say would you like to supersize that.  OK, being a bit of a smart ass.  But it might work.

Talking about it before or during is uncomfortable and indiscreet.

Afterwards if there are additional services available at a higher rate then let me know but do so at the end of the session so I can keep it in mind for any future visits.

Maybe this?