Ok, so I'm new to the Hobby but after seeing a provider a couple weeks ago, I've gotten several messages from her asking to meet up again. I'm not ready for a return visit, so I've politely responded that I'm not available. Should I: keep responding as I am and contact her when I'm ready, tell her to stop messaging me, or should I just ignore them?  

If it is the same provider associated with your one review, (perhaps) she has some cosmetic dental enhancements planned in the near future. Thus, she needs a quick influx of funds to pay for the enhancements.

Who knows maybe she has a huge crush on you and just wants to continue seeing you on a regular basis and you can take advantage of it. It is not all business for some people.

She has a crush on you
NEVER KNOW

No, it was a different provider. I just don't want to out anyone on a message board.  

Chances are she's looking for work and just trolling for a date. One particular provider likes to text and email me for more dates, she's a scammer and would never waste my time again on her. I would just ignore them, chances are she will still be there if you decide to see her again.

The lady contacting the original poster was not offering any level of free service.

I get an occasional PM from several different providers ... about once every week or two. Most of the time, I have either seen them before or we have exchanged PMs in the past. I think they are just checking in ... keeping the lines of communication open. I don't mind at all and actually find it flattering.

The last thing anyone here needs is to be guilted into seeing a girl again. I respect them, of course, but she is not fulfilling her role if she is constantly blasting messages.

it is definitely not normal or acceptable.

Locals should not need to do this as much.   IMO, since the emails are unwanted just respond with a polite "please remove me from your mailing list."    In my experience,  ladies don't want to be intrusive but do want you to know when they are visiting your city.

But this sounds different than that. If you're uncomfortable with the communication do like others have said...politely say thank you, I will contact you when I am ready to see you again. If she continues, ignore her messages and they will stop.  
Remember this is supposed to be fun, there are plenty of ladies here that will respect your boundaries.

totally agree i love little chats.
but like you said, if it gets out of hand
just tell the girl to please stop.
she should respect your wishes...

It is not for any other reason.
I was taught to send thank you notes and check in once in a great while to let my friends know someone cares about their existence.
If you think that's bad for a provider to do that so be it but I'll still continue my way of doing things as it's never caused an issue.  
However, if she's hitting you up for cash..that's a no-no and I would tell her to please stop texting you because you can't see her.

I suggest telling her you'll be in touch when you are ready to see her again.  If that doesn't work then you may need to tell her to not contact you anymore..

The majority of the comments in your post are irrelevant to the immediate discussion.

I'm nice to everyone regardless if they're P4P until they give me a reason not to be which is rare.

The original poster was inquiring if it was normal to be contacted for a repeat visit -- by a provider that he has only seen one time -- three times in one week.

...this has nothing to do with Vi's legitimate massage clients' feelings about other services she may offer. And, how do you know she engages in adult-related massage practices? Have you witnessed her doing so? And, aren't all of her clients adults? And, while we're on the subject, do you feel heavily reviewed visiting Providers should offer new clients a discount if they write a review on them; how about if they instead write a review for Vi? Speaking of Minnesota, are you surprised that the Vikings were going to make a move to acquire Manziel? Are you happy with their selection of Bridgewater? Bridgewater would make a good name for a chemical dependency treatment center... sail on silver girl, sail on by...

You are one radical hobbyist.

...stay on track, please. I asked you several questions and you're avoiding answering them, each of them are tangential to the OPs query just like those you posed to Vi. You don't get to ask me questions until you first answer mine.

A thank you note or checking in from time to time to say howdy, how ya doing is pretty typical but if she is hounding you to rebook particularly that many times in such a short period frankly is not only abnormal among reputable providers but tacky, unprofessional, & on the verge of stalking material.  

Bridgewater has huge upside.  Whether or not V's massage techniques do I can't answer that.  At one time he was considered a top three pick until he had a bad pro day.  As a freshman he ran and called plays for a pro style offense.  The question remains does he have the mental acuity to handle more complex offensive schemes and read complicated fast moving defenses.  Like many college players he won't be able to rely on his talents alone and needs to get better with his footwork, ball placement, and getting the ball out of his hand to minimize his sack total.  Pro football is a chess match and he'll need to learn and adjust.  It's always hard to predict incoming QB success but considering their current options looking at another QB can only help.  And yes he could lend his name to a treatment center, it has a nice ring to it.

that a provider should never initiate contact. As long as you are polite you should be able to clearly state what your preferences are for communication. Good providers will respect that.

...as our new assistant offensive coordinator in charge of Bridgewater's professional development. Congratulations!    

Sweet.  I'll probably be able to pull some of his leftover groupy talent in for myself.  

Posted By: Drumsticks

...as our new assistant offensive coordinator in charge of Bridgewater's professional development. Congratulations!    

I say just let her know I'll call you when I'm ready. she seems a bit desperate kind of a turn off

I will correspond with a friend if they write me first and ask how it looks for me in the next several weeks as far as schedule and send a few keeping them up to date, if no date is made, I discontinue until the next time. Other friends and I just enjoy corresponding and not always because of an upcoming date.  This year I have taken a few chances and written long time regulars VERY occasionally to let them know I have a special or an opening that might work for them, but I KNOW they are receptive to this because they have said beforehand it is ok and not intrusive.  Never the behavior of what is being discussed though, too bad who ever the lady is does not realize this is not conducive to good business behavior in the hobby, in fact the opposite,  or for that matter any business. JMHO

Thank you Drummy...
I don't wanna think about football right now but check back in the late sumer/ fall and I'll give my views hehe.
 IMO
There's nothing wrong with thank you cards OR Emails however, I know for a fact that it's not uncommon for some ladies to send "I need money" emails and texts.  
I would never do that myself because that's just tacky but I do on a rare occasion send emails to people that are registered on my website for secret specials etc.etc...
Also, I didn't say that any clients I know that this had happened to many times who shared that knowledge with me were on here .
This is not the only place on earth for hobbyists .

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