Minnesota
LEAVE
Elan you didn't look at the books cover and tell me to get out. We would never have the wonderful relationship we have now. 
Heheheheee
Yup, that's me, a modern Daniel Boone paving the way for those that follow in my tracks
....& I am grateful for the gem hunters. I also advise that those who are highly adverse to being disappointed to utilize the benefit of TER and the well reviewed gals.
When you really think about it, this one post, this one question, is THE question. It cuts right to the heart of the most hotly debated topic in all of hobbying, the topic that hurts more feelings and drives a greater wedge between the "teams" than all others combined.
And that is... What is this? What are we paying for? What do we as hobbyists deserve? What do you as providers deserve.
This is a unique business... It is on one hand a business and in some ways there is a cold, harsh reality to the free market. On the other hand it is deeply personal, so personal that we can't really compare it to any product or service. As with so many aspects of life where there is tension, neither side is unjustified.
At these kinds of prices, a hobbyist has every right to expect that a meeting will be absolutely amazing. From appearance, to demeanor, to services, if you are going to charge me these kind of dollars, then through your pricing, you have chosen to set the bar for yourself very high. I would call this expectation the customer-centric view, and it is absolutely fair, I am absolutely justified in feeling that way.
And yet, we are talking about real people with real feelings, and what some of us (like me) ache for even more than selfish pleasure, is to be "let in"... I want a provider to really show her true self, share some deep secrets of her own sexuality, and let me bask in her particular brand of feminine eroticism. I don't just want amazing service, I want to experience you and feel who you are in the way you touch me. You have every right to expect guys to be a little forgiving about everything not being exactly perfect, because what he is seeking is a human experience, not a perfect experience. I call this the provider-centric view, and it is absolutely fair, they are absolutely justified in feeling that way.
And so the battle lines are drawn. At these prices, I should be able to expect damn near perfection, AND no matter the price, a gal should be respected, cherished, and enjoyed "just because"... for no other reason than she has her own innate dignity that is in no way diminished by being a paid provider.
The whole story of our TER discussion community, since the beginning, has been the same... Every week a guy posts some variation on "I am not getting treated right for the amount of money I am paying" and often, because he's not careful or eloquent, he gets the shit beat out of him as a misogynistic woman hater--"a jackwad douche canoe" LOL. Every week a woman posts some variation on "what the hell do you guys expect from me, I am a person, and I have feelings, and I have good days and bad." And often, because she's not careful or eloquent, she just gets the shit beat out of her as a man hater. Rarely is the shit-beating deserved, it is usually a matter of your personal standing on the board, the mood of the board, and how carefully you chose your words to be benignly politically correct, so much so that you didn't even really get your point across.
And yet, in both cases, people are just asking for what they do, indeed, deserve, and somehow, we have to find a way to meet in the middle. Hobbyists deserve amazing, and providers deserve to be revered and cherished as-is.
So, after all the philosophical rant, where does that leave us?
I think if when you get there, it's such a let down that you really can't go through with it, that's fair.
a. If you feel like you have been scammed and there has been misrepresentation, then by all means, "adios!" You have every right to not have to have sex with someone you don't want to, that goes for both sides and it's non-negotiable. If the pics are fake, or there's a switch, or if she has a really big dick and you didn't know that, then feel free to scram.
b. If there hasn't been any misrepresentation, and it's just not your thing, and you just can't do it... Then be fair, be kind... "Crap, I just got paged back to work" is a whole lot nicer than "dayum you ugly." And leaving a tip is a whole lot nicer than just bolting. If she picked up a room just to meet you, or traveled to you, then she surely deserves that... Again, assuming that nothing's been misrepresented.
For myself, I have found that some of my very best meetings have been with very average looking gals. In my whole time in the hobby there's only been a few, maybe 3-5 "man, I just so wish I had my money back, that turned out to be a waste of time" meetings, and they were all with women that to me were visually hotties.
So I try to think of it in a provider-like way. Some of these gals, you go see them, and you're short, or fat, or bald, or whatever... (I am sadly all of those). And this woman opens the door, and seeing a guy that she is not attracted to, even in the least, she still invites you in, gives you a kiss, and you talk for a bit... And she looks for things in you... your voice, your mannerisms, your views, your sense of humor, whatever... She finds things about you that are appealing, are virtuous, and she latches on to those things... focuses on them, and uses them as a springboard to connect with you on a real level, and then just rock your world.
I have always found that to be the case for me as well. If I am not super-jazzed by what I see, I find that over the time I am there I end up finding things about that person that are very appealing anyway. And by the time I leave, that woman is actually very attractive to me physically. And it is not simply because I got lucky, it's so much more than that.
So for me, if there's no misrepresentation, I have always gone ahead, and I have never, ever been disappointed in doing so. Not once.
All I ask is that people remember... SHE is a human being and has an innate dignity just by virtue of her own existence, and neither being butt ugly, or being a provider, diminishes that in any way. HE is a human being and is a customer, he deserves to be respected for the fact that he is exchanging the fruits of his labor in return for something he needs to fulfill himself. Just because he has a penis, and money, doesn't make him deserve any less than any customer of any service. If we could all just agree on that, as a minimum baseline, so many of the squabbles would just go away, and the bickering that practically defines these forums would be obviated.
Holy crap I could use an oily handjob after all that.
And that is... What is this? What are we paying for? What do we as hobbyists deserve? What do you as providers deserve.
This is a unique business... It is on one hand a business and in some ways there is a cold, harsh reality to the free market. On the other hand it is deeply personal, so personal that we can't really compare it to any product or service. As with so many aspects of life where there is tension, neither side is unjustified.
At these kinds of prices, a hobbyist has every right to expect that a meeting will be absolutely amazing. From appearance, to demeanor, to services, if you are going to charge me these kind of dollars, then through your pricing, you have chosen to set the bar for yourself very high. I would call this expectation the customer-centric view, and it is absolutely fair, I am absolutely justified in feeling that way.
And yet, we are talking about real people with real feelings, and what some of us (like me) ache for even more than selfish pleasure, is to be "let in"... I want a provider to really show her true self, share some deep secrets of her own sexuality, and let me bask in her particular brand of feminine eroticism. I don't just want amazing service, I want to experience you and feel who you are in the way you touch me. You have every right to expect guys to be a little forgiving about everything not being exactly perfect, because what he is seeking is a human experience, not a perfect experience. I call this the provider-centric view, and it is absolutely fair, they are absolutely justified in feeling that way.
And so the battle lines are drawn. At these prices, I should be able to expect damn near perfection, AND no matter the price, a gal should be respected, cherished, and enjoyed "just because"... for no other reason than she has her own innate dignity that is in no way diminished by being a paid provider.
The whole story of our TER discussion community, since the beginning, has been the same... Every week a guy posts some variation on "I am not getting treated right for the amount of money I am paying" and often, because he's not careful or eloquent, he gets the shit beat out of him as a misogynistic woman hater--"a jackwad douche canoe" LOL. Every week a woman posts some variation on "what the hell do you guys expect from me, I am a person, and I have feelings, and I have good days and bad." And often, because she's not careful or eloquent, she just gets the shit beat out of her as a man hater. Rarely is the shit-beating deserved, it is usually a matter of your personal standing on the board, the mood of the board, and how carefully you chose your words to be benignly politically correct, so much so that you didn't even really get your point across.
And yet, in both cases, people are just asking for what they do, indeed, deserve, and somehow, we have to find a way to meet in the middle. Hobbyists deserve amazing, and providers deserve to be revered and cherished as-is.
So, after all the philosophical rant, where does that leave us?
I think if when you get there, it's such a let down that you really can't go through with it, that's fair.
a. If you feel like you have been scammed and there has been misrepresentation, then by all means, "adios!" You have every right to not have to have sex with someone you don't want to, that goes for both sides and it's non-negotiable. If the pics are fake, or there's a switch, or if she has a really big dick and you didn't know that, then feel free to scram.
b. If there hasn't been any misrepresentation, and it's just not your thing, and you just can't do it... Then be fair, be kind... "Crap, I just got paged back to work" is a whole lot nicer than "dayum you ugly." And leaving a tip is a whole lot nicer than just bolting. If she picked up a room just to meet you, or traveled to you, then she surely deserves that... Again, assuming that nothing's been misrepresented.
For myself, I have found that some of my very best meetings have been with very average looking gals. In my whole time in the hobby there's only been a few, maybe 3-5 "man, I just so wish I had my money back, that turned out to be a waste of time" meetings, and they were all with women that to me were visually hotties.
So I try to think of it in a provider-like way. Some of these gals, you go see them, and you're short, or fat, or bald, or whatever... (I am sadly all of those). And this woman opens the door, and seeing a guy that she is not attracted to, even in the least, she still invites you in, gives you a kiss, and you talk for a bit... And she looks for things in you... your voice, your mannerisms, your views, your sense of humor, whatever... She finds things about you that are appealing, are virtuous, and she latches on to those things... focuses on them, and uses them as a springboard to connect with you on a real level, and then just rock your world.
I have always found that to be the case for me as well. If I am not super-jazzed by what I see, I find that over the time I am there I end up finding things about that person that are very appealing anyway. And by the time I leave, that woman is actually very attractive to me physically. And it is not simply because I got lucky, it's so much more than that.
So for me, if there's no misrepresentation, I have always gone ahead, and I have never, ever been disappointed in doing so. Not once.
All I ask is that people remember... SHE is a human being and has an innate dignity just by virtue of her own existence, and neither being butt ugly, or being a provider, diminishes that in any way. HE is a human being and is a customer, he deserves to be respected for the fact that he is exchanging the fruits of his labor in return for something he needs to fulfill himself. Just because he has a penis, and money, doesn't make him deserve any less than any customer of any service. If we could all just agree on that, as a minimum baseline, so many of the squabbles would just go away, and the bickering that practically defines these forums would be obviated.
Holy crap I could use an oily handjob after all that.
Related Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zyejhWpEFtY
Anyway, yes. When this happened to me, the guy walked in, stared at me for about five seconds, said something like "no thanks" really loudly and rudely, then stormed out, slamming the door behind him. And yes, I cried for a little while 
(I do not have a thick skin, though I know you really need to have one for this business. I am a sensitive person who feels things deeply and cries easily, and I hate it, but there's nothing I can do about it).
To those who say they'd just dash off and leave the chick because she's committed the crime of you not being attracted to her (in a case where she hasn't misrepresented herself)-- I don't think you are gentlemen. And I only spend my time and charms on true gentlemen. 