Classy is just a word for pretentious snobs to assert that they are better than someone else. Trashy is just another word those snobs use to make the same assertion. Neither has anything to do with a girl being in the center of a cluster fuck. Both are more about the short-commings of the user needing to compensate and feel superior, than about the person they seek to devalue.

True "Romance" as the client of a hooker is either a farce, or an enigma - take your pick. Feeling "special" would be a result of whatever illusion she's chosen to create for the client and he's allowed himself to believe, or else he is delusional - take your pick.

Either way, her behavior whilst not in your company has no bearing on whatever illusion you want created for you during your scheduled time. That is, unless you are so fucking lame that her being way more fun than you, has completely crushed your pipe-dream of exclusivity.

As noted above, fucking men for money - promiscuity in general - would not be "classy" by conventional standards anyway. So if you subscribe to those ridiculous, bullshit, social stigmas, than dropping the stuffed envelope on the nightstand must be hugley deflating for you, and not worth your time.

If you're like most guys who do this, having fun should be enough. A gangbang girl sounds like a fun chick to me.  

How would that conversation go?

Yeah, uh, I hear you were the party favor in a gangbang, and I'd just like your reassurance that you will still think I'm special and be romantically interested in me, even though I think you're a trashy, classless whore. Could you please do something to change my mind? Thanks, sincerely, an emotional pigmy.

Is it just me or does it seem odd that a provider presents themselves as being upscale and classy but then participates in a gang bang?  Isn't a gang bang kind of the opposite of classy?  Men - do you think it is more trashy than classy?  I know there fun and amazing but it isn't romantic, seductive and GFE.  I've wanted to see a favorite local provider of late but now I'm hesitant because it would seem less special because of her recent behavior.  Thoughts?

It was either LuckyIrishPrick, or superbigdickstudpussywreckermachomancooldudebombpipelayer69, but I felt the last one might make my real identity too obvious.

the GB?  If not, how do you know it was trashy and NOT classy?    From what I have heard,  EVERYONE had a GREAT time and would attend the next GB...

Romantic, seductive and GFE, seems like you're looking for a normal relationship.     You do know, society- in general- thinks paying for pussy is trashy!!!  

For me and others (not that I'm speaking for others), attitude makes everything classy!  

My suggestion for you, be honest with your reply to our favorite local provider and she will show you CLASSY.....

The lady will fill your fantasy if it's a Gang Bang or a quiet GRE date.  You pick the setting and let her know what you're interests are.  Many ladies offer GFE or Pornstar sessions, GB would just be another options.

I can think of very few things hotter than the notion of a lady who you would least suspect of being a cock hungry subject of a gang bang.

"A Lady in public and a Whore in the bedroom." isn't that what all men want?

I would say go with what ever makes you feel comfortable. If you can't get past the image of her participating in a GB & the discomfort of that notion, it could very well impair your ability to get the most out of your session with her.

Have you tried talking to her about it? Sometimes that can help as well. I think the bottom line is, it's you money & you have a right to get all your expectations met.

A dirty mind is a terrible thing to waste and I would never do that, especially considering my own. In fact knowing a provider enjoyed this kind of activity would make me more inclined to visit her.

The BG label hardly fits here.  That term means lots of guys and one girl. This was a small, like-minded group, not a bunch of stangers standing in a line. More than one girl, more than one guy. By all indications, a good time was had by all.

So, if a bit of debauchery turns you off, to each his own. But why the need to complain in public and apparently call out someone specific? This could be a much more interesting and valid discussion without having to do that.

And just checking, you're OK with a double, right?

i have a feeling that for the OP there is more to this than meets the eye.

I totally want both

A classy lady that can bang with the best of them. OMG are you kidding? Sounds perfect to me.

LIP, you're my HERO!!  
Kisses,
HH

While other's opinions are nice to take in to consideration, your expectations are the only thing that matters. It makes no difference why you feel the way you do. Nor do I think it's worth stressing over, questioning, feeling bad about, ect. It is what it is. The point of seeing a lady is to have a great time w/o barriers that inhibit that ability. Do what's best for you.

I'll admit, I was at the party. I had a great time. All the ladies that attended were very well respected and classy.
I think a better word for the party may be an orgy. IMHO, GB may mean something bad or different to some people.
It has not change my respect for, or opinon of any of the ladies. They are all top-notch in my book.

Thanks for the input guys & gals - Some of you said some nice poignant things - It all comes down to what were comfortable with right.  I must admit - It's a fantasy and does sound amazingly fun

OMG i just started this hobby 11 months ago & now i have to quit because some ladies our not proper. This may influence other ladies to try improper activities. LOL lets just have some fun  with the lovely ladies available to us. All i have met have been great. Find what u like &  enjoy I will.

I thought you died!

It seems to me what bothers you is the idea that she was with however many men she was with in a short period of time (hours as opposed to a day or so) and that this was visible to other participants.

Now think about it.  The only thing that is stopping you from having the sort of experience you want with her is in your own head because you can still see her one-on-one.

So, really it is up to you.  If for whatever reason this bothers you enough that you don' t think you would enjoy seeing her then the answer is don't see her.  It's absolutely your choice but be honest with yourself and realize that it's not about what she did, it's about your reaction to it.

...oxymoron.  Yep!  You will be hated on this board by white knights and providers alike for posting what the silent majority believes.  Your being hesitant is far from a strange reaction as the behavior in question destroys the provider's previous created image.

You can call it an gangbang or orgy for that fact.  

I was the host and had incredible classy, sexy ladies present. The event was a HUGE Success! We had wonderful gentleman from Minnesota, even men flew in from out of state.  The environment was theme based "Playgirl", tasty appeziter's, wine/sodas and strictly screened. I totally take pride in what I present and luv planning it.

Each provider offers different services as someone mentioned above.

So if a provider offers foreign travels, does that make her trashy? No!

I have been in the swinging lifestyle for 13 yrs and have participated in many gangbangs, does that make me trashy? No! On that matter, most of the people at some of these parties are teachers, lawyers, etc...

Please do not judge a book by it's cover!

Since the event was such a success, I will be hosting another one in Minneapolis early spring!

Cheers!
Amber Monroe

So, what ratio works for you? What line won't you cross?  

Are you DTF as long as it's one guy “classily” paying for sex with one girl? Or is that a commonly held oxymoron you're willing to ignore?  Are you so judgmental, so stuck in the distant, evolutionary past that you wouldn't see a provider who's done, say, a double? You know, one JOHN and two girls?

Or does your judgmental dike break at three girls? Of course not; more likely two guys and one girl. Or is it about the total number of people in the room? What primal, hunter-gatherer genetics can't your mind overcome?

For all of us, like it or not, our knee-jerk reactions to almost everything have non-intellectual origins that linger on in a societal structure where their usefulness has long expired. In an age where we can know everything via Google and Wiki-fukn-pedia, how do we not understand the basics of evolutionary psychology? For the readers out there, someone has even written a primer: http://www.psych.ucsb.edu/research/cep/primer.html where you can jump to "Principle 5. Our modern skulls house a stone age mind."

It’s not rocket science. You're DTF because genetically speaking, you want offspring. And you are judgmental because you want those offspring to be yours. But, hey, there's good news!! It's the 21st fukn century and now we understand this. Now we worry about birth control and STDs instead of constantly and selfishly trying to pass on our genes.

All that said, it's quite OK to have any boundaries for yourself, but since this is the 21st fukn century, at least understand why you may cringe, why you are judgmental and perhaps then you'll shed some of the need to be so hostile.

Judging the judgmental, there's a modern oxymoron I can sink my teeth into!

I think sometimes it a fine line when u use the word trashy. I have ocd and I've cancelled because when I got to the girls place she didn't have a clean place so I figured she wasn't clean.. now with gang bang I probably would've used another name. To me a gang bang would be a lady taking it from 10 guys all in a row and not cleaning ur self off between guys.. those girls u stayed away from at party's in college cause u didn't want sloppy seconds. My ? Would be more r

Did the ladies clean everything after a guy did her?
Did she get dressed and go back out and enjoy the party again?
Or did she just lay in bed room and guys came in 1 after another and didn't leave the bedroom

That would definitely be trashy! And NOT at all how PROFESSIONALS act. These disgusting comments of YOUR idea of what took place at this event have NO merit WHATSOEVER and are complete ignorance. They absolutely fit in the realm of "judging a book by it's cover".....not at all what took place at this party. Absolutely disgusting!  I cant even begin to correct your ignorance, so I will just leave it at that.

I sure do luv you girl!

Let's get married!

Xoxo
Amber

Amber, You can't take her to Chicago, NOT FAIR!!! ) If you do get married, can I be in the wedding?? xoxo

You have to be very ignorant to think that at the party, the  people there were'nt professional and clean!! My God!! How RUDE to even think that way!!

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The men we see are classy, and so are we.    Some of us are very good at fulfilling certain fantasies- whether it be elegant romance or naughty gangbang- and we will enjoy each just as throughly.  I am sure she can provide you with the experience you seek, and make it very special.  The only issue I see  is whether or not you can drop preconceived notions at the door.  

Best of luck in whatever you decide.

XXXX