your schedule appt with a provider that has two reviews on TER but you had not seen before?  
"I hate to ask this but its bern a busy day so far. . Is there anyway u can provide your own condom? I dobt normally adk but I jyst use last one sorry to share." For me, there are two red flags here. But what do you think? All opinions welcome. I do not have VIP, so your response here would be appreciated. I not interested in putting down any provider, just wondering if my concerns would be obvious. I am not going to name the provider.

If she's been that busy, she should have more than enough money to go buy her own.  It would have been better if she'd asked to push your appt time back a bit, went to the store and bought more & you would have been none the wiser.  Because of that text message, you know that she has been busy boinking all day, so much so that she's run out of condoms.  This could happen to any lady who had a very busy day and didn't have more than enough condoms available (poor planning), but for her to mention her client volume/condom shortage to you is tacky, tacky, tacky.  Just my thoughts.

.....and she can't spell worth a damn!!!!!!!

...did you keep the appointment?
And, YUCK!  Tacky to say the least.  Happened to me once but she left out the "its been a busy day" part.  I kept my appointment.  Ha

I would want to vomit.

Be glad she warned you. Otherwise you could have a different session than you expect.

I always bring my own as a condom for round two can get scarce some times.

with unprotected DATY and BBBJ..        Go for it.  
   
                               I have a bridge in Brooklyn......

You would be giving all the information needed for a bust.  It's a cop's dream: they wouldn't even need to find a cute lady-cop who can act. They could have guys bust you when you walk in the door based only on what you've written.

I would prefer that a lady push the time back in such a situation, as another poster suggested.

If you think that she's legit and really want to see her, you could bring your own and not answer her directly. That would be safer.

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I would have canceled, although it shouldn't matter, I would spend the appointment time wondering if she'd gone through a 3 pack, 12 pack or gross (144) before I got there.

I will not keep any as I could not explain why I have them after the vasectomy 25 years ago and not having sex with her.  It gets tricky.

i keep it well stocked with variety of condoms,,  
a variety of flavored lubes for those with a sweet tooth  
Burning Desire Hot Cherry, NEVER leave home without it!!  
a bullet, a bunny, some handcuffs and honey...  

If money is an issue its always good to remember Planned Parenthood still to this day will give  
away condoms for free ... bags of em. No questions asked..  

The sky is not falling, the earth didnt crumble below your feet, locusts are not swarming you in hoards, its not the end of days,,  

She ran out of condoms, shit happens.

The whole "lets turn every conversation into a judgement of character" thing gets kind tiresome..
"I dont want to put a provider down or name any provider talk gives it that dramatic air of ominous dark overtone feeling that im sure set the mood of how this thread would go
someone cue the psycho theme song shall well .. maybe jaws,, noooo psycho..  

If she is stuck at incall with back to back and notices she ran out of condoms , its not out of this world to request that.. Actually it sound like what she did was more of a courtesy.. And giving you a heads up.  
What red flags are here ? The fact that she said that she just used her last one?  
Hellloooooo,, "service providers" some see more than one client per day...  
Were you saddened by not being her one and only ? lol
I mean, she even apologized to you because it lacks a certain decorum to let you know she just finished with her last client ,, was that the red flag?  because well, I guess you have to get over the fact that you were in line waiting for your "table to be served" while she was bussing her last table..  
ohhhhhh noooooooooozzzz,, she broke a cardinal sin or something.. lol  

Yes myself im overzealous about protection and always make sure im prepared, cause you never know when you gotta be a ho on the go
I dont see more than one client per day , so I myself dont run into this issue,,  
But I also do assistant work and touring providers no matter how prepared they are can run out of condoms relatively quickly on a full day if they allow MSOG.. and do CBJ..  
Hope for the best prepare for the worst , but running out of the essentials does can and will happen..  

I know first hand how hard some of these ladies work , to get you in at the time you requested, to space them so they have time to do the cleanup and look like a million bucks when you come to the door and give the appearance like you are the only person who matters , wearing the outfit you suggested,, oh lets not forget appt number 1 of the day was 20 minutes late which can back up the whole fucking day, and make things crazy, where ive seen providers go without getting a bite to eat, drink a bottle of water or even a minute to breathe ... Some of you are clueless to how hard these awesome women busts their butts to make you happy..  

so little shit like asking if you will bring some condoms seems so small in comparison..  

So what red flags are here.. this whole "How dare she ask such a thing" indignant tone thing really gets a lil over the top sometimes on tedious stuff..  

What red flag I see here, is that as hobbyists that you dont take equal responsibility and your own personal safety into consideration as being the counterpart to this playground and have your own condom stash either..  
You're adults just like we are and are equally responsible for your sexual health and care as we are and passing the buck doesnt give you a free card to pass the buck when it comes to protecting yourselves.  

Time to man up pal, and take some personal stake in your own damn self..  

Pfffffffftttttttt....  

Yours Truly,  
~Catty .. meow meow  

 


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But I'm surprised no one has yet mentioned what seems obvious to me: you have not yet met, and are not only discussing condoms but making an electronic record of it. What would you possibly need a condom for? Wink.  

That said, there is no way to know that she truly has been "boinking" all day long or how low she was running when she started the day off in the first place. It was beyond cheesy to mention her busy day, given the impression it gave. Gross.

Regardless, she was unprepared which to me equals unprofessional. Additionally, you guys can be prepared all you want but I would not use a condom that someone brought to the party. I know mine are new and safe, along with having the appropriate sizes for comfort and safety. It is NOT one size fits all. It takes an arsenal to be prepared.  

If I had received that text I would have backed out. It's a matter of personal tastes, expectations, and the caliber of lady you are dealing with.  That message most certainly did not come from the best Minnesota has to offer.  

Peace,

Astrid

The lady didn't realize the incall (shared) was out, so I went nearby to get some. I came back with a 12-pack and she got a chuckle out of that. It's still better than the provider who once showed up for an incall, told me her price only included a hj, and said it'd be another $100 for a cbj and she'd have to have her girlfriend bring a condom up to my room.

Bring one (or more) and have a good time. Some of you guys are wound WAY too tight!

That's a common LE ploy, as bringing a condom is proof that you intend to have sex. I would respond "why would I need a condom? I am shocked, SHOCKED, that your advertisement was for sexual services, and I have no choice but to cancel. You just missed out on the best game of canasta you would have ever had."

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that I had concerns based on her text. Remember, I've never met her before. She wrote me a long email afterward chastising me for my judgmental attitude. One thing I've learned in seven years of hobbying is to always trust your gut instinct. Even if she was legit, the whole thing about having a busy day and ran out of condoms really blew the wind out of my sails. She gave me the "Hello providers do see other clients" speech.  

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what she speaks about...

3rd paragraph!  Thank you Lady Astrid.

I do try to think in terms of the Providers side of the business and I have a hard time seeing accepting something as important as a condom on a first time date.  It would raise all kinds of alarms with me if the provider in question is either that trusting, or that naive.

And that's not saying that some people can't be trusted, but I think something that important should not be left to "maybe?".

I work in heavy industry and I NEVER accept someones word as towards wether or not my safety equipment is in working condition.

P.S.  I chuckled at the arsenal comment.

READ YOUR OWN WORDS   down a few threads

        Your bucking the odds.  Been in this hobby over 40 yrs. Off and on  All most always! played safe   all most always.      O.K. now.       But I don't believe you were my Doctor.   NOT so much the sex act as it is    being with a beautiful Woman .    Play safe, and take that equation out of it  You will enjoy just as much if not more.

Thank you for your opinion of my mental state, it's a misguided opinion but it does tell a lot about you.  There is also the fact that the providers I see are professional enough to be prepared for my visit

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You couldn't  have said it better!! Why oh why have a record of THAT & " tacky" sounds very much like good 'ol UNCLE LEO to me.....but hey that's how I think. I mean really ladies when is the last time you said you've been busy  
" boinking all day!!??" Come on really?! REALLY!!!??  Be careful babe!!

YEAH!  Can't ya just put one of them there fancy female condoms in and just go all day??

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Sometimes unexpected things happen.  But not knowing her puts a whole different spin on it.  If I was satisfied that the other two reviewers were reputable enough, I might go through with it but otherwise I would cancel, regardless of whether or not I was carrying my own.

Maybe she did it because she had come across a red flag of her own?   Maybe she got spooked by something.  Maybe she had heard something or read something like NBL and was trying to postpone or cancel  the session and didn't want to come right out and do it.  This is a give and take hobby,  give it a try and take what it gives you.   Maybe she didn't want a 10/10 review for a discount

 

There was a review not to long ago where the reviewer pointed out the fact that the provider recycled condoms. After use, she would wash em up, roll em and put them back into their packet.

When the client questioned her about this practice, she apparently didn't think much of it. His review stated she had several like these in her drawer.

Gross.....to say the least.

The whole placing yourself higher on a pedestal thing because of question about a condom

Professional Enough for your visit? I guess she lacks the level of class and sohpsitication that we all so much aspire to,, blah blah blah ,, *vomits*
You guys can be such snobs

I dont have an issue with a client bringing his own brand of condoms because maybe he has a particular brand he prefers that I dont have in my pleasure purse..
On other occasion, I carried the basics and the client brought his own because he infact did need The Magnums..

But 9 times out of 10, my pleasure purse has exactly what is needed..  

But this whole acting like you're better than someone else because they didnt word things they way you think it should be worded or said the way you think it should be said and the whole classy versus trashy and the putdowns get tedious and old..  

Some ladies just speak the truth, like "ive had a busy day" and some use a form of veiled decorum to add to the blinding fantasy that you pretend not to see multiple clients in a day and pretend he is your "only one" and your talking to customer number 5 and call it class..  

And then call it unprofessional if a fellow provider has the shitty happenstance of running out of the "needful things", she asked for a fucking condom and now she is satans spawn that we should burn at the stake and spurn with our righteous indignation?  

MUWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAAAAAA...  
Does anybody see how laughable some of these posts are ?  

I get that the delivery was maybe not the best choice, but she asked him to bring a condom for fucks sake..  

as a matter of fact I believe ive sent a text like that to my gay roommate who knows im a provider
lets follow subtext  
"Im sorry Ive had a busy day , I used my last condom, can you bring me some, sorry I know its an inconvenience"  
(( i run a production company FT and also PA for other providers FT as well as run errands and juggle mom duties as well, I have an appointment coming up and realized my pleasure purse was not as full as I like it to be, because I used my last condom on my last appointment from the night before, and forgot to grab a new box I knew he was on his way home so I could ask him to grab me some and the obligatory apology cause I know he just got off work and would be doing me a favor))  

The point is,, it does lack a little common sense but to place yourself on a fucking pedastal like you are the all knowing all seeing high priest or preistess of pussy and point the finger of CONDEMM-nation is getting a tad bit on the pretentious side..  
The whole premadonna snobbery coming from both sides of the playground is getting a bit much  

Where is the manual or the memo or the employee handbook that gets handed out Provider School that says mistakes cant be made, shit happens  

Im with a few of the guys here who are like ,, pony up and grab some condoms its not a big deal,, but apparently it was enough so to turn a condom conversation into "class" warfare..  

Im with Joe ,, some of you are wound way too tight,, and Bravo Rick for the Boyscout comment because hobbyists/clients should be equally responsible for the safety stuff.. and G550 for saying that there may be more to it and vorlon for his if its this way no big deal if its this way then id aire on the side of caution..  

But some of you and your sweeping pretentious is like walking into the perfume counter  at Macy's being forced to choke on the overpowering smell of Chanel mixed with a tinge of bullshit..

This week has been so negative in this community..
 from trash talking twit twitters, the loss of a great lady , and fellow providers putting down other providers because how "other" providers dont do it their way as a advantageous advertisement to their so called level of class..  

There seems to be lets get in on the trash talk hate fest versus just promoting what you love..  
And arent we all here because we love pleasure and this is a pleasure playground.. so how about we get back to playing

 
Seriously some of you need to get over yourselves ..  

~Cat

They make the best birthday gifts and christmas presents..  
Some people give out candles and tea in their gift baskets..  
my friends get pleasure purses and ho on the go bags..  

I go thrift shopping and get these great bags or purses and then fill them up with kink and fun for all my friends as gifts.. with little cards that say go forth, be fruitful but dont multiply ..

Every sexually active woman needs a ho on the go bag or pleasure purse  
guys and gals should take active participation in maintaining their sexual health it shouldnt be shouldered on one or the other ..  

~Cat xoxo

And maybe SOME PEOPLE SHOULD REALLY GROW UP & stop misplacing their own anger, jealousy....or whatever the hell it is that would make someone say such a thing!  
Remember to assume is to make an ass out of.......

Finally Understand why some people seem to always get SO MUCH BAD KARMA....
How pathetic.

Or wash them out!  
  I dunno, if they bring their own that's fine but to say to a client that she was busy & ran out . I'd probably cancel too .  
Anyway I also don't know why he is so concerned about safety? If I remember correctly he has no trouble putting a lady's incall location i;e her safety at risk.  

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I guess BBFS was not an option? Given her work load I think you should have at least cooperated with her and offered BBFS as an option. I think we are all too concerned about our own needs and safety. What about her needs? I am sure DATY would have been appreciated after her long day. Did you think of that?  

The spelling thing should be ignored. After all, she said it was a busy day. I am sure the same care and attention that went into her spelling would be shown to you.  

So, in a nutshell, I see no reason why you should have cancelled. She might always be busy like this and you may never get back in.

always go with your first instinct....   if its says "cancel", then cancel.   if it says "bring a couple condoms", then bring some.   when you think about it too much, that's when you make the wrong decision

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I only considered cancelling after the text. That is why I brought it here.

BRAVO!!

WOW I learn a lot from google. And I'm sorry to "think gossip" when I'm wrong I say I'm wrong. I don't know of any ones situation but my own & therefore will " learn" before I comment...or just not comment at all.
~Mindy

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Agreed Bri.  Much more disturbing than the other visuals.

Just buy the condoms. It has happened to me twice, I bought a box and gave them both times to the girls. Never once have I visited a provider that I have not driven by a Target or a pharmacy. Both thanked me no big deal. As far as the spelling, I am in no position to judge my texts have caused plenty of laughter on both sides.

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