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Why did you get started in P4P? Any regrets?
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Just curious about the reasons people enter the P4P (pay for pleasure) world.  
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Reason:
Started back in 2013 after getting cheated on by someone I really liked. I was foolish back then and believed in "the one". I was crushed emotionally and didn't want to put myself out there again. Wasn't looking for sex workers, but the topic randomly popped up on a non-sex forum. Out of curiosity, I googled the topic and was amazed with all the websites out there for Johns. My first time seeing a provider was bad. I left feeling guilty and dirty. Eventually learned to enjoy sessions with women after multiple visits. Don't see providers as frequently anymore due to retirement planning, but I still partake in the P4P world when I have time and extra money.  
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Regrets?
Wish I knew how much secrecy is needed when entering this world. I have specialized accounts, I make sure to use a different browser for P4P, I watch what I say in front of friends, I get tested for STDs in secret, I'll pull cash aside in increments to avoid withdrawing the full amount, etc.

My attempts at a new relationship floundered due to the difficulty of finding someone I was interested in who was both available and interested in me.  So, I ended up getting into P4P (strip clubs initially) because celibacy sucked.

It's been quite the ride and very enjoyable.  I lucked out in getting started in what I consider a golden age.  Met a lot of great ladies.

This is about the same reason as how I got into it.

 
It was strip clubs, then Massage parlors, the started to see companions.

 
Met alot of great people and still meeting alot of great people.

I'd been laid off a well paying job, run out of unemployment (was part of the 'jobless recovery' in 2003), had started a virtual assistant business that wasn't sufficient yet to float 2 households and a random google for flowers led me to FBSM. I'd thought about stripping but didn't like the public facing aspect and the inability to control who walked in the doors. Well gee, if I could make $150/hr for a nude rub-n-tug.... (more googling) oh wait ... I'm already naked and touchy-touchy and if I just do the thing, then I can make $250/hr! I've always been very sexually 'open' anyway so... done!🤩🥳  
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I spent 6yrs completely UTR building both businesses (and starting a third) and traveling the country before I decided to 'go public' in 2009 with face-in pics/reviews/website/advertising. Not long after that I sold the virtual assistant business (had 30 contractors and accounts across the country) and focused on EC and the other biz.... then eventually sold that and just enjoyed this side of life. Way less stress, way more fun, way more flexibility, for similar pay.
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Regrets... going on hiatus in 2013 to pursue a corporate thing. I'd juggled this and self-employment before but let myself get fear-mongered into thinking I couldn't juggle this and a corporate thing. I could have dialed this side back and made it fit around the other biz and that would have changed a lot of the difficulties that followed. As far as regrets around things *within* this realm.... aside from learning/growing pains (present in any industry/profession) ....absolutely none.

That's a story. Not just engaging, but exciting and brave. And nicely written too. Write a book next?

Someday, yes, I'll write my memoirs. Climbing a 60' mast to cut a shredded storm sail off so we could hoist a the two remaining battens that still had their cars intact after weathering a gale in the North Pacific... my first 'real job' of selling vacuums door to door and winding up nude in a hot tub with a half dozen strangers (actually happened twice, once with some Greeks/Sambuca and once with Japanese/sake🤭)... traveling 28 countries and counting... leading a yoga retreat... owner/operator of multiple boutique fitness franchise locations (plus other biz's)... a secret slutty side life.... living abroad over 6yrs now... 4 ex husbands... and oodles more... It might be an interesting read😜

Your life sounds more interesting than Xaviera Hollander whose memoir became a cultural phenomenon. That being over fifty years ago and you being a lot more attractive may make my point mute .

We all have a story to tell, hon. Mine just spans several more "lifetimes" than most people get to live🤭 I'll make sure you get a signed, advance copy if you like! (but it'll take another decade at least, I'm guessing)

I always find these stories interesting.

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