I have been around a while and have always been curious about this practice.

I have always seen and been told to act like a gentleman and not refer to sex acts during scheduling or during sessions.  That said it happens once a pair is comfortable with each other.

Keeping this in mind I can't help but wonder about menu options like Greek island tours and other acts that require extra prep and time by the lady.  Are these special circumstances not then available to first time clients or is talking sex ok when pertaining to such things?  

Feel free to PM if you don't wish to answer this on the general board.

... is to never discuss sex acts during booking or before a session with someone you've never met. Some ladies will state that they will discuss menu options and wardrobe requests only after you've been screened and vetted but before a session has taken place. Others would prefer only once the festivities have begun or during pillow talk. Oddly, I am aware of several Providers (not in MN) who are willing and able to provide Greek without prior notice or preparation. I've no idea how they can do that.  
I prefer to just enter into a session with a new lady expecting or asking nothing more than what's conventionally available and listed on their profile. I don't want to raise any red flags before I've met a lady but I'm very comfortable discussing future options once we've had a session. I find it easier to bring up these topics when the session is wrapping up and we're getting cleaned and dressed. It's more comfortable to discuss the business end of things during this time, I find.

I think it's always good to wait till you've met and even being naked when talking about such things will make a provider feel most comfortable. I had one once tell me this kind of conversation makes me vulnerable, so you can be vulnerable too by being naked when talking about extra sexual acts. Lmao

I don't know if the provider I was talking to had some trouble, it sure didn't seem like it, or maybe was overly paranoid, but to each their own. There is a place on p411 and maybe other place's where you could write down date preferences IMHO that's a smart option that way the provider might read it and come right out and ask you.  

I think the safest bet is just making sure not to ever refrence any acts with any financial talk. Say if you need to know an answer to both better just ask about one only.  
You can also talk hypothetical say something like my friend John likes whatever. Ha ha ha she might catch on your friend John is attached to you. Lmao

I've never been shot down doing so.

How can you not talk about sex acts during session? Point and gesture? Pantomimes? Pictionary?

We just did them.

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I was once.  She thought her website language was strong enough that I shouldn't have asked if I could ask.  It wasn't as clear to me as it was to her.  We both moved on. No hard feelings on my part.  Not sure about her.

it doesnt bother me to get questions like that.  It's when I have to use alternate screening methods and am already taking a bit of a risk that those questions make me nervous and push me to call off the appt.

I'm not sure sex acts themselves can't be talked about -- it's money that should never be mentioned.  Or tying the sex acts to an expected service -- quid pro quo.

For instance if I contact someone and state my sexual preferences, it has obligated no one to anything nor elicited promises or guarantees on their part.  They are just passive listeners.  Or in reverse they could wax on about their preferences.  In fact the Constitution protects this kind of free private speech.

It's that pesky quid pro quo, though, that you have to avoid.

I once had a scheduler text me the price just before I walked in the hotel door.  That scared me.  It turned out okay but man, I wish the scheduler hadn't done that