Was down in KC visiting some family and set up a session with the local young provider, independent girl.

We spent a lot of time talking.  She went into great detail of all the things she has to do to “keep up”.
As in keeping up with the Kardashians.  

She comes across as very confident but as we talked her insecurities came bubbling to the surface.  Told her how pretty she was, without these things and she would still be a beautiful woman.  What I got from her was, her friends and other providers were all doing it and if she didn’t she would lose business.

The fillers did exaggerate her cheeks and lips but not to an extreme.  I am a less is more kind of guy, girl next-door type.  But it made me ask the question is she doing it for me or is she doing it for her or because everyone is doing it?

The exaggerated eyelashes, the extra long fingernails, a spray tan, the hair extensions and fillers are the necessities to achieve today’s beauty standards?

Asking hobbyists and providers for their opinions on this.

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As KC is not you home city you saw a glammed up picture of someone new and acted on it. if  Instead of the prom date you were greeted  by the GND with a pony tail and cut offs and no makeup what would have been your first impression.
Secondly - now that you saw her and presumably had a good time would you expect the glam but and possibly the clean , no makeup, and real woman ?

Personally think a lot of makeup is overdone but there are a number of lovely ladies who are holding their age with not only the gym but also some Botox- which can help to a point but can also be overdone/
If paying $400 to whatever do expect some level of she was getting prepared to see me .

… when I told a provider who’d just gotten implants (with spectacular results) that she looked amazing, but I thought she looked great before with her perky B/C-cups. She gave me a “look” and said, “I did this for ME.”

Maybe other women have other reasons for adding to their natural attributes, but I learned to not try to guess why they did it and definitely to not comment to them on how good they looked before the change.

"I did this for me" is coping psychobabble. The reward accrues to them, but reward is acceptance of others.

… I know this woman well, and I assure you this wasn’t psychobabble.  

I didn't mean it applied to just this individual ... It is universal, men and women.

Is that because no one you know is ever straight with you?  All they give you is “coping psychobabble”?  Maybe that’s because they know you’ll call everything they say “coping psychobabble”.  It couldn’t just be how they honestly feel, right?

She thinks she will lose business and is feeling peer pressure.  It's unfortunate that she thinks she has to do all these things and I'd like to think she wouldn't really lose business, particularly if she has a fairly well established clientele.  Based on the conversations I've had with fellow hobbyists over the years, what she think she needs to do isn't something a lot of guys are looking for.  But there's only so much I know or think I know and maybe for some reason it does matter among her clientele.  In any event, its her life, her business, and her decision.