I found this post on another discussion board site and wanted to share it w/everyone...  Cheers! Renee East

"I have noticed a few posts here and in other forums lately wanting to know more about FBSM or wanting to know why people think FBSM is so great if in doesn't involve FS. Some of the replies to these inquires have indicated what most folks on this board know well, which is, that FBSM is so much more erotic and intimate than the other 'services', the fact that the client and provider don't engage in explicit sex goes nearly unnoticed in a good FBSM session. To be sure, a good FBSM session is highly sexual and erotic, just without the intercourse.

There are a number of reasons that FBSM is so highly rated. First and foremost are the providers themselves. The personal qualities and life styles of the FBSM providers reflect a great deal of compassion, intelligence, human interest, and a commitment to caring. Through their services they communicate that they enjoy working with their clients as much as we enjoy them. In other words, they like their jobs and it shows. This is infinitely more satisfying than being with a provider that doesn't like what she is doing, or who is in the business because of lifestyle or substance abuse issues. For these providers, it too shows in their work, through lack of attention, rushing, poor interactions, loss of intimacy, emotional instability, inability to relax or focus in the moment. The excellent personal qualities of the FBSM providers alone makes FBSM the 'Grand Dame" of the services.

Then there is the massage itself, which many have described as unrushed, nurturing, intimate, caring, healthy, relaxing, erotic, unashamed, deeply open and honest, and with no great expectations from either participant other than to relax and to be relaxed. It is this marvelous lack of expectation that is so terrific about FBSM. So often, the expectations for a particular experience mess up the actual experience, causing frustration and dissatisfaction that leaves us wanting something more--FBSM doesn't do that.

But wait, there's more. Other advantages are that we rarely see posts about FBSM providers not showing up or certainly not with the frequency of that for SWs, escorts, etc., and at any rate, no-shows are not considered to "come with the territory" in FBSM as in the other areas. You will also find that FBSM providers are much easier to contact (unless they are very busy) and are very responsible about their contacts. Also, we almost never hear the typical ROB stories such as: "I paid the money, got a 10 min. half-assed massage, and then she told me to leave or she would call her boyfriend." You also don't get hit up for tips or for more money after the session is started. Attempts to 'upgrade' the service or to renegotiate for more money, are a complete turnoff and you don't see it in FBSM. I think many guys would agree with me that, with FBSM providers, you simply don't get that feeling of being manipulated or pressured about the money. It's been my experience that the business end of FBSM is typically very, very low key.

Many FBSM provider appear more stable in their living situations. It seems that FBSM providers typically have their own apartments or homes and keep the same phone number and contact info for a long time. Even better is that they are emotionally stable and emotionally available and open to their clients. Most of the time you can carry on a serious or educated conversation with them and they will surprise you with extraordinary life experiences of true value. Or they will talk about school, their own life or friends, giggle, laugh at you, etc. In essence, in FBSM you get more of the whole person and that, in turn, makes me feel like a more whole person. So, when the focus of the session is FS only, a lot of what I just described is left out. This is way I think FBSM is so terrific." -sfredbook.com

Not all will agree, but I believe if FBSM is done well it can be as much or more satisfying than FS. There is a lot that goes into an erotic experience, i.e. first impressions, environment, smell, touch, personality, chemistry, expectation, skill, etc.

Just wanted to add that I know there are many FS companions who also provide wonderful, intimate, fufilling company. It is not limited to the FBSM community alone.

Cheers!
Renee East

-- Modified on 2/27/2005 3:34:05 PM

Whether someone desires a Massage or Full Service session is completely up to the wishes of the client.  

Post glowing diatribes about FBSM all you want, it's just not what a FS client is looking for.  

Chocolate ice cream may be great and all. But if I want strawberry, I want strawberry regardless of the storied history of chocolate.  

Now, if you offer me chocolate at 1/2 the price of strawberry, I might change my expectations and have some.  But at the same price? No way.

Same goes the other way 'round.  If a client prefers FBSM, there is no way you are going to convince him that FS is better.

-- Modified on 10/6/2005 9:12:03 AM

Here is what I said:

"Whether someone desires a Massage or Full Service session is completely up to the wishes of the client."

The client's "desires" or preferences are completely up to him.  How he spends his money is completely up to him.



 

-- Modified on 10/6/2005 9:12:22 AM

Thank you Renee for your clarification.  We guys have been a little testy (no pun intended) these past few months with all the challenges to our fun.  I have never had a genuine strictly FBSM session so I am not an expert.  I would wonder if having FBSM coupled with FS would cause an early death.  Or if it does not cause an instant coronary, is it strictly repugnant to the mind of a FBSM provider?  Okay, there's a little tongue in cheak here, but also a bit of a genuine question.  Enlighten us some more.
cmeflyhigh

I cannot speak for all massage/FBSM providers - we are all people and each is different. That said, FBSM is NOT a discounted FS session. The massage is the important part of the session. The finish is nice, but really inconsequential compared to how wonderful your whole body feels. Imagine that warm fuzzy dopey comfey feeling you get right after an orgasm - imagine that all over your whole body. Now imagine that sensation lasting the entire duration of the session - not just the last few minutes.

It really is an Art form involving psychological, environmental & biological influences. The provider's mentality is more nurse - not escort. "i'm really only interested in the finish" is flat out insulting to an FBSM provider. We are professionals who take pride in our skills. Sensual Massage is not about how much you can "get" from a girl, it is about how much they want to freely share with you. If you have to ask for it - it's not freely given.

Thats My 2 cents worth anyway...Any other providers like to chime in on this?

-Renee East

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