A couple threads down is what mnjohnny called a "Hey girls, the bucks are calling you" post. A guy has a sudden cancellation, or just finds himself with an empty evening and some cash, and posts a thread inviting available providers to contact him. One guy has done this four or five times that I recall, so it apparently has worked for him on occasion.

My question to you, providers, "Is this a cheap and disrespectful ploy by a jerk who is too lazy to do a little work for himself? Does the thought of responding make you feel like a streetwalker leaning into a car window to negotiate while her pimp looks on? Or is it a legitimate means of offering you a way to fill an otherwise empty evening, without cluttering up the mailboxes of the many women who don't happen to be available on such short notice?"

Let's assume short notice verification is not an issue. He's someone you've seen before and would see again, or at least has the props to make you comfortable. What is your visceral response when you see one of these posts? It's fine, let me check my calendar? Ewww, never? Whatever?

From a guy's perspective, I can sort of see the thrill of putting it out there without any idea who will respond. And any guys who have suffered a late cancellation (and since stuff happens in life, who hasn't?) can empathize at least a little with the frustrated impulse to take a shot in the dark and see what happens. But I also see how it might be considered pretty offensive by some. So please share your thoughts.

Consider my response to him.  That's not my response to just anyone.  I've been in private contact with him for some time, and I think he is a very respectful and fun person.  My desire to help him came from the loving feelings I already had looking forward to making him happy myself.  Since I am not available today, the next best thing I could think to offer was just a little help, since he seemed a bit frazzled (for the efforts), and I wanted to help.

If someone does not want to have anything to do with it, then just don't respond.  Some people just go overboard to the max.  I do not think he has gone overboard ever.  I have been watching these boards for some time, and I thought his post was completely fine.

Of course, I got curious and checked the Mn Ad board, and holy hell... That's the place to go to get some visual stimulation!!!

Have fun, people!  I love was SG says, It's just sex people!

Trinity

not clients.    I am sure it works for those who do it, though.    and whatever works is great!!  besides, its his board.

I like how you said 'personally'.  It's just your opinion without stating that something is flat out wrong (like law or something).  That's how I think this forum should be.

... let me expand on my WTF moment.  Also, I was VERY surprised to have PMs this morning from some well respected providers thanking me for that post.  I suspect very few ladies will want to comment on this because many do not want to challenge or confront the men on this board.  I have watched these ISO posts as well and while I'm sure it does work at times, what does it say to the others of us who go about our research with diligence and follow a providers instructions to contact her?  If we all started to do this, would the ladies appreciate it?  Judging from my mail today, probably not. I never said it was the "law" on this board that these posts should not be allowed, TER Admin is the only entity to set the "law" here.  In fact, in my post I said it was IMO (in my opinion).  This is a discussion board and we all are free to post comments.  

It is interesting to me that Trinity is defending Breadmaker.  Why?  Because several months ago I defended Breadmaker when Wadzilla was going after him every time he posted.  Remember the many "inbredmaker" comments?  I called Wadzilla on them.  I usually ignore Breadmaker now, but the post last night just hit me wrong.  My bad for commenting.  I should have just ignored him.

All I ever did was: 1. Try to help because I like the guy  2. Defend myself when MY name was brought up
and 3.  Try to make light-hearted jokes in the process of trying to be kind.

It is your opinion, and that is totally fine.  For the record, I like you, too, dude  I roll my eyes a lot when I see a few of my clients that I know are really cool banter on here.  They'd be so much more compassionate if they knew them and their stories and their compassion.  But one person takes something the wrong way and tries to draw his sword to defend, say... nothing really... but the sword has been drawn, and I shall fight!!!

I have gotten emails from people when I have 'defended' or supported you, too, but I have no reason not to like you, as you've always treated me well in word.  I only assume you'd be fun in person, as well.  I like to assume on the side of the positive.

In essence, I was just commenting my thoughts.  As you've stated, this is a discussion board.

I don't find it tacky so much but rather silly when someone has loads of resources but doesn't utilize them.
I'm guessing they just like being chased by a bunch of hot ladies . Xo V.

...maybe a poor choice of words and I only brought it up in relationship to my defense of him in the past.  And, oh yes, I know that several posters here don't like my contributions very much, course in my case my posting persona is not an "alter ego".   In person I am the same argumentative Dudley Do Right I am accused of being here and I do enjoy a sharp verbal repartee with people who can go toe to toe with me, ha, not in a session though.



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Check out the Vegas board (for one)- this is a common occurrence.  Chicago also.
And many high profile ladies will respond on the public forum- I can only imagine how many will PM him.

No worries Johnney!!!!  Your wisdom and guidence is very much appreciated.

As far as guys that post and hoping that ladies are going to contact him back, I have never contacted them back.  Either they have never posted a review period (probably a newbie that has no references anyway).  Or they have posted several reviews but not even one provider vouched for him on TER WhiteList.  I don't want to waste my time or his.

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Just didn't want to steal another's words without attribution.

And I don't intend the ladies should challenge or confront anyone. But if a bunch of respected providers come on this thread and simply say they would not respond to a post like that, maybe the posts will stop, or at least diminish. Probably I should have left out the "disrespectful jerk" language, but I was trying to highlight the opposing ways one could characterize "Hey girls" posts.

I find them a bit odd because it seems an unusual way of trying to set something up; you have no idea whether you will get a response from anyone you are interested in seeing.  But it's a discussion board; no reason to think that every thread will appeal to everyone.