That the reviews say more about the reviewer than the provider. I look at the over all style of the provider in the details to see if there is something that turns me on. Is she aggressive or shy? Does she like to talk or get right to sex? What service is her specialty? I don't care too much about the numbers given or the one off complaints that are not repeated in other reviews. I would not worry too much and just keep providing the same great service because there is a quiet majority that isn't going to take sides in an issue we know nothing about to save or burn some provider or hobbiest we don't know.
So I stand up for a fellow provider and open up a discussion about the mean ways in which some guys can write a review....
I ask why bother to write things in this way..(kinda sexiest -kinda mean.) I get some great feedback and couple of questions, so I try to reply to the questions my reply sits around for 3 to 4 hrs (as others get posted) finally my response gets posted sometime last night....
I really appreciated the positive feedback from the well balanced, healthy happy people that are members of TER.
Thank you.
I decide to ask for access to the provider only board again 2days ago but find out I was denied again, and again with no explanation. I'm wondering what the trick is to get accepted to the provider only board as I imagine it's a great place and nice way to help stay safe.
People on TER always talk about "back channel" I guess that means talking between members, with Pm-ing? Someone please correct me if I'm wrong on that.
I love communication in all forms however I believe some things should be left private. This is why I made an effort to be
Discreet when mentioning my topic yesterday about the mean reviewer... Maybe the whole thread was reported -who knows
But it was removed today, I'm not sure why and was not given a reason of course.
So I'm browsing shills and I find a person took the time to " shill" for me today (SUNDAY) yet it wasn't a shill......
The guys says-
"I emailed Mindy and she was very rude to me and I'm even whitelisted" this is what he wrote as my shill...so I wrote a lil lighthearted response about this not being very nice.
Yet my lighthearted remark is not allowed to be posted? I'm not sure why but TER says it's not allowed to post.
Yet they said his "Friday shill" is allowed and will remain.
So I'm looking for opinions? Why would TER do this? Doesn't it seem a slightly sexiest and ones sided? Am I missing something here?
It seems this member has now just invited people to " back channel" him so he can talk more smack about me?
I don't get it, I really think I'm a very nice person-yet I do have a brain and sometimes do speak my mind. I feel private emails are private and one shouldn't be allowed to get on this board to berate others.
Do any of you feel I berated the man who wrote a not so nice review & by me bringing this up I was out of line?
I guess I just wanted to open up a discussion that might make people think about how they chose to word their reviews. There seems to have been other talk allowed about review writing.........
Ok I'm done sounding like a pity party, but I AM hurt and confused at this weird behaviour by TER- namely how the
" Friday shill " is allowable.
Anybody have any thoughts on this?
I hope your all having a great Sunday so far =)
might have been that you quoted from the juicy details part of the review. That is VIP access only and against TER board posting policy, I do believe that you could post without that and you could do what you do.
And you can report the bad shill as it is not positive and I do believe that negative responses to shills is not allowed.
but why you decided to bring this poorly written review about another provider into the light is beyond me
I did report the "Friday shill" TER told me "the post is allowed"
I brought up the review because I felt it was needlessly rude & I wanted to open up a discussion on keeping it real but making an effort to not be so rude....it's a discussion -not everyone will want to participate-or agree, that should be ok.
Thank you very much, I completely didn't stop & think how in my response! I did quote a small part of the VIP deats...so true that was wrong of me, duh. Thanks for the insight 
Catch-22....
Looks like days ago the thread was removed and that was a good thing as certain guidelines of TER were crossed.
But to give this more and more attention is a catch 22... a bad review being a topic with so many re-iterations has more people reading the numbnuts review.
On the positive side many providers have a chance to identify a reviewer that needs to stick with the younger providers in their 20's... and there are not many of those in that age range that offer all that much when it comes to service.
-- Modified on 2/9/2014 1:55:05 PM
I do think before writing/talking & trust- I chose my words carefully and go out of my way to try NOT to offend. My post was one of comrade & NOT malice.
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....I did not see the offensive shill post and it must be gone now, there are just two positive shill posts on you from Friday. Thumper was right about one thing, critiques are not allowed on shill posts, they will be removed by TER as long as someone points them out to admin. Some morons here just can't resist taking a shot at a lady and the "damning with feint praise" as another poster put it, is just an example of bad behavior that most of us don't like.
As you have found out, TER's enforcement of its own policies are uneven at best. All of us have made mistakes when posting, most are not egregious and mean. I perfectly understood the point you were making and I think most here did.
TER guards the entrance to the Providers Only and Reviewers Only boards as if it was St Peter's Gate. Be patient, follow the rules the best you can and you will get in eventually.
I enjoy your posts and your pixs, keep it up!!
I have no bone to pick here.
Elan has been polite in her reply, and so there should be no surprise as to what her reply is meant to convey.
She is just simply stating, Think before you engage your mouth, Or fingers in this instance.
Mindy, you may very well have every good intention, to get reviewers to think about the content of their submitted reviews. To that I say, that it is an admirable effort.
However, you expressed more than an opinion, in the removed post, In which you drew a road map to the review, and then berated the reviewer on his selection of words, which set a particular tone in the review.
In essence, your post reads like you are the examiner of reviews, and if you see something you find offensive, you are going to point it out.
That my Dear, is TER Staff who has that function.
Berating, criticizing, scolding, harping are for the menfolk.
The board works better when womenfolk know their place.
Smile sweetly. Bend over when you serve so you show some cleavage and TER will go along quite nicely.
Now lets not twist the original subject into something else.
The offense that got the post removed, broke the rules. It is not about, what Mindy thinks, or feels, It is about what had been revealed in her original post.
She is quite welcome to express her opinion, All within the board rules.
Everyone can dislike his choice of words, or the tone that it sets, in the review. But in this case, even though a majority dislikes the review, this is not a democratic process. It was his choice to be rude, and malicious. And as stated prior, it says more about Him as an individual than the provider. correct ?
There you go again, twisting things to fit your agenda, Do you do this often ? like nit pick ?
Do you feel that you are always correct ?
The third and forth paragraphs, are directly connected to the first paragraph. I stated an opinion, in which I am referring to the now removed thread, further pointing out that she should avoid examining reviews, and then posting information that is against the rules. Correct ?
However, it is all moot now, considering that this entire thread has gotten very embarrassing for her to some degree.
yet i believe asking them in this forum is probably similar to asking a fundaminalist muslim or christian or jew why the bible and koran are the word of g*d.
u want to vent,unload, etc, u know my many contact modes. TER PM is NOT one of them!
I try to be kind when writing reviews, but have been challenged on occasion.
Some people are just rude. I would suggest that as long as the review is an honest description of what went on, people should not get bothered by it
I don't think you can make sense out of TER's policies as they seem to change at the whims of whoever is making the ruling.
Unfortunately I think providers need a tough skin to take part on these boards. I'd like to think that the average isn't as cruel or selfish but admit you wonder when reading here sometimes. It's not hard to write an honest review without being cruel. As long as there was no serious misrepresentation or lack of service I think the cruel reviewers are saying more about themselves than the provider. Don't think I'm alone there.
Hang in there Mindy. Hearts and souls like yours shine through, and I think a lot more see that than you might think from what you read here.
That the reviews say more about the reviewer than the provider. I look at the over all style of the provider in the details to see if there is something that turns me on. Is she aggressive or shy? Does she like to talk or get right to sex? What service is her specialty? I don't care too much about the numbers given or the one off complaints that are not repeated in other reviews. I would not worry too much and just keep providing the same great service because there is a quiet majority that isn't going to take sides in an issue we know nothing about to save or burn some provider or hobbiest we don't know.
Plus one for kcmn. Couldn't agree more. Well said
They ended up pulling the shill and not allowing your post. The reason for the comment on the shill was that I looked at the boards, saw the shill and thought I would contact you. Your response, while your opinion, was very dismissive and abrupt accusing me of being something I was not without basis. So I simply posted in response to the thread I had used to find you. I am sure you are a sweet and wonderful person to spend time with, but the whole discourse probably could have been better.
As far as the response, I actually don't disagree with what you wrote, ironically I think people will email, pm, or post things they would never say in person. And that is usually not a good thing
...opps...white knight is coming....run Forest run...
The last couple days have helped me clear things up a little. There is now one less lady on my lady of interest list.
Oh noooozzz some coward who hides behind an alias is going to pull the whole passive aggressive
" I guess thats one less lady im going to see " BS post..
Well , I guess thats one less asshole Mindy has to deal with being that she has had the opportunity to see lots of great clients... there are great shills made about her and one unknown pion little alias isnt going to make much of a difference
Let me point out something,, or maybe you should take a moment out of your "pretending to be cool" to take a look at her reviews...
Mindy is a great lady, she gives amazing service, she is well regarded by quite a few,, and there are perfectly good explanations as to why she got a review that was posted by a client who at some time was on the same IP as her,, to jump to the conclusion that she is posting fake reviews..
Another thing Ive noticed is the jackwad douche canoes who post the whole " I guess thats one less lady im going to see"
9 times out of 10 if you look at the reviews they write , are low end BP girls and basically are too cheap to pay for quality..
So ohhhh nooooo,, booo hooo.. the guy who shows he's never paid more than $150 for a ladies time is going to say he crossed you off his list , really doesnt hold much weight .. if anything it makes you look like a bigger ass..
oh noooooooooozzzzzzzz
Excuse me while I shed my one singular tear over some pansy who hides behind the internet to feign some illusion of importance ...
its like a disease,,
The exchange of money for pussy somehow grants them D&D magickal powers to lord over all..
Here's the thing about those powers,, they are only in your head..
You have no say over a womans business,, truly,,
Clients will see whoever they want to see regardless of the " i'm crossing you off my list" post..
Angry little man syndrome..
Ladies and Gentlemen just remember anytime someone pulls that
"im going to hump your leg and own you attitude"
just remember G.I.D.T
No magical power just my opinion and my choice.
This is why you post under an alias,,,
You know that providers DNS clients who act like assholes on the boards..
You wouldnt use your actual handle to post when you are being a dickwad because your P4P pool would get extremely shallow..
You dont like my attitude ?
boohoo,, go dust the sand out of your mangina, pull up your big boy manties and move on
You talk about choices?
You dont give women on this board the choice not to see you,,
You dont give them the opportunity to say no to you because you hide your identity behind the veil of an alias..
You're no different than a bait and switch..
Misinformed Consent.. is really no better than non-consent..
If you know a woman wouldnt see you if she knew who you really were how are you any different than a predator ?
So from the bottom of my heart ,,, THANKYOU for crossing me off your list
Seriously,, THANKYOU
~Ca
Maybe you should paste some of your forum highlights on your ads, so potential customers know who you REALLY are.
I have no opinion on any of this either way, other than to say I learned a new phrase, "jackwad douche canoes", which I plan to start using a lot more around in meetings around the office.
Yeah, but how do you find the right context? Do you use this phrase when speaking directly to the accused or more in a third person reference? If you direct it to a person, then it may come off as an insult. Looking for guidance because I would hate to look stupid by using it wrong.
My guess is that it was devised by someone with many years of Public Relations and Marketing experience. It's not for the casual conversation with the boss.
I would have used rotten cunt bucket but calling him a cunt would have implied warmth and depth and clearly thats lacking...
if you want to be fancy,, you can use "You sir are seriously lacking in testicular fortitude"
I also like to use douchebaggery jackassedness
Dickbag is kind of fun too...
But douche canoe just rolls off the tongue..
If you're this "polite" on the forum, I can only wonder how you'd be in a session?
Shame you don't seem to have many positive reviews...
if you want to be fancy,, you can use "You sir are seriously lacking in testicular fortitude"
I also like to use douchebaggery jackassedness
Dickbag is kind of fun too...
But douche canoe just rolls off the tongue..
Mindy, I'm sure you will have no hrtbrk over a couple of fuzzy bares who have really stepped up their game and reiterated(look it up,dumbos) they refuse to spend money for quality....the best thing here is many others have seen their true colors. You have done many providers a favor. Trin is right.....time to spend a vaca day with her.....
Where the hell did you come up with "they refuse to spend money for quality...."? Many of the top local and national ladies will be very surprised to find out they are not quality in your opinion.
Your right, no heartbreak over the people who don't care to ever meet me.
I'm a lil sad that TER will not pull this thread as I have been requesting ever since this became an "angry bash fest"...
I'm also sad that after the admin. Tried to imply that my reviewer was fake his post was never put up, he tried to say he would gladly send TER a copy of his DL and that it was an honest mistake( logging in to his TER while with me) but that post was never put up for the hours that others got to chime in on what the admin. said.
I invite anyone who read the BS about me yesterday to take a browse thru my reviewers and click on their name & look for yourself to see they are some very real, very nice, gentleman and as far as I can tell some of them had a very great time with me.... Like I said I did try to get this whole thing removed, but since the request has been closed I guess this thread will stay put......I tried like hell not to say anything else on this....but since so many others felt the need to comment- I just wanted to say my closing thoughts.
Happy Monday everyone,
~Mindy
Someone starts a thread with a point of view (kind of nice in a forum), it heats up, and your first thought is of HH. Do you think about her all the time? You need to get out more. Maybe meet a few people. Get laid or something...just a thought. Or just keep entertaining us. Either is Ok with me, not that my opinion on this matters to either of us.
I have seen everything you've written in the past week. All I sense in your intentions is good. Intentions are a big thing for me. They help me weigh other's and my own mistakes and attitudes. Your intentions are obviously not ill will towards anyone, and I am so sorry that this has gotten so out of hand.
I think it is high time we meet, and maybe I can give you a little taste of the vacation I like to offer!
ooxx,
Trin
always wins in my book..after all, what could go wrong?..better to ask what could go right with Trinity!!!
I have no comments on the rest of this post, especially how it went off on a few tangents near the end...and that I hope it ends soon lol.
I think it is high time we meet, and maybe I can give you a little taste of the vacation I like to offer!
ooxx,
Trin
mindyzurgirl when i come thru minnesota i hope you will be my girl