I commend others for giving back, especially to kids.  Perhaps another way of giving back would be to not work for the week of Christmas.

A couple years back, I remember we had no money for presents.  If it was not for the laws regarding the turning off of gas, we would not have had any warmth either.  I couldn't figure where the money was going, but I trusted his reasons.

I know the majority here are more responsible, and they put at least their children first in line of priorities, but just remember, for every one of you men who are responsible financially for your families, there are probably 5 who are not.

Please don't call this a victimless crime.  Give to the kids, no one here knows their story, it could be mine.

Notworthit, once again you've shown that you have accessed your hubby's TER account and are falsely posting under the guise of a hobbyist (or, at least trying to make us think so).
Children and families who are deprived of presents or heat for their home because Daddy is spending the family dollar on illegal activites are NOT victims of those crimes. They are victim's of Daddy's poor judgement and selfishness. The Victimization of America...really gets old.

Sex addiction then guess who the victims are in that... A thought provoking post, I say

Absurd only if you are so adamant to believe that this *hobby* (as some call it), does not hurt others.

Do you believe children and families WANT to be victims?  Sad that you are posting under the guise of a human being.....

Many of the providers I've met have children. So, I intend to see as many providers as I can this month to do my part to give to their kids.

Also, in honor of your wonderful suggestion, I will take the week of Christmas off from work and spend even more time with the lovely local ladies.

Finally, a number of the ladies are especially generous with their time and money around Christmas. See Miss Laura's post linked below. Even more reason to spend time with them.

Merry Christmas!

I dont have any kids...so there. Sorry about the no money for presents but Its not our fault you married a jerk.

The phrase "I couldn't figure where the money was going, but I trusted HIS reasons", strongly suggests that you are the wife of Notworthit, and have found out about his activities.

Although I couldn't agree with you more about children being more important than ANY piece of ass, your issues will be better served by adressing them privately. I sincerely believe that the men you will find here, are well aware of their financial limits.

If I am off base on your true identity, I apologize, and wish you a happy holiday season.

Every provider I've had the pleasure to meet has children.

Why don't you get your "holier than thou" attitude off this board?

job profession, their are individuals that take it to the extreme or cannot manage their emotions, finances or authority and give that particular hobby, etc a bad name. I would expect there may be a few of us hobbiests that are married and love their wife but are not sexually aroused by there spouse either because of physical appearance or some other reason and view this hobby exactly as that - a hobby - and a means to satisfy there hormones and still be with the one they love.

You opened this?....Why??

OK, here is a little game for you then:
Name this lady....

If your husband had lost all the money at a casino, would you now be standing out in front of Mystic Lake preaching to everyone that goes through the doors how they are hurting children?  The world is full of opportunity for people to be irresponsible.

I am sorry that things may have fallen apart for you and the original owner of the TER account you are now using.  But your husband's stupidity is really his own.  You know what Forrest Gump would say.  

I take wonderful care of my kids, they are top priority for me as I'm sure there are for all of the guys on here.  In fact they are such a priority that a lot of us are sticking it out with a mate that has failed us for the benefit of our kids.

You married someone who has failed you and let you down.  This makes one feel bitter and resentful.  I know the feeling perfectly.

I opened it because I couldn't resist your tempation.  My guess is Sherilyn Fenn?

Germane to the thread, IMO a hobby is a hobby, exercise some responsibility.

Great job on guessing the actress!
Now name this sexy lady....This should be more of a challenge!

Aren't girls with glasses sexy?

So you say that your husbands choice to get some ass somewhere else (possibly because you can or wont give it to him at home) makes your children victims?

Does this mean that a person that goes shopping, uses credit cards instead of paying cash, buys ciggarettes, alcohol, golf vacations, a trip hunting with the guys, a day scrap booking with the ladies, a 70 dollar was job or haircut/perm all should be crimes because the kids are victims?

Does this give you a clearer pictures of what the problem is, bad choices!

We all have choices on what we want to spend our money on...if a parent decides to spend it on something other than providing the essentials for their children, they happen to simply be selfish.  

But you better be willing to have your taxes raised to 70% of your income if you want to put all these parents behind bars for thinking of their own fun before their children.

BTW, what prevents you from paying the bills so your kids have food and heat?  Why is it that you feel it is your husbands sole responsibility?

If you are worried, open your own personal checking account, get a job and pay your bills so your kids are not victims.  If you need help, go talk to a few single parents that are very succesful!

I am not saying that any parent that pisses their money away on any frivelous enjoyment instead of paying the heat bill is right, but it IS a partnership, and if you dont have heat, you probably are not doing enough yourself to live within your means and bring home some bacon.

Just sayin...

and can't afford to buy his kids presents, and this makes them crime victims??!! That is REALLY fucked up thinking.

Actually this picture was easier, at least I think so.  It's got to be Rose McGowan, damn I love her!

I can direct you to a meeting if you are truly in need of one.  There are numerous 12 step SAA groups meeting nearly every day of the week in the TC area.  

If you are a wife or an SO, and you feel you have been victimized by a wondering spouse or BF,  then do something about it.  I mean REALLY DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT, if you must.  But, hacking into his TER account and trying to prove your point to people who will not listen is not helping you or your children.  It is not strengthening your relationship or your family.  It is not building your own inner strength.  It is not giving you courage to do what you ultimately know you must do.  Instead of working on  proving us WRONG for what we do, work on your relationship if you want to save it OR work on building a life alone with your children.  Spend your time and energy on something a little more useful and worthwhile.  You will feel much better about yourself and your children will be happier having a mother who is there for them wholeheartedly and happy.  

Good luck to you!
Belinda