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How to appropriately request a meet & greet with a provider?
newenthusiast 3 Reviews 1029 reads
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Sorry guys, I am hoping to hear from the girls on this one...

Suppose I was very interested in meeting a provider, but I wanted to meet her in person first to ensure her pictures were accurate and that our chemistry was present.

What is a good way to propose a meeting?  Should I offer to compensate her for her time, and suppose she is a new to the business provider?

Thanks for your thoughts to this hypothetical consideration.

wingman1346824 reads

A good way to propose a meeting is to ask her if she would meet you...half hour, cup of coffee, public place convenient for her.  Tends to make you both more comfortable with each other.
If things work out you make an appointment.  I've done it a few times and has worked well.
And, absolutely yes, you compensate her for her time.

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Cates451263 reads

A concern for me anyway about these M&Gs is that the proposed partner will sit there eyeing me....evaluating me......and imagine/talk himself right out of an appointment.  Otherwise....we meet at the appointment....you immediately determine that the chemistry is okay and we go for it.  I used to offer compensated M&Gs and more often than not...the first scenario happened.

Definitely compensate the time.  The amount?  To make it worthwhile..(keep in mind that she will jump through hoops to impress), I'd say at least half of her rate.  It doesn't matter that you're paying for the coffee or lunch.  You are taking time out her day for a "maybe".

Just some friendly thoughts and public service announcement.

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CharlotteG984 reads

I've been asked a few times and meeting out in public with someone is, personally, not my thing. Not that I'm not proud of my look and what I 'bring to the table', so to speak.  I personally tell people to come and visit me at my incall for a 30 minute session (being a Massage+ gal, my rates start fairly low in comparison to your standard Companion) and do a quick massage and try to figure out chemistry in that time frame.  

For your hopeful lady friend, perhaps you could propose coming by her incall for a small amount of time and prorate for her normal hour?  Nothing under 30 minutes though as that'd probably be a slap in the face for the amount of time she will spend just getting ready.  Just ask if there is a chance you two could chat and then you may also want to forward her this thread even so she knows you've been trying to figure out a fair way to approach this :-)

I hope that helps.  Again, this is just the way I like to do things and I know others have a totally different system.

Hugs,
CG

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oleoneeye1140 reads

Its a really good way to get mutually comfortable. But I have never paid for a m&g, ever. For those who really dont need the business that badly is not uncommon for them to require a fee and some of them actually list that fee on their ad or website. But many providers will look at it as worthwhile to meet off the clock for a quick coffee or cocktail. Dont expect an appt directly following though, but it could happen. Guys with a review history, P411 ok's, or TER whitelists should have no trouble with it. just my .02.

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turboted652 reads

I would like to inquire as to the end result of the meet and greets you describe (presumably taking place prior to having a session or even meeting the provider).

Did the meeting generally lead to (or not lead to) an appointment?

I feel that it takes a very confident provider to engage in such meet and greets. She must be confident in herself to offer a chance for rejection (the meet and greet not leading to an appointment).

Opinion:  My hobby history might be different if I engaged in pre-session meet and greets. The "real deal" in person is sometimes less (or more) appealing than their advertisements and reviews project.

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oleoneeye1391 reads

My experience has been good.  I would say that 4 out of 5 were successful.  It has worked best when there is no expectations of a date immediately following because then it is awkward if you don't want to follow through.  You meet, talk for 15 minutes, and generally both parties keep it positive and state an interest for the next step.  Its pretty rare for a provider not to be interested but she will never say otherwise and will simply ignore your request if thats the case.  You can simply say that it would be nice to meet again and that you will call her when ready.  If your interest is certain, then you can simply ask for an appt right then.  She will either respond affirmatively for date and time (and will suggest the same day if actually interested because she is probably not going to to a m&g on days she is not working) or she will simply say something like - I think that will work but call me the day before.  Its really not awkward at all.  Most people will pretend to be interested whether they are or not just to avoid the discomfort.  Its a very common first step with online dating such as when you might meet someone on match.com or something.  Not really any different than that.  

Bear in mind that the m&g approach is a very small percentage of the norm.  I have only done it when a) no half hour rate is offered, b) no photos and/or reviews available.  c) its a UTR lady d) was her request

As others have said, normally for a new provider that is a big unknown I opt for a half-hour deal just to mitigate the risks of being disappointed.  But many of the top notch providers do not provide that option.

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wingman13461360 reads

Great point...no expections of a date immediately following the M&G takes care of any discomfort.  Also, the place has to be discreet enough for both of you to be comfortable.  Discretion is key.  I've done this 4 times I think and every one has lead to a later date, with one exception which lead to
an immediate date...we both had a good vibe with each other and we could both tell immediately.  At least I could...she could have been acting...Lol

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missleah09886 reads

actually have a rate for such an occasion but I do.  Mine is on my website.  I would suggest checking a ladies website and if nothing is mentioned there I would simply ask her.  

Here at home I rarely meet strangers in public.  It is too easy to bump into somebody that either of us knows and that becomes very uncomfortable.  I was out to lunch with a gent. who is 59 and a chick from school bumped into us.  This chick was also his niece.  Hard explaining last one on the fly.  SO when somebody wants to meet ahead, I just have them stop by my incall.  Bring chicken wings and a pepsi and we can call it lunch, lol.  

In conclusion-We all have different policies and things that make us comfortable/uncomfortable so the best policy is to ask the lady.  :)

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vorlon1526 reads

But you should be aware that some ladies simply won't do this sort of thing.

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TrulyMsMocha734 reads

I'm all for if you say it politely it doesn't hurt to ask. If a lady doesn't have m&g rates on her website just ask would she do a simple meet and greet & what would be the compensation for her time if it is in fact different from her listed rates. Explain your nervousness....I find most of us ladies can be quite accomodating if you'll just level with us.  :)

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sxychic890 reads

I have done some M&G's and they have always been a good deciding factor to whether or not there is mutual interest, especially since some people will not provide a photo. I would never charge someone to take me out for dinner or cocktails and in my little amount of experience no action ever took place afterwards either, but a follow-up appointment was always made. Some people are more paranoid then others when seeing someone new so it's important to make sure you find what you are truly looking for and make the experience worth your time and money. A meet and greet is always a good time for me and the reason for the “date” is always understood by both. My .02

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