Most trouble comes from neighbors that have nothing else to do other than spy on their neighbors. Condos are the same trouble. Associations (neighborhood and condos) have rules and escorting is pretty clearly not going to be acceptable. And SOMEONE in that association will make it their business to be in your business.
Apartments and other rental properties are different. People are new and leaving all the time. People often don't know their neighbors, or care, and usually don't have kids to have a further concern about what is going on.
Hotels are what they are. Some care, some don't. Certain cities care more than others too, IMHO.
A nice country house in the middle of no where works out awesomely!! 
Anyone got one of those?
lol, you are right. Not so risky if out in the middle of no where, or if she is seriously low volume. But how can you know that, for sure?
Outcall to a client home is probably less risky than incall to an escort home (unless she lives on a farm!)
Posted By: aliciah
A nice country house in the middle of no where works out awesomely!!
Anyone got one of those?
I live on a farm and I have neighbors that would notice if a weed was out of place. Add a little extra traffic and their curiosity would really be aroused! Then the small town rumor mill gets going and your little place in the country is no longer very private at all.
Posted By: notafan
lol, you are right. Not so risky if out in the middle of no where, or if she is seriously low volume. But how can you know that, for sure?
Outcall to a client home is probably less risky than incall to an escort home (unless she lives on a farm!)
Posted By: aliciah
A nice country house in the middle of no where works out awesomely!!
Anyone got one of those?
I had a provider over a few times but only after we had seen each other several other times at hotels.
I figured if ended ready to keeling over after she destroyed me the hospital is only three blocks away!
those times when I've been in a provider's home more than meeting in a hotel. Seems like they feel more comfortable in familiar surroundings, which has made me comfortable, too. The ones I've seen in their homes all seem to have navigated the waters concerning neighbors well enough that it didn't seem to be an issue for them. But, I can understand if people have nosy neighbors, or the providers are high volume, etc. (The ones I've seen in their homes are mostly pretty low volume, I think.)
Assuming mutual screening has been done WELL, your home can be very safe (taking into account some of the other comments already posted). Your rights to privacy are much greater in your place than anywhere else.
That said, I would want to enter a VERY clean, depersonalized, upscale feeling environment. I don't want to see pics of the S.O. or kids on the wall or side table, dishes in the sink, male shoes parked near the door ... just for starters. And the bedding should be and look obviously fresh. Keeping the fantasy somewhat alive for a session is important (to me, anyway; I know that everyone is different).
Posted By: AlluringNatalie
Curious about it - what you think as clients, worries that other providers have about security and trust, and whether it is appropriate or not?
That depends on your fantasy. I kind of like the "other man" feeling I get when I go to a providers home. And I certainly like the more relaxed attitude most seem to have at home.
I have felt a little "spied on" coming and going a couple times, when it's been a home in a neighborhood, but that might well have been just me. I think the safest is at an apt in a larger building. Very easy parking, coming and going...thin walls are the only drawback in that situation!
A VERY important thing to consider before using your home (this does not include big apartment buildings or anything like that):
If you get caught doing something you shouldn't be there and you own the property, I have heard from my lawyer that they can end up taking the property from you. I don't know all of the reasoning for why (tax evasion and forwarding it to the IRS or whatever the reasoning) but all the same, I have heard that it is very real possibility.
You may say, "I know/love all my neighbors and they know I do massage/have retail in my home/do computer consulting from home/am an artist/ect". That's fine and dandy but even the nicest of neighbors will call in if there is only men coming and going from your place. So be sure as many women are coming and going as well if you insist on working from there.
It's pretty easy for any hobbiest to find out anything they'd like to know about you once they have your home address. Don't be surprised if you get them cyber-stalking you, giving you a drunk visit at 5am on a Sunday or something even worse. (Cyber-stalking and a drunk visit have both happened to me and they are jarring and inconvenient, to say the least).
I, personally, think that a studio away from your home or a large apartment building in a "Just OK" neighborhood is best. You don't want to be in an apartment in some of the more elite neighborhoods but you won't want the clients that would be willing to see you in North Minneapolis either. Or I don't, at least but that's up to personal preference.
Just my thought. I have worked out of homes, duplexes, condos, apartments, house rentals, hotels and private/professional studios so I have had my taste of it all : D
I hope that helps...
Posted By: AlluringNatalie
Curious about it - what you think as clients, worries that other providers have about security and trust, and whether it is appropriate or not?
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Over decades of hobbying, the only serious personal threats that I have suffered, other than being ripped off (which were always outcall to my hotel room) were when visiting a provider at her residence. Here's a recap:
- mugged by bf/pimp - this has happened twice, and both times were with providers I had not seen before.
- LE is knocking on door 10 minutes after I arrived. this was to a provider I had seen several times previously. Spent 30 minutes asserting my civil rights, and luckily so did she and also luckily she had no drugs in the home. They finally gave up and left. This was a very upscale condo in a very upscale suburb and the neighbors had complained to the landlord.
- I have known of at least a dozen providers over the years who, having hosted for regular-clients-only at their residence, have suffered a myriad of serious problems with former clients that they had cut off due to breaches of provider/client boundaries. These guys would become stalkers, and some had gone as far as reporting the woman to LE, outing them to family and employers, showing up unannounced when other clients were there, etc.
- I have known of at least 6 providers who were harassed or arrested at their residence because of a neighbor's complaint to LE.
Bottom line, while it may make economic sense, its got its own set of risks.
People who get in money or LE trouble, or who just reach their own snapping point re depression or whatever, can change abruptly. Recent references are not a guarantee, but go a long way.
Some of those risks can be mitigated if the setup is such that traffic to and from the location is not easily observed by the neighbors and only seeing known legit providers but some of those risks, particularly to the provider in the case of clients who step over the proper boundaries, are not so easy o get rid of.
From experience...if a provider is hosting from their home...the set up is perfect if they have a apartment/condo that has two enterance's...no door man..have to get in by security code...if they only see 2 to 3 men a day, that is perfect...be respectful and not loud...
It can work because I have done it!
Xoxo
Amber
