I want to hear from providers tips for making things go well the first time you meet someone new. I am not looking for basic obvious stuff like take a shower and brush teeth but more like things guys would not normally think about. Like nice restaurants or hotels in the area or let them make the first move or don't talk about xyz or make sure you bring blah. You can also PM me if you think it will get flamed or infringe on privacy

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Sure, it's great when you hit it off with someone, or at least appear to.  Most providers -- at leaast the well-reviewed ones -- will be happy to see you, cordial and friendly and you should leave with a smile on your face.  

But like you more than any other guy who showers freshly, brushes his teeth, observes rules?  Providers are human.  That's a matter of chemistry, my friend.

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Sir,...be clean, be respectful, adhere to her limitations.  She will do the rest.  She will make you feel like the only man on earth.  But only for the time you requested.  Enjoy the charms of our beautiful women and then, let it be.

Things to avoid on a first date so a provider will allow you to visit again (aka not hate you, aka... possibly like you!)  

Do NOT  

-Burp in her face, in her pussy, or in her ear. This is a turn off for some women.  
-Ask many questions about her personal life, relationships, money, or business, this can put women on the defense possibly making them avoid a second date if they deem you suspicious or dangerous.  
-Bring out the crack pipe. While this may work with some women, the majority will not enjoy it.  
-Discuss gossip about other providers and hobbyists. What will you say about the first date you have with the provider you're talking with? This is a turn off for some women.  
-Bite a clit. Once is an accident, twice is a habit. If it hurts enough she may not invite you back.
-Forget the envelope or short the woman. This is an automatic SEE YA NEVER in may books.  
-Wait to take your daily dump til right before you see her. This is a turn off for most women. If you need to go, go to McDonald's first and blow their bathroom up, not ours! This is courteous, and we'd do the same for you.  
-Video tape the session. This can be considered dangerous and a huge invasion of privacy to some women. Please always ask before photographing or videotaping; many women will blacklist a guy for breaking such boundaries.  
-Engage in BDSM actions without consent from the provider. This can frighten women and be an automatic blacklist in their book. Always ask before acting.  

Avoid the above situations and you should be an enjoyable lay!  

Some things you can do if you want to know what she likes:
Ask what she likes
Observe her reactions to you
Ask again
Kiss her all over... who doesn't like that  
Ask if she has a fantasy
Act out the fantasy
Kiss her all over again

 

xoxo
Natalie

AlastiNatalie you have totally made my day. Besides giving me great advice I am sitting here with the biggest smilie on my imagining some guy with his head between some gorgeous lady's legs, looking up at her shocked face saying "What? I my country that is the highest form of compliment" ROFL

Natalie you forgot one on the hate side....do pass gas while she's giving you oral

Kc...I'd say if want them to like you I'd comment them on their looks..keep the conversation light hearted..thank them for seeing you..write a good review of your experience (if it was good).

I had a provider tell me that I helped her cross a fantasy off her bucket list and that started because in asked her about her fantasies.

I love the guy who always brings me a lottery ticket!  
I found this to be so sweet,
Any little gift will do or telling a funny joke, I would think as a hobbyist you want to stand out
& be remembered so the trinket /gift is always a nice gesture..
Compliment,compliment! you would be surprised at  
How often I have to physc myself out of a nagging thought about some small worry, & sometimes the right compliment  
At the right time does it for me!
       Words like feels good, oops, do you like,I like it when.... All go along way.  
As someone else mentioned DO NOT ask too many questions- outside the fun realm.
            Please stay away from such LE cliches as....
1. So...how long you been doing this?
2. But____ isn't your real name right?
3. What made you decide to do this?
4. What's your time worth again?!  
Oh and a big pet peeve please don't be like "ok what are your rules?"
There are so many ways to say this after getting more comfortable and relaxed, many less jarring ways too,like just let me know if something I do bothers you...or the nice way of gently asking as you flirt " have you ever?" Or do you? WAY better!
        I know these things are not universal to what all providers like & maybe I have these suggestions because I'm still new. But this is how I personally feel now. =)
And for real DO NOT be shy....there is NO reason a man should be afraid to lean over n kiss or touch a lovely woman.
Oh ya & if you like me enough to visit, why not take a look at my website b4 hand so you know a little about me. =)
Great things 2know if your gonna visit Mindy =

-Write her a really good review
-Bring her something (doesn't have to be expensive). A lottery ticket, clothing, lingerie, wine, a book, candy... whatever she likes.
-Tip her.
-Don't jump into a session with her without spending any time talking to her.  
-On that note, be nice and cuddle with her afterwards.
-Book with her regularly, i.e. don't just see her once a year.

These things might not make her "like you" but they will give you preference over other clients. And that's a step towards liking someone!

* Make sure you wash your ass if you've pooped since your last shower.  If not, visit my bathroom; I have a shower or just wipes that work great
* Be able to have a conversation, don't look at me like I'm wasting your valuable time with small talk-  When you talk to me, it flips the switch in my number one sex organ- MY brain.  Then, I want to devour you... and I will...
*  Shave anything you want me to spoil rotten ... I'll reward you!
* Laug

Sapiosexual

(adj) A form of sexual orientation characterized by a strong attraction to intelligence in others, often regardless of gender and/or conventional attractiveness.  

and im the same way..  

Im also pretty keen on bantering, wit, and humor,,  
I love appointments where there is alot of laughter involved..  

Wine , I love bringing a bottle of my favorite wine to share, and I love fruit  
.. Im a sucker for chocolate covered strawberries..  
It really helps relax and set the mood.. when you can have a lovely conversation over wine and candlelight with a few refreshments,,  
I love when a client asks is there anything I can bring.. and is all giddy about seeing me.. it makes it more intimate I think.  
Anything that makes it feel more like a special event versus an "appointment"  

Secret Man Weapons = Aqua Di Gio = Liquid panty remover..  

Oh and here's and article that I post on the etiquette page of my website, I think its really helpful for newer clients