....I'm not here to try and relitigate screening requirements or how much a provider could/should charge but just to say there are many other options out there to get laid and some of you guys need to step out of the box and realize what you seek on this board or any other escort sites is also available elsewhere and sometimes for free.  This is simply a public service announcement for the benefit of fellow mongers that might have the blinders on a bit too tight.  Plus, 25+ years of hobbying mostly in rural mn has forced me to hone my skills in finding fun.  

Now, I realize that some of you have zero game or may not be overly pleasant to look at or be around but if that's the case and you've got the cash to burn, TER is likely your best option.  That said, if you fit best in this box and have the ability to travel, there's a ton of lovelies in other markets in the USA that will amaze you.  As I've said before, if you can pick your travel date with flexibility, Sun Country can put you in several markets with very affordable lodging and all the P in the world at your fingertips.  Air, lodging and getting down with a girl a day (for a week!) might cost you $1500-$2500 depending on what you like and you don't even have to leave the USA.

I brought up a cuddle platform in comment on another post and got a lot of pm's asking questions.  Not complaining about that, just not going to answer any from this with any tips or leads.  Be nice to the ladies and if they offer more, they will let you know.  DON'T come back on here and say who did what, leave that to the folks you message with and trust.  If you post their names publicly and that they play, they may get booted from their platform(s).

Most of the hookup sites are junk and only there to extract incremental amounts of money out of your pocket, however there are a couple that are actually pretty good but again, you need to have some game and some help from others to make it happen.   There's a fetish site that celebrates the FETish LIFEstyle that is robust with horny men, women and couples.  There's a LIFESTYLE site that's for swingers but more like a LOUNGE that also has a very deep database of horny adults.  Both of these sites are across the country and borders and comparable membership costs to this.  This is also very handy for traveling on business as you can look to see who's in the area that you will be and with enough notice, set up some fun in advance.

No reviews, per se but you certainly can get the vibe for what these folks are into.  I'll finish with this;  maybe you'll find these other platforms suit your needs better than what you've grown accustomed too in here.  

Happy Fucking!!

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It’s an interesting “public service announcement,” but if I'm not mistaken, what I read between the lines of your post is that TER guys are either broke, awkward, or both which is... quite a frame to put your own audience in.

 
I’ll admit, the image of someone coupon-clipping their way across the country in search of “a girl a day” made me smile. It sounds exhausting. And maybe a little like Costco-dating: bulk quantities, bargain prices, but no real flavor.

 
Some of us do go to swingers’ lounges with clients. Some of us explore fetishes together. The difference is in the certainty, the caliber, the continuity, and the discretion that comes when you choose intentionally. It’s not about hoping for “extras” if you’re nice enough, it’s about an experience where emotional immersion is part of the design.

 
So thank you for the market insight. It’s always useful to be reminded that there are options out there for every appetite. Some men want quantity. The others want quality; and they know exactly where to find it. The ones who do rarely feel the need to announce it.

Sometimes searching for meaning between the lines results in conjecture or simply seeing things that are just not there.  Now, I'm not claiming to have met near as many TER dudes as you, nor do i say that with any sort of judgement but I have met and/or communicated with many over the years and I've found that we're across the whole spectrum for class status (for lack of a better term), physical and emotional dynamics such as in shape or not, or really out of shape, attractiveness, personality, confidence or the inability to communicate with the opposite sex, married, divorced, single, don't have time or the effort to date or never been on  date etc.  An absolute cross section of dudes from all walks of life.

I recall a gathering many years ago in the back room of Gluek's Pub that looked like it could have been a staff party straight off the set of The Office.  It was a different time.

In reality, Paige, I probably don't see a lot of your clientele even interested in what I had to say in the post but there are a lot of guys wringing their hands right now trying to figure out how to scratch the itch, so to speak now that 007 seems to have been uprooted and some of the other asian invaders have folded their tents and moved on to other markets.  The ME brothels won't return their emails and Tryst is becoming an OF advert platform.  Maybe scratch the itch isn't a good phrase either, given our local predator has taken great pride and made it abundantly clear that he's left part of himself in most of the young ladies found in the Kagencies and drawn the remaining petri dishes in by plastering his message across this very board whenever he finds opportunity.

But, let's get to your points.  Do I think TER guys are broke, awkward or both?  Not sure where you got the idea that I was saying TER guys have a hard time coming up with fuckmoney.  I'm sure there are many that cannot afford to do this but do anyhow as it's a priority for them to seek some sort of human connection.  Maybe it was me saying "if you've got money to burn"?  To me, and others, money to burn is discretionary money that we may spend doing this or gambling or buying more guns, pull tabs or fishing shit we really don't need but still do anyhow.  Like shoes, or purses maybe?  Awkward?  Yes, there are guys out there scared to death to try and talk with a woman about having sex and if they find the stones to do it, still can't with any confidence.  Do you suppose that with the clientele you've had established for some time that you've perhaps become a bit insulated from the common hobbyist by chance?  Let's be clear, I've always had respect for the brand you've built and have stated that before but just participating in the chats with the common rabble, do you really think you've still got your finger on the pulse as much as you think you do?

Are some cheap? Yes, and with all of the talk of increased rates, deposits etc coming from many of them, I'm surprised that you seem to want to disagree on that.  I'm not here to get into it because it's been talked to death and I've been consistent since day one when the premium gals began pushing the $300 mark.  If you can't pay to play, move on.  

Now, if you want to call Orlando, Costco, I won't ague that.  But for what many men were getting up here for $400 is $220 down there and it's not just a couple houses in operation.  They're all over the City of the Mouse and you walk right in like you are shopping for flowers.  I only use Orlando because of the density of pleasure but in reality, they're all over S Florida on the Altantic Coast as well as the Gulf of America and between the two.  If they've got an ATM in the corner and video cameras coving the lobby & parking lot and the first gal you see is dressed in a see thru naughty and heels, you're in the right spot.  If she's 50+ and in jeans, you're not.  If it's a slow day and they've got girls sitting on their asses, they'll stop by the table shower and offer to jump in for another $100.  What happens next is way better than 007 and you're certainly not left on a mattress on the floor while she vapes for another 10 minutes talkng with the girls at the other houses that won't see half the guys on TER for whatever reason.  Yup, I'm talking median sex worker customer here and if you read the reviews, it's likely 80% of the action being discussed.  (Btw, if you want to cover a niche up here, install a table shower, that would be a $100 upcharge for you any day.)  If you want to drop $400 in central or south Florida and cougars are the flavor of the day....wow, you'll be in heaven.  There are no shortage of 5'10" blondes with great racks more than willing to treat you like a king.  Sorry, got carried away.

As far as the other options discussed, I've had my eyes opened in the last year or two and found a new world out there so I'm sharing with my brothers.  I would hope you would have some sense of inclusion if more members of this community found they had a passion for a certain kink or calling and participated in/on those platforms as other adults have to find some fulfillment in their lives.  

Although I didn't have you in mind when I posted my thoughts, I'm pleased that you found it worthy of one of your well curated replies.  I think you know the market quite well and really aren't overly concerned about the guys having to show a membership card to buy their daily goods but nonetheless, I'm a pretty generous guy and when I find a path of lesser resistance, I like to think of my brothers and see if I can lend them a hand.  

Lagniappe;

-Airbnb in Kissimee, 25 minutes out of Orlando, $297 (fees included) for 6 nights stay.  Now, this is appears to be an attached room listed as the "Star Wars" room but it has a bathroom, shower and kitchenette.  
-Delta, flying out of MPLS to Orlando at $219 rt, direct flight.
-Priceline, Chrysler 300 or better for $22/day, plus fees, unlimited mileage.
-Parlors...to many to mention
(San Diego, SW Texas, Las Vegas...pretty much the same IYKYK)

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Sure ya did, lol!

LMAO, how long did you pace the floor before you came up with that stupid response?  It's so mindless I had to do the math!

MN Population          5.7 M, pretty close to 50/50 m/f
Dudes                         2.85 M
Dudes 30-65              1.28 M
Top 20% earners       265,500???  

Probably well over a QUARTER MILLION DUDES in Minnesota that can step over that high bar without even going to the ATM or bank before they get on the plane.  That aside, 20% of the cost will be air, car and lodging which will have been put on their CC.  I don't even think my grandfather back in the day would have use the term "liquid" when talking about $2,500.  

What does make sense now is that YOU ARE one of those guys that thinks that's a life changing pile of money and you are still really frustrated that you can't find any ladies willing to trade their safety, health and future for bareback with a disease ridden old man no matter how much you publicly beg for it on this very board.

I did not. Again, I'm happy for you though. Or sorry that happened.

If I remember from my days in the swinger community, for a single guy it wasn’t exactly a walk in the park. There was a reason single males had to pay $200 to get into a gathering (and even then there is often a limit on how many could attend), couples were $100 and single females got in free. But it’s been a while for me that may have changed. And even if you do get over that hurdle, with couples you have to get the approval of the male counterpart and with single females it wasn’t much different from your average hookup site. And even then they’re few and far between. And if you’re socially awkward? Forget it.

I don't think things have changed much but what is different from the singles sites is the ability to communicate freely on the lifestyle sites and once you've made some like minded female friends and developed a level of trust, the doors open up much, much more easily to expand interests.  There are quite a few single ladies that participate in the lifestyle and it's not overly difficult to establish relationships with them and be able to enjoy things as partners or play couples.  Yes, the ladies are usually seeking something beyond just the physical aspect but to put it in perspective with seeking companionship in the traditional manner, it's not near as efficient but not nearly as intrusive or expensive.

Hooking up with escorts will always be a thing.  It's quick, easy and if you've got cash to burn, right at one's fingertips but it's becoming highly intrusive and exponentially more expensive whereas the lifestyle will require patience, being what you claim to be and also having the ability to create a relationship where your partner can trust you.  If you and your partner are on the same page with intentions and desires, there's a lot of fun to be had out there.  

I have several times and am planning to do so starting about the time it’s getting cold around here.  No lengthy research, just spent 5 minutes on the keyboard to verify market conditions to back up what I already knew and stated.  Hardly coupon clipping as the one on the high horse mocked, just knowing of opportunities and sharing them with others like I did for you late last winter when you asked me to help you set up your dream session.  Too bad you went psycho and blew that chance out of the water, lol!

if pointing out the obvious feels like a high horse, maybe the view from your POV isn't what you thought it was. funny how the only ones bothered by a coupon joke are usually the ones clipping them.

Good to see you're still not reading my posts, lol!

with the board just fine but anyone with some semblance of reading comprehension would notice I said I wasn't reading *that* post. I'm happy to read yours, just not bothering with the epic novels you like to publish.

And you can’t have the pussy that you want to fuck.

Reading between the lines is often a perilous exercise that leads many to spectacularly misunderstand the true intent behind a message, yet somehow, it remains a popular pastime. It is interesting, however in forums like this when men are speaking to other men, and the ladies decide to enter the conversation to explain to us that we're wrong.  Clearly, from the many other posts, you are absolutely free to respond with your own lengthy anecdotes or elaborate arguments should you find yourself disagreeing with a detailed discourse—though one might question the necessity.  

What typically unfolds is that when someone finally realizes they’ve blundered or misinterpreted the situation, their go-to retreat is to declare, “Oh, I’m not going to read all of that”.  Often, it's a feeble attempt at humor but can also be interpreted as capitulation.