I have been try to hook up with a provider who is currently lactating, however, she is not comfortable with my reference as they go back to the Relax-O-Lounge days.  I seem to be caught in a catch 22 situation.  My question is how do I establish new references without spending a ton of money on providers that would not be my first choice and may not be an acceptable reference anyway?  We had an appointed setup, but she got nervous and cancelled.  If I push her any more I will just make her more nervous about me.  Normally I would just forget about it, but GFE’s who are lactating are had to find.  I have offered to meet her for lunch and lunch only to try and work this out.  She has not responded yet.  Does anybody have any good advise on providers that I can use to established reference that will be acceptable to the lady’s the always get very good reviews (GFE types)?