The Easy Button
I have realized that I am easy. Easy in the way that makes the Staples Easy Button look weak. When I first found this hobby I was picky, but now love to change things up. Don't get me wrong I enjoy building rapport with a provider but I still think I should invest in some of those tear away pants.

TOFTT
This one I learned vicariously, but seriously the things us hobbyist will go through to get their rocks off. Some of these reviews that I read are written as if they where the little mermaid realizing what human sex entails.

Ventriloquist
I was surpised at the level of conversation a provider can have with her mouth full.  I think that some of these wonderful ladies have a second job in the waiting.

Ladies Are Not Just Another Notch In The Belt
When I lost my hobbyist virginity I told her that she was my first escort and she clapped and acted really excited. I kind of felt... well i felt great but showed me to treat these providers like the actual belt not just another notch. But I am glad they are not good at keeping my pants up.

I have written here about this a few times...  for me the real surprise was the connection.

My first time was many years ago, and I went expecting that just by virtue of being a business transaction with a stranger, that it would have to be a little impersonal, a little business-like, that it may even start out being a little awkward. I decided to schedule two hours just to have some time to acclimate to being in a stranger's space, get used to what this would be like.

She'd have no part of that. The door opened and behind it was a warm smile, a loving gaze, a soft hello, truly easy eye contact...  followed by a soft embrace, gentle breathy kisses...  After what seemed like an eternity in the entryway she led me into her place by my hand...  more hugging, more kissing, lots of nuzzling and whispering, a whole lot of slow mutual undressing, and then slipping under the comforter of a big warm bed for a couple hours of cuddling, snuggling, rolling around...  I came a couple of times but they were strangely anti-climactic, the snuggling was the main event and the "releases" were carefully crafted by an expert to be just that...  a way to release the sexual tension and get me back into the softness of the moment.

I stumbled out to my car afterwards, not even sure where the hell I parked... and just sat in my car for a bit.  In the years following, I have had all kinds of experiences, from mild to WILD, from GFE to crazy intense PSE...

So, what I've learned is that:
-There are some amazingly loving women in this "sport" who are wired so much differently, and are here for much different reasons, than "outsiders" think.
-If you look for one, you will find one that needs to touch you as badly as you need to be touched, and the "donation" is really just a means to keep food on the table.
-There are women who somehow, magically, see right past all our frailties, and they somehow look for something good in each of us, and latch on to whatever that is.  What a great way to live, what a great way to be seen by someone.
-There are a zillion different kinds of experiences to be had out there, and if you don't know deep down what you are looking for, you'll end up being seduced by variety alone, and probably miss out.  Spend less time gawking at pics and scouring reviews, and more time reflecting on what it is you are aching for, what's missing, and THEN try to figure out who best to get that from.  I have learned again and again that what I thought I wanted, and what I truly needed, weren't the same.
-Trust your instincts...  Time and time again people complain on this board about all the gyrations and hurdles they had to go through to see a provider, only to be disappointed by how the date went.  If you have to work at it, or you have to drive through some yellow lights to see someone, it's probably not the right someone.  I believe a lot more in karma now than before I started hobbying.

I didn't realize that there would be a connection, much less the fact that it would be the most dominant part of the hobby for me.

The term "rental pussy" was used in a post earlier this week. I'm sure that world exists somewhere within the hobby, but that is so far removed from my experience that I'm not even sure I can relate.

 

This is a topic that could be written about for a long time.  
Couldn't agree more about the connection. What these ladies do and what they provide, is nothing short of outstanding. The expectations that they face, emotions, different people with different sizes and different personalities, meeting strangers sometimes and attempting to make them comfortable, etc, etc, etc. Its much more than an act, its an experience. Treating these ladies right is the foundation for building a long and successful "career" in this hobby, not to mention enjoyable.

what I learned that has suprized my how truly kind so many of the women are, and how unconsionably crule many of the guys are.  I refered to the ladies as "shelter from the storm" that comment is what brought on the "rental pussy" statement.  It is nice to see the stories of others who beleive the ladies we meet are wonderful.  I have enjoyed the after shock moment in the car as you wait for the eyeballs to stop spinning.   life is short, play hard

1)  The incredible variety of women and experiences you can see and enjoy doing this.  My own tastes are nothing exotic but even so I have had a wide variety of great experiences
2)  This whole system actually works.  I can find a woman online, do my research, make necessary arrangements to see her, and see her.  And it is not that difficult or a real crapshoot.  When I first found TER, I wondered if this whole system was TGTBT.  Well, it is far from perfect but it is also not GTBT.
3)  It's not like you see on the movies or television.  Not that I ever really thought it would be but whatever I was expecting, it wasn't what I have experienced.

Thank you!!!