My ATF got married this summer and she moved to Canada last weekend. We were very close. We were like in a real relationship; no clock watching, often met for lunch between her appointments, went shopping together. She gave me the ultimate GFE that no one would. I have not seen other providers for almost 9 years; so now I don't know who the best and the most trusted providers are in town. The search has begun, but I am too lazy and too cheap for trial and error. I've looked up some of the MN providers on TER like Erin Lee, Natalie Chambers but I am not convinced. Who are the best providers? Who does offer GFE? There are million reviews of providers out there, and I need to narrow down. So please advise me who I should see.

Thanks!

.............always a matter of seeing women who have the potential to become regulars for you.  First of all, if your expectation is that you will find someone who will step into the shoes of your former ATF, you have set the bar too high, imho.  As we all know chemistry is the key ingredient to any long term relationship both here in the hobby and in civvie life.  Every new encounter is YMMV.  A woman I have extraordinary chemistry with may not appeal to you at all.  Since most of us bring different affinities, likes and dislikes into our hobbying, the first place to start are reviews.  I always look for reviews that describe activities I enjoy and things like personality and body type  I find attractive.  I don't believe there is any quick and easy way to find a new ATF.  I think you will have to do it the “old fashioned” way, make some appointments with women you like, Natalie is a good start, then have fun and let nature (and your wallet) take its course..   Have fun with your search, you have the potential to see some of the hottest women in MN, what guy wouldn't love that?

I'm sorry I would not call Natalie GFE...She is smoking hot but far from GFE

Stop:  If you are looking for similar set of circumstances with another provider as described in your message, I would simply stop looking. It sounds like a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.

Exclusive:  In any case, perhaps the best bet for what you are looking for may be achieved with an exclusive arrangement with a provider. However, exclusive arrangements are usually not cheap.

Ask Her:  Why did you not ask your lovely lady friend for her recommendations?

Guess:  Did your provider include in her name the word "Sweet"? Will you identify her to the board in general?

Hurt:  The nine year thing almost sounds like a common-law marriage. How much pain was felt when she married someone else (and not you)?

I've had a couple of ladies I saw for multiple years that either left the business or are in an area I don't visit anymore. We're still Facebook friends... maybe not the best idea. Anyway, I don't think you can try to replace that directly. Just visit a few ladies that look interesting to you and see if you hit it off. If you do, a few more visits and you may be on your way. Just don't come on too strong too quickly. While I'm sure all the ladies like regulars, no one wants a stalker. That said, I've had the pleasure of seeing a few ladies in MN over the last year  - 4 in the last few months - that are all GFE and all worth seeing. None have offered any off the clock activities (nor do I expect them to), but they've been great experiences and people I'd like to see again and again.

I think it is something that just happens over time....you cannot go looking for it.

Xoxo

I agree with you. I don't think I will find a replacement of what I had, but I would like to meet a provider that can pretend like I am the only one. That's just an excellent customer service I guess, and when someone is very happy, you get rewarded. I know majority of providers won't date their hobby friends, but we can still be friends.

I did ask recommendations from my lady friend, but none of them I fancy.

Yes, nine years is a long time. I met her when she was 20, and we met almost once a week since. I practically was her sugardaddy. I have my own family; so I knew all along that the relationship would end one day, but it still hurt because you lost a very good friend.  

There so many fine GFE in MPLS, the cheaper, the less you get! I think your off the clock stuff is over. Trust me on this! Good Luck

I understand; I cannot set the bar too high. All I want is to meet a provider with a great personality that will treat me well. Then we go from there.

Absolutely. My relationship with her was 9 year long; I earned her trust. It just sucks that I have to start over.

Agreed. I won't have free off-the-clock activities.

I will definitely do that. Great advice. Thanks!

The off-the-clock activities (as described by yourself) are quite unusual.

In my experiences, the clock is an ever-present dimension. For example, the last provider I met had an alarm clock that went off at the conclusion of our 90 minute session.

In any case, -- after thinking about your situation a bit -- perhaps your best bet to replicate things with a new provider is to have your former provider share everything (all the things that make you happy, loyal, generous and returning every week) with your yet to be identified future provider.

I can't think of many local, veteran providers that would not want to bank a virtually guaranteed donation over the course of years. Thus, you are perhaps the gold-standard for a client.

If you don't mind the feeling of being played-to, then a surrogate provider may be able to take the place of your treasured provider.

It is unfortunate that none of your provider's recommendations proved inviting. Good Luck!

you and I shared the same ATF?   Hummm, I thought I was the only hobbyist seeing her, guess she played both of us?

Since you're not sharing names, I won't tell you my past ATF!!!   Maybe yours, maybe not?

......in the quote you talk about being practically a sugar daddy to your former ATF.  Maybe you should consider a sugar daddy/sugar baby (sd/sb) relationship.  Some of us have had success with this form of relationship.  It lets you have more exclusive access for a fixed rate each month.  There is generally no clock and activites such as dinners out and shopping (with you buying, of course) are common.  There are several sites that promote these relationships, some are scams but a couple of them are quite good.  PM me for details.  Like the hobby, not for everyone, but it is an alternative for some.