It's sad to think that people cannot believe that a well educated and career motivated woman couldn’t also be a bit of a nympho. It's as if you are intelligent and have goals in life, you couldn't also possibly have some sexual kinks that might lead you to such a situation as this.

I have been raised by people who believed in teaching that sexuality is a gift, and not something to be ashamed of. I have never been abused, and therefore I think I have been able to experiment and develop my sexuality at my own pace and through my own processes over the years. I wasn't always so free and open, and have at different points in my youth been offended by Playboy or thought that giving oral sex to a man was too degrading. Sexuality, just like any other aspect of a person's personality is very liquid and ever growing. It is a combination of our life experiences, thoughts, feelings, and education that continuously kneads our identities and value systems into what we become as intellectually controlled, yet also instinctually driven creatures.

There is nothing more interesting than studying sexuality, as it is one of the few most primal motivations that human beings have that cannot be easily control by our frontal cortex. (Well that and eating. Just look at the obesity epidemic.)

It is a well known (and thoroughly researched) fact that the most sexually free people tend to be the most educated, and/or the most Catholic (ha ha.) I COULD find links to several academic studies that back up this theory (I am a Sociology major and often read about sexuality through those eyes, and through academic resources, such as papers and dissertations on the subject) but that would require work, which quite frankly I am too f*cking lazy to do, just to a prove a point to you.

(well, Ok, I did a quick search and found at least one statement:
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"In fact, white middle-class college-educated women in their
twenties are widely recognized by researchers to have more sex
partners than any other group of women; the 1995 National Survey of
Family Growth reports that women in these three categories (of race,
income and education) have the highest proportions of four or more
partners over their lifetimes (39).

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I became a dancer at said club, after waitressing there for a stint, and I did it to find out what my own beliefs were on the sex industry from a feminist perspective. What I found at that club, is that women have the power, and I had trouble taking advantage of the men there when I felt like they were just being highly manipulated for a LOT of money with very little in return.

I cannot manipulate people, as I am too nice. I can only be what I am. Which I DO realize is pretty god-damned special. I truly am a beautiful, sexual, intelligent, and very compassionate person, and the fact that I would even be interested in meeting people in this type of situation, is probably very rare indeed.

My life isn't perfect, and I can't afford to take the classes I need right now, so the nympho in me thought that perhaps I could try a new approach to gaining some ground towards finishing school. That is all.

I also have a few flaws; just ask the people who know me. I'm a klutz, and always bruised from my latest tumble. I'm messy, and frankly a bit lazy. I TALK A LOT, and have trouble shutting up sometimes...  just look at my overly loquacious post!

Anyway, if you still have doubts, at the very least, appreciate my ability to write, AND I type over 50 WPM! Yay for me!

I hope that someday you learn to believe that women such as me do exist. The world deserves to know that we do! It's sad that men could find that so hard to believe...

And that does make the feminist in me a little mad. But I shall let it roll off my back, like I try to do with any ignorant thought that cringe to hear.

Life is too short to be a pessimist!

Hugs to All,
-Kyra

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