I wonder if this has happened to anyone else.  Because this has happened to me threetimes now,and now im compelled to write about it.  I talked with 3 providers..  they all said they would see me without needing background information.. but then they changed their minds when i actually was going to make the appointment.  it's immature and downright cruel. i had a death in  my family.  they know this..i view it as beyond immature and cruel.  I would list their names,but then this wouldnt get posted.. and it wouldnt do any good as they are among the highest rated girls.  This is like real life dating when a woman says yes and then no.

Why would they know about a death in your family?  How much detail do you get into when scheduling an appointment?  If you've already wired them cash or gave them your CC number along with all your other details, why would they need to see you?

Ok that last bit was a bit sarcastic and sorry for your recent loss, but, the question remains.  Why would you disclose that much info?

If you're having that much trouble setting up a first date.  Use a verification service like 411 or D-C.

My first guess would be that something happened between initial contact & the time you decided to commit to scheduling a date that may have spooked them. I'm guessing you are not willing to give up the info they are asking for? You may have to break down & do so if you really want to get your foot in the door. Otherwise, move on to the next one until you find a lady that will see you w/o those requirements. Membership of a trusted verification site could be the answer to your problem. Sorry for your loss as well.

Sorry to hear about your loss(es).

Im sorry for your loss as well, but your message post doesnt make sense..
I dont understand how it is immature and cruel to ask for background info. Im assuming you mean name, address, references, or something along those lines?
Why would they know about the death in your family and im szorry, but what does it have to do with seeing a provider?

We're all empathetic re your loss, but that can't be a factor for providers in their screening. If you hear,  "I'd love to see you; let me get back to you. I'm sure we can work something out, xoxo" it's really a gentle way of saying, "I have to do some screening first."

And I'll echo everyone who has said to use a verification service to get started with the reviewed providers (e.g. P411).

It's very unlikely that there were any cruel intentions, despite how it may have felt.

they actually do the screening.  The idea is if the two of you can't settle on a date and time, there is no sense in taking the time to screen.  this also saves you the hassle of giving all your info to a lady that you can't see anyway

Perhaps it was just a misunderstanding???   i cannot imagine them not seeing you or later asking for screening info has anything to do with the deaths.

what's the point of this post, to rant? to garner sympathy?

name callings and incomplete train of thoughts makes this a waste of space

I finally got my explanation.. she just didnt feel like it..  3 weeks ago she would had seen me and now she doesnt feel like it? But if thats the case then why make me go through her screening process.. its to boost her pathetic ego.. ..and she made fun of my deceased mother..   for someone to be that inhuman id rather go the rest of my life going without  than having to beg these low life. this is beyond sad and tragic have to beg one of these creeps to see me.

suggest that the attitude you've just displayed might have something to do with the problem.

Sorry for your loss but damn dude! Low lifes? Pardon me but You're the one who was requesting an appointment from the provider does that not then make you a low life creep also?
furthermore WHAT DOES YOUR DECEASED LOVED ONE HAVE TO DO WITH IT?
I'm failing to see since you haven't explained whatsoever.
perhaps you're the flake not the other way around?
Oh BTW you may want to watch it with the racial slurs while you're at it.
Indian giver?  I'm going to pretend you said "flake" so I don't get any more offended by your inane post.

I'm sorry for your loss but your story is confusing.  I suspect Belinda's post is the best explanation about what happened; beyond that it sounds like somehow your conversations with the ladies in question went south and ended in an exchange of insults.  And managing to do this three times with well reviewed providers suggests that you are far from blameless in this mess.

My condolences, Bigs and pardon the rudeness but why would ever mention something like that to total strangers? It just boggles the mind. A simple "Something came up and I can't make my appointment" would of suffice.

Yes, this is supposed to be fun.  I can say if you contacted me, as sympathetic and understanding as I am, I would not see you. You are too angry and my time will be valuable while visiting.  Kalina

He's more upset about them asking for verification last minute. A bit too upset IMO
I wouldn't want someone visiting me if they couldn't do that one simple task then threw a tantrum about it via email. You aren't unique or exception to rules because of your personal life.(sorry for your loss BTW)
Things happen but that does not mean you can use it to insult someone nor does that make them an "Indian giver " because they didn't give you anything really but simple instructions. Either you comply or move on to someone who doesnt screen Very simple and know I wont feel sorry for you if you get caught up by LE or worse.