It’s always fascinating to discover whose attention I hold, even months or years later. Especially when the grudge comes from me declining an unusual private request. One I won’t share here, because even if you don’t respect me, I respect your privacy.
If you’d read my website or corresponded with me directly, you’d know I offer several screening options: ID, Employment, P411, references, in-person verification, encrypted email or Signal. Most of my clients choose ID or Employment because it’s the most seamless, but I’ve always accommodated those with different needs while still respecting my need for safety. Some of the lurkers of this board know first-hand.
What concerns me more is your repeated use of “prostitute, slut, whore.” Those words say far more about your relationship to women than they do about me. If your default is to insult women for having boundaries, it’s not about screening… it’s about resentment.
It’s a rhetorical question, but… are you married? Because most married men assume they’ll never truly “have to pay” for intimacy again. That it will just happen because they’re married. But then years pass, the connection fades, desire becomes lopsided, and the realization sets in that intimacy still requires investment. Whether that’s emotional labor, energy, or yes, sometimes money. For some, that realization curdles into bitterness. I’ve seen it before, and it never looks good on anyone.
Call me what you want. I won’t call my clients “tricks” or “Johns,” because I see them as human beings who deserve to be touched, seen, heard, and cared for. It took time to get to where I am but my work is about connection, respect, and discretion, which is why those who meet me tend to stay.
I believe in reciprocity. My clients invest in me, and I invest in them. I scoured for weeks for a vintage 1940s French key, placed in a custom shadowbox for a client who unlocked a new chapter in my life. I’ve sourced a milestone birthday gift a client had admired for years and taken them to dinner to a location they had been talking about for months to celebrate (yes, I paid). My work is built on connection and care, thoughtfulness and reciprocity. Not transactions.
But if you’re still out here calling women prostitutes, sluts, and whores to make yourself feel taller, you’re not playing in the same league. Some of us are in the Majors… and you’re still striking out in T-ball.
And for anyone keeping score: this is exactly why my clients trust me. Screening isn’t a hurdle; it’s the first step in creating the kind of experiences that keep us all winning.
