I recently ( tonight) had a very bad client. He was very aggressive and got physically threatening to me. He even grabbed my wrist so hard he left bruises...then he threatned to "ruin my career" if I didn't let him Di certain things, of wgich I Doi not offer.
I would just like to alert all the other girls in Minnesota, so he will not be able to hurt anyone else.
Is there a blacklist on TER as well as a whitelist? What is my best recourse?
He is even listed on p411, which is where he found me. , although he is a basic member with no ok'd.
Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated.
I'm a little shaken up from the entire experience, not sure what to do .
Thx in advance for any suggestions /
BustyDDBrooke
I ammmm sooooo very sorry you had to go through this hunny!! (this didn't show up the first time around!)
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They might ask for emails and messages confirming the appointment and pictures of your injuries but they could ban him.
I can't help but wonder what is wrong with some of us guys that don't understand respect and bounderies. Nor do I understand the pleasure in trying to force a woman to do something she doesn't want to do. To abuse someone when she is most vulnerable is unforgivable. Report to P411 and share with other ladies so he hopefully can't do this to anyone else. A good knee to the nuts might help too.
I believe that if he does it to one he would have no problem repeating that behavior with another and/or has probably already done it to someone else. Sometimes these things go unreported out of shame or fear of retaliation, i.e. further abusive behavior, bad review, stalking. I would urge the OP not be afraid or ashamed ---- you have a lot of women (and men) here who would back you up
Good morning all hope everyone is safe and happy today anways I was on reading herost and then I went to p411 and to no avail she hasnt reported or they havent updated yet however I sent email to inform them as to the pist on ter in hopes that she would read and try to follow up w the young lady in question I understand you are scared we all are for her however we do need more info in order to protect our selfs so please to everyone be safe and always try to help our community in anyway we all can.......
I would just like to alert all the other girls in Minnesota, so he will not be able to hurt anyone else.
Is there a blacklist on TER as well as a whitelist? What is my best recourse?
He is even listed on p411, which is where he found me. , although he is a basic member with no ok'd.
Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated.
I'm a little shaken up from the entire experience, not sure what to do .
Thx in advance for any suggestions /
BustyDDBrooke
That Gina @ 411 know this about one of her client members; she takes the safety of her members seriously- both providers and clients.
If you need any guidance at all, please email me directly.
Peace,
Astrid
Gina is very helpful. I have emailed her a few times in the past with a problem I was having. A very caring and understanding person. Gina needs to know about this. Gina doesn't take this kind of stuff lightly, as Astrid said, Gina cares about her clientele, be it provider or hobbyist.
There are sites where providers can blacklist clients. Some good, some not so good.
Ask on the provider only board for help also.
I'm sorry you had to go through such a frightening experience. I hope things are getting better for you now
Like references from other providers? Or does he only usually see TS (scary idea itself)
If you only used a referral from P411(with 0 OK's), I think this demonstrates the need to be more vigilant in provider screening methods.
I was going strictly off of the p411 screening process. Not sure what you meant by "strictly see TS"..?? maybe you have some misinformation, but I AM NOT a TS...lol!
If you only used a referral from P411(with 0 OK's), I think this demonstrates the need to be more vigilant in provider screening methods.
People were pointing to the fact you have a new review by a guy who, up til now has only seen TS's. This is not to say this is or isn't the guy. Just that people are already assuming it is.
Sure glad the board members of MN just race for the accusations instead of letting calmer heads prevail.
As usual.. EVERYONE GRAB THE TORCHES.. It's roasting time!!! Who cares if they're innocent or not, we need some blood!
If you only used a referral from P411(with 0 OK's), I think this demonstrates the need to be more vigilant in provider screening methods.
Wow, you are RIGHT! And what's with the hating on the TS girls anyway? I'm not sure why they are getting grief but they are providers all the same, no matter what. Makes me want to give a big TS group hug.
Thumper says its a "scary" thought that a hobbyist sees mainly TS providers. I don't see the problem. There's something for everyone.
Peace,
Astrid
Doesn't make a difference, He could of had a million okays and still done this
as your exclusive screening process, especially with "0" OK's. Brooke answered that in the thread already- she only used P411.
My post was a warning to other providers to use references and other methods to screen. it is no guarantee, but isn't that the point of diligent screening?
Why do some of you think I was condoning the abusive behavior- sheesh. I am not blaming her for his actions
Because you are questioning a providers screening methods and its rude. He could have had 20 ok's and gone off the deep end with bad behavior with this pretty young lady who was brave enough to come forward to warn other providers.
Meaning, he could have behaved himself with 20 ladies but got rough and frightening with Brooke.
Don't concern yourself with anyone's screening methods, it's doubtful anyone will put any faith into suggestions from one hiding under an alias, FYI.
Nothing is foolproof but I appreciate P411 and all they do.
Peace,
Astri
Also very upset that he thought you'd not tell anyone !
Glad you're safe .
Xoxo V.
Let me reiterate my original reply. How frightening that must have been for you. I am so very sorry! Please know If there is ANYTHING I can do to be of support & I DO mean ANYTHING, I welcome you to come to me. What ever you feel comfortable with, any time day or night.
Consoling hugs your way lovely young lady.
Lean
With this info and having the strength to speak out. It's a tough discussion to do this but in letting us know she helped me to avoid a meeting with this guy. He also contacted me recently but due to my illness and surgery I was unable to meet him. Now I know not to reschedule. I just hope it's gets around enough so that he won't be able to schedule with anyone. That type of behavior is rarely isolated.
Also thank you to all the others especially guys who rallied in support of her and others who have come forward about these types of situations. Makes it safer for all of us!
I would just like to alert all the other girls in Minnesota, so he will not be able to hurt anyone else.
Is there a blacklist on TER as well as a whitelist? What is my best recourse?
He is even listed on p411, which is where he found me. , although he is a basic member with no ok'd.
Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated.
I'm a little shaken up from the entire experience, not sure what to do .
Thx in advance for any suggestions /
BustyDDBrooke
I would appreciate a PM from anybody who actually knows who this guy is.