Next time don't borrow money. As much as whatever delusional ideas some of us get, you are a client and she is offering a service. She is not your friend, fake gf, or whatever you may think. If you aren't paying her you aren't seeing her. Take 100 off your next appointment and stop worrying about it.
So I saw a similar thread on the general board a few days ago in it was a lot different than my situation but it's also somewhat similar. So there is a pro that I see who I know probably more than I should (she shared a lot of personal information over the year or so that I've seen her) including her real name and her family situation. We even Facebook friends. A couple weeks before Christmas, she texted me telling me about a situation she was having and begged me if I could borrow her money. I end up sending her $100 to her cash app. She said she would pay me back the next time I saw her and I said that was fine. I had plans the week of Christmas to see her but then family obligations got in the way and so I had to reschedule. Then other things got in the way and I havent seen her yet.
I was thinking of giving her a call and possibly Setting an appointment early next week sometime but not sure how I should handle the money. I know she's been struggling with some things lately, so part of me is okay with forgiving the $100 but this is a business and money is money, so the other part of me is thinking about asking her to take the hundred off if I do see her next week. Trying to figure out what would be the best step to take as I don't want to seem like a douchebag I'm curious if any of you have been in the same situation.
Yes I know some of you are saying the last thing you should have done is lent money to a pro, but the deed is done and like I said, I've seen her plenty of times I know she's having some issues with family and other things so I felt sorry for her at the time.
I would let it go and just move on. You seem to have an idea of her family situation. Maybe that gives you an idea of her ability to pay this back. Maybe she'll bring it up the next time you get together and give you a discount. If you push her for it she might stop answering your emails/texts. Finally, if it is something you can't forgive then you probably have to move on from her.
These are not normal times and the panoramic (this is a joke) has royally screwed a lot of people over. Part of me thinks it's really sweet that you lent the provider money in a time of need. If they did agree to pay you back then that should also be honored. The other part of me says to let it go... because again, we are in the middle of a Panasonic and they probably really needed the funds then. However, if you've been wanting to see them then set up a date and see what happens. If she offers the $100 off, cool. If she doesn't, then gently... and I mean gently inquire about it. If it becomes an issue, then politely move along.
I hope it all works out.
Thanks for the message Paige. Not enough ladies on here so it's good to get that perspective. Ultimately I'm not sweating it too much cuz it's only $100 and obviously I spent lot more
money than that when you consider this business.( although money is money)
Like I said, I know she was struggling. She only does this hobby part-time and has a different job as well and I know there was some issues with that as some of her hours were cut because of our lovely pandemic. Next time I make an appointment with her, which will probably be next weekend, I'll see what she says. She's able to take the hundred off cool, if that's not something that's possible for her, then I'll consider things at that point.
Forget the fact that she is a pro. Would you ever lend/gift $100 to anyone in a legit financial situation?
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It is just a fact of life that you are going to encounter financially strapped women in the pro and sugar babe world. If you meet with them they are going to un-become faceless nameless people, and instead people you know, friends and acquaintances.
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This is a larger question than about SW. It's about how each of us deals with these sorts of things we are bound to encounter.
She said she’d pay you back the next time you saw her. You haven’t seen her since then, right? So if you want to see her again, make a appointment and see her and see what happens. She may say, “remember to take 100 off!” or maybe she’ll give $100 back to you when you see her. But give her a chance to pay you back.
If she doesn’t repay you when you see her again, THEN you have a decision to make.
I would say make the appointment then discuss it in person. If shes honest she'll take the money off your engagement. If not you've been had. Then move on.Ive known a couple pros that ive gotten to know really well in the past over the years. One in particular always had financial problems no matter how much she made, and how many guys she fucked she couldnt climb out of her financial hole. She always lived beyond her means, thus always broke and always had financial drama with her her family. Always a sob story. Fact of the matter, her baby daddy in prison is where it went so he could pay for his appeals. My advice all she has to do is throw you an extra pop to clear up the debt, if she doesnt dont walk, run away.
The way I see it, you've got 3 options
1) Make an appointment and take the $100 out of her fee
2) Make an appointment and ask her how she wants to handle it, which you can do either when making the appointment or when you actually see her
3) Write the $100 off unless she brings it up on her own
Which one is best really depends on you and your opinion of what would work best with her.
It's highly unlikely you will ever see that money. Don't sweat it. Move on. Consider yourself lucky that it was only $100. If you schedule with her again, go through with the appointment and see if she she brings it up on her own. If she ignores it, perhaps you choose not to see her again.
If you think about all of the money in life that was "lost", it would drive you crazy. Think about money blown on gambling, clothing you bought and never wore, going out drinking and throwing money around, investments which went south, over paying for trinkets on vacation, buying a TV that goes down in price a month later. etc.
Worrying about $100 is not worth it.
I wouldn’t worry about it. Think of how desperate she was to ask you for $100. Consider it as a nice tip. If you can’t let it go, then move on. That’s just me.
Next time don't borrow money. As much as whatever delusional ideas some of us get, you are a client and she is offering a service. She is not your friend, fake gf, or whatever you may think. If you aren't paying her you aren't seeing her. Take 100 off your next appointment and stop worrying about it.
That’s one thing , but the other side of coin is what’s the ho’s responsibility to you, to try to make it right , and get current with the fact it’s outstanding. For all you or anyone else knows this may have been done to others as well.
Asking for what is owed you is not any more douchebag than the ho’s expecting you pay the price of admission for busting a nut.
Can you stop calling her and all of us by the most derogatory of available terms? We prefer provider, at least most of us do. It's like the difference between calling a black person the N word or black. To me personally, it's like fingernails on a chalkboard.
Thanks!
It seems pinkbeeflaps has deeper issues getting along with both providers and hobbyists. I miss the old days when little turds like him would simply be warned about this behavior and simply banned if they couldn't play nice. I think it's guys like him that have brought this site to its current dismal state.
Ok, gotta ask the obvious question here. What the hell does "owns you money " mean?
My man, obviously you could tell that it was a typo...