So, I apologize if this is not what this board is for. I really don't know where to ask this...
I can not cum from head. No matter how hard the girl tries, it just can't happen. I enjoy it and can stay hard. I've even been asked if I am going to cum, like they want me to. I feel terrible when I say no. I really don't think the girl is the problem? I mean, I'm not going to say I have had tons of BJs. I likely wouldn't be on here if I was some "legendary stickman", let's be honest.
It just feels so... Empty? Plain?
I never know what to do. I know some girls don't want to be touched (I've been told this). So, I am just sitting or laying there.. well.. bored. Maybe it's my ADHD? I just need to be a part of it somehow, or it just does nothing for me. I won't lie, I tend to enjoy foreplay and sex more when it is a little more, "feral" or "aggressive".
So, what do I do? Just be forward and say you can give one, but nothing will happen? I sometimes have to fake my enjoyment. This is a problem for me because when it's all said and done, a lot of times I feel like I went to a movie I was really excited for, and didn't meet the expectations. Part of that is me, but I never feel like I am giving it my all. I am holding myself back. I don't want to do something the woman does not like. Respect is still very important to me, and doing something not wanted or disliked with control or touch could really ruin the whole vibe.
So, here is my question.
What is the standard?
If any providers read this, what do you find acceptable?
Guys, what do you do?
Is there anyone one you feel is amazing and recommend?
Review searches can help with figuring out who is more willing to do that sort of thing and I have seen some ads that include such references. Even so, when you are with the provider and play time has started, it's a wise idea to to check with her before doing anything out of the ordinary. As far as BJs go, simply say you'd rather skip it.
Have you tried a pse provider or one who has stated she enjoys rougher play? I think those types of providers would align more with your desire for that feral feeling. Like Vorlon said, discussing boundaries are still needed, but going for a provider who offers that would make it easier for you two to be aligned.
I did not get the feeling from your post you were talking about out rough treatment of any kind.
Sounds to me like you may be talking about massage providers who give BJs
You are correct -many. Do not like the touching but if doing the BJ probably not one of those.
I the above is the case there is a plethora of ladies who love to touch and be touched and there is another place dick can go besides her mouth. just go with full service providers.
