Ok, so I am newly single and like many others joined an online dating site that will remain anonymous. I have been talking with this girl for a few weeks now, first email, then text, and finally phone. Well we exchanged a few pics last night and one I remember from a backpage ad of a girl I (and probably a few of you) have seen before. Now all the pics were of the same girl just one was a bit more risqué and was definitely her. She didn't recognize me but of course I only saw her three times and from looking from her reviews she was a busy girl.

Now just from talking with her and emailing we have a lot in common and I do like her and it would be hypocritical for me to judge her without judging myself. Pot calling the kettle black. I mean the fact she was a working girl really doesn't bother me, In fact there's a weird turn on about it. BUT here's the thing, do I tell her and if so when? Or do I just say who cares and see where it takes us?

PS no I will not tell you who, but by her reviews she got out of the biz in 2011.

...women wouldn't forget something like that. If she doesn't say anything, there's no set rule for when you should bring it up. Tell her it's a turn on that she is/was a provider and just see where it takes you from there. You could be in for a wild ride! I think it'd be very fun to hook up with a very sexual partner for more than a few hours.

(note to self....never give dating advice again! You're unlucky in love. What were you thinking?)

'Relax....it's just sex!'

be upfront and light and understanding about it.  You sound genuine and honest and self-aware.  That will get you everywhere with her.  Don't let it fester.  If the relationship is going to go anywhere, it should be based on a foundation of candor and honesty from the beginning.  Your acceptance of her, your acknowlegement of your experience in the hobby, will distinguish you from every other guy she sees.

Good luck, and hope it works out!

I have dated a few former and current escorts.  And, like you, I met a gal on a dating site, who I had seen as an escort.  I told her right up front, and we had a good laugh about it.  

Be up front with her, and get it out in the open early. Otherwise, if it comes up later, she will know you have been dishonest (or at least kept a secret), and that is no way to start a relationship.  

If you saw her three times, she WILL remember, so you might as well just get it out.  After that, it never has to come up again.  

On another note, it has been my experience that providers or former providers don't want to talk about their clients or experiences.  So, my advice is that no matter how curious you might be, leave the details of  her past  occupation our of your current relationship.  

Good luck. I hope it works out for you.

I second the recommendation on not bringing up the past.  If she wants to talk about it, she will.

Besides, you never know what you might hear....I saw one provider off the books for a while who complained of clients with little dicks!

Why risk freaking her out if she doesn't know until she lays eyes on you?  She might not be interested in seeing someone who used to be a client.

...make an excellent 1st impression! Maybe she thought he was a hottie as a client but never dreamed he'd be interested in her as a civvie. No rules here...as long as you convey that there will be no breach of confidence in the event of rejection, give it your best shot!

If you are not honest with her during your first "civvie" date she will likely put two and two together very quickly.  Honesty is your best shot if you like her...

Wow, I thought I'd be the only one lol. Good advice about not getting too curious about former clients, and he'll if I really want to know I can always read her reviews lol. I think I'll wait until the date to tell her. Just in case she doesn't remember from my pics  maybe seeing me in person might help and at that point she can't say no to a date so if she doesn't want to date a former client I at least have a chance to change her mind.

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Looking at her profile(can't believe I missed it) for job it says "entertainer". Do you think she is still in the biz? I guess that would be fine for right now, but if this relationship went much further probably not.

If physical and emotional fidelity are deal-breakers for you, maybe it's best to have that converation early.

All sorts of criminal activity has seeped into personal dating sites.  My first thought was the provider has started using the online dating site as another marketing tool.  I may be wrong, but what are the odds of you hooking up with a form provider in a state with 2.5 million women...pretty slim unless she's responding to every available add that  comes into the site.

.......and I say this wishing you a happy outcome, but do ya think you might be overthinking this?  Listen, I know that a lot of good advice has been given to you on this thread, but sometimes you just gotta go with the flow.  Take the next step, be honest and see where thiings go from there.  We see guys TOFTT from time to time, well, TOFY (take one for yourself).  My 2cents; Go out with her, have a good time and see what happens.  What do you have to lose?    And...I have dated "entertainers" and have had a lot of fun!!

...very fun, and interesting. I think I'll let this play out and see what happens..."

She either already knows or is entirely clueless. Never underestimate the beguiling ways of a woman.

Don't blow this chance. You're newly single. Have a few shallow relationships while you can.

Ride the wave!

So this could be one of those, particularly if she is looking for a sugar daddy.

Wouldn't she still be advertising as a provider in other ways if this were the case?