Couple of threads on provider-client relationships.  But what about providers that have S/Os and even husbands who they met as clients and then continue in the trade.  I've been two providers, both married clients.  One didn't work out and I don't know the status of the other, but in seeing them, they both said their husbands were OK with them staying in the business.  Then I've been with two other providers who husbands actively encouraged them to stay in the trade.  One was even in the house when I visited her.  I also know another provider who is now seeing a former client and calls him her significant other.   Maybe I'm just jealous!  Thoughts?

I have been with my husband for 28 years.  After first encouraging me to launch an adult website, my husband strongly encouraged me to become a provider.  We love each other very much, but my husband has a very strong cuckolding streak, and gets off on the idea that other men are given more attention sexually than he is.  I have some very close relationships with some of my clients and, if anything, they are better off for the fact that our relationships are drama free and everyone involved is enriched by their existance.

I appreciate Angie sharing her experience because she is in the unusual position (for this Board) that she actually has personal experience with the subject of her comments.  For the rest of us, commenting on the nature and quality of the personal relationships of others is a pointless exercise.  In this instance, the "others" are not even people we know.  They are described by people we also don't know and may not even exist.  All in all, I know that human relationships come in all shapes and sizes and my hands are full just trying to understand my own relationship.

They respectfully pay all my bills & ask me to leave the "trade" alone.



Kyla

I think it's more common that most people would suspect.  I know of at least a dozen providers that are married or have SO and all but 1 have told their partner.  I think due to the recent economy and unemployment rates, it is an option that maybe would not have been considered before.

you mean you had a session with a provider while her husband was in the house?
You didn't read the rules of mongering did you?

No personal experience but that's what I hear from people who have been in that position.  It seems like most guys have a hard time making the transition to SO and truly being able to accept their SO is still escorting.

I am in a many year relationship with a provider that is
ready to move forward.  The only way it works for me is
if she retires...although off the radar... she will never leave the
biz.  Its time for me to move on.  Dam.  More pain than I can
share.  It doesn't work.

And, even if she immediately leaves the business to be with you exclusively, there are too many issues that continually have to be dealt with.  I speak with experience.  Move on.  It's a sad thing to share, but you will be grateful at some time in the future if you listen to me now.

I don't mean this to be disrespectful or snotty, I truly don't, but, is that dating?  Isn't that just being paid differently?  Of course, it is all in personal perception, and if you and he don't view it as paying in a different way, then it isn't.  Just curious.