when visiting the incall location of a provider?  Provocatively dressed?  Conservatively dressed?  Naked?  Plain Jane?  Marilyn Monroe standing on a grate over an underground wind tunnel?  Some variation in between?  How about motif?  Candles?  Soft music?  Rock & Roll?  Subdued lighting?  No lighting?

Do you make the request for the above-mentioned in advance?  Or do you wait to see how the “cards fall”?  Initial impressions are almost impossible to re-do.  Ergo the phrase…..”You don’t get a second chance to make a good first impression”.

All or some subset of the variables mentioned can make or break an experience.

What do you ladies and gentlemen think?  Oh yes……the Marilyn Monroe scenario is doable on dates longer than a couple hours, but us ladies must plan, and choose the place. Lol

The first time I visit a lady, I generally do not make many request, I let her take the lead.  Maybe on the 2nd date, I might make a request.  

When a lady greets me at the door, I love it when they are wearing something sexy.  It helps put me at ease.  Also I love it when there are candles & music playing.  It shows me the lady has put some thought & effort into our date.

I want it to be an extension of the ladies personality and mood at the time.  I love variation and living new experiences.  The same old stockings and garters gets old quick, even if it were a new lady every time.

I don't want to have to preplan everything, how boring, surprise me!  I like it all, a lady in nothing but a mans open dress shirt is great, if he is your bf or regular and he left his shirt behind one day as he walked out in a daze.

You feel like an evening gown with all the fixins underneath, go for it..I love unwrapping a gift as much as any kid does!

You running late or dont feel like getting dressed, meet me at the door with your hair still dripping wet and nothing but a towel around you, it will be hard to sit and talk first, but I'll give it a horny mans best effort.

You want me to meet you in the shower, just leave the door open and I'll be there!

A  glass of wine on the balcony staring through your sheer clothing as the sun sets behind you, I sure as hell won't complain!

Now what am I supposed to do, I am all worked up and no place to go! Damnit Marie you always do this! LOL

I agree that candles and music set a nice atmosphere, but I am not all that concerned about the clothing a lady has on at the door. As long as she is wearing a smile and seems to be genuinly happy to see me then I am a happy guy. Its all about attitude.

Nice mood music is good, not to loud.  Good lighting because I"m a visual person and the older I get the worseter I see.  The attitude is more important than the dress.  For instance Marie has greeted me from sexy lingerie to blue jeans and I"ve always felt welcome.  But I gotta admit it"s a little bit of a fantasy to have a lady open the door naked.

Hi Marie,
I love woman provacatively dressed, with candlelights or dimmed lights, smooth jazz or sensual R & B, to set the mood. Maybe have a drink and chat awhile. Or I haved enjoyed woman being sexually agressive right inside the door, without saying more than "Hello" and then ....... Most of the time I do not request anything and completely satified, because I use TER to screen you lovely ladies.

Something kind of sexy is nice, like a nice negligee.

I don't make weird clothing requests, or ask for role playing, or other garbage.

I tell ladies to just  be themselves, wear a pair of "fuck me" stilettos naked behind the door. Put on make up, and be ready for a glass of wine or 6 and we'll party & fuck & have FUN !  I'm a FUN FUCK!

If a first meeting, i usually go with the flow but if a repoir has been established and i feel comfortable making a request, i will.  the best exxxperience I had was with a well rev'd lady, who has since moved away, when I answered her wardrobe question with, heels only.  I then followed up with, once in the door, no words, just a kiss and undo my clothing as you go down to her knees.  She was a wise lady and knew what to do after that. Frikken awsome! I never nade it past 2' in her apt before I was leaning back against a bookcase shaking at the knees at she did her work.  Someday Marie, if I get to the metro and we can hook up, I will ask the same of you.

With that knowing smile, a welcoming hug, and the look of "come on in big boy, relax and we will get it on".    mbs

candles, dimmed lights, soft romantic music, huge tight hug, a soft kiss and an incredible smile with a glass of wine.

Xoxo,
Amber Monroe

PS...Of course the MM scenario is incredible too...just bring a fan!

Sometimes I wonder...Tight jeans and a tank or some risque lingerie? But if a guy has a preference don't be shy to make a request!
To the ladies, if you feel sexy in whatever you are wearing, chances are that energy will show through and you will be beautiful regardless!

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One of my favorite memories of a first date,  was the time I asked her to arrive at my hotel with a nice dress on, but no underclothes.  You know a blind date is going to be ok, if she has no underwear.   She did exactly that,  but ended up at the wrong hotel. Being in a hurry she was trying to run through the halls,  but her stockings kept falling down with no garters!   lol  I had the wine and hug ready.  Best first date ever.

Most of the time I leave it up to the lady and enjoy the variety I get but once in a while I ask for her to wear something specific.

When emailing Wendy for our first date, she asked me if I had any requests. I said, yes, a sexy dress with stockings, lots of layers so I could peel them off slowly. It was 2 months before our schedules worked and we decided to do dinner first, we met on the street and she was wearing a black sexy dress, the whole nine yards. I was impressed she remembered and I had fun peeling layers off. A great date.
That said I love a gal who wears whatever she wants when we meet.

I had invited a lovely lady to my place and just as we were about to enter the bedroom and there was an incessant knocking at my front door. After dispatching an unsolicited visitor, I returned to my bedroom to find my friend topless lying on the bed in a sexy thong with her arms crossed covering her chest. As I stood there admiring the view she said the only words I wanted to hear "Could you finish undressing me....please?" I will cherish that memory forever.

Whenever asked if I would like something special for a first meeting my reply is always "Wear something you think is sexy" the creativity is amazing and I've never been disappointed.

Stilletos seem to enhance any outfit or mood that has been created. I love coming to the door when it seems like a mood has been created with candles, scents....it helps me to know she has been thinking about our meet, but above all; a smile and hug melt me and help break the ice immediatly, opening the situation up to a more relaxed atmosphere.

It is all about confidence and projection, isn't it?

a step in the right direction. I like something sexy, and flowing, and I love to help with the disrobing. I also love to be able to see what I'm doing. The female body is the most beautiful thing that Mother Nature has to offer me, so I don't want the lighting to be too dim. Soft, sexy music is always a plus.

There are some GrrrrrrEAT responses on here.  Maybe the MN board is making a rebound.  I would love to respond to all; alas....I cannot.

Thanks everyone for a most enlightening exchange.  Got the ole brain cranking again.  Methinks that my cohorts and I would like to read some more if they're out there.

Truly an educational awakening.

. . . H51, here. Dim, sexy lighting. Scented candles, perhaps? Cool, sexy music. Sharing a drink, whether I brought it or you provided.

I savor the process of slowly unwrapping while caressing and nibbling, whether it be something sheer and lacy or blue jeans and a T-shirt.

Panties and a t-shirt!

Personally, every encounter is unique. However, some of my very best PSE moments...were when I ushered the gentlemen through the door, in a skimpy little dress and stilettos. Hardly before the door closed, their pants hit the floor and I was on my knees worshiping their manhood.

In a different tone, relaxing with a nice glass of wine...listening to some R&B and stroking him on the couch isn't bad either.

Provider:  "Why, you're so handsome; so sexy!  I couldn't possibly take your money.  Put that donation back in your pocket and ravish me!!!"