Dear clients reading this, I'm sure none of *you* have ever texted or emailed a provider you've never seen before with those  2 little special words, "you available" or the 3 just as bad words, "you available now" ... but if you have, why? When you're hungry, do you go to the nearest restaurant, open the door and yells, "Food?" Or, "Pizza now?"
Dear providers, regarding this, would you take my poll on Twitter? Thanks!

How does a regular who see her ever so often go about asking her.  

I usually say 'are you available' 'hey lets hookup again' something short or should I say 'hey lets meet up at 8.'

How would you go about with this?

Well, restaurants always have food available.
Providers are not always available.

I am really spontaneous with my hobby, and when a dude is ready to go, he's ready to go.. and it can take a lot of surfing around to find someone available.  

If I was a provider, I would have an email autoresponder that goes to a calendar that shows when I'm availalbe.

This doesn't pertain to providers you've seen before. This is reaching out to someone new, out of the blue with, "U avail" and nothing else.

When inquiring about a brand new provider, at least introduce yourself. At least say, in adult English, that you'd like to see her and what steps you need to take to do that.

Yes but... I'm not available to those who don't want to screen - so there's that. But I get where you're coming from, Skip

Sometimes men can't plan when a rush of horny will consume us and we have to stick our dick in something or our prostate will explode.

How busy or not ,or when, or to whom is not for you to know unless said providers wants you specifically ( a lose regular friend or after screening)

what difference does it make. It seems to me you dont like your job and would not be any fun. I asked available , hi, hello etc.  never had too much of  a problem getting reply.

that’s a bit of stretch. I don’t think it’s fair to say that certain aspects of a job that are annoying mean a person doesn’t like their job or “wouldn’t be any fun”.  

 
She does make a good point though that it’s difficult for a provider to truly be “available now” specifically if you haven’t screened with them previously. Also, if a client is using provider references, both the client and the potential new provider are at the mercy of the client’s references (re: will they respond in a timely manner).  

 
Also, to be fair, statistically speaking those that reach out with “available” or “avail now” are time wasters. It’s why I encourage clients to have a “template” text ready. Something like, “Hey there “insert provider name”. I’m “insert your first name”. I saw that you’re currently listed as available. Could you get back to me and let me know if you are and if so, I can provide screening info ASAP!”

 
Like that text would inspire me to respond much more quickly and nicely than an “avail now”. I get to some people that providers are just “holes to stick your dick in” but we are people. At least give us the illusion you respect us.

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I think when you contact a new provider that being a Gentleman with a thoughtful,sincere, polite and respectful introduction will help in the screening & approval process. Just saying "Hey baby,you available"? shows that you are a jerk and she will not respond. For me I believe if you treat her like a lady (that she is) and be nice & kind, she will in turn reciprocate.

You're comparing "you available" to yelling?  That's a stretch.  I've used burner phones for years and until recently, they were always the horribly non-friendly flip phone that you had to press a number 3 times to get the certain letter you wanted.  Many times I've been in the metro and found an unexpected opportunity to have some fun.  Texting my physical attributes, kind thoughts or words of endearment is a real pain in the ass when you are reaching out to multiple providers to see who may be available.  What I've typed so far, probably 5 minutes at least from a burner.  Perhaps providers could come together and work on their customer service skills?  Yea, that was a joke but imagine a world where a guy could get either an immediate reply to his well thought out message, or an auto reply of I'm currently on my back/in the shower/off duty etc.  

If seeing "you available" keeps you awake at night, it may be time to look at doing other things.

Granted, a new client texting "U available?" isn't a good introduction.  But consider this:  A number of times I've followed providers' requests to send verifying info, including phone, ID and work info.  Then I hear nothing!!! My personal info is floating around somewhere in cyberspace and I've got no idea what happened to it.  

So it makes a certain amount of sense for a client to ask if the provider is available first.  Granted, it would be better for the client to elaborate and to be polite.  

But, why not just relax and respond with something like "See my website on how to contact me" or "I am available, but need you to send verification information."  

No need to get worked up about it.

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I agree, why would I go thru all the work of sending ref's and screening info to find out that your window is closed and won't open until I am unavailable?  Is there a chance that you are booked for the week?  

I understand that this can be slightly annoying, but that is part of customer service in the retail world....

Remembering a greeting card from 20 years ago, I write, "I've had it with you....Can I have it again?"

It only applies if she accepts DATY. IMHO

I understand, I've always tried to include an introduction until recently when  responses to my text and email drop way off
( and no I've never) so, I don't waist much time with it anymore. The bottom line is if they want to fill the opening or need the cash. I'll get an answer either way.

Yup. It's like calling a restaurant and asking them if they have table available now. It's hard for me to garner much sympathy to this problem Betty outlines, as someone who paid their college tuition through Marijuana, I would constantly get asked "you got some", "can I come thru?". Yeah it was annoying, but I made much more selling pot to college students than I did when I was a line cook at a restaurant  (which I assume Betty  is also making more hourly than an average restaurant worker) when I was getting paid pennies. Betty shouldn't compare herself to a restaurant, where the hours are longer, the pay is nothing, the customers are shittier, and the work is much harder. It shows 1. Her ignorance in the actual restaurant field and the work that goes into it. Which her comment about it comparing your situation to a restaurant shows that. 2. Shows how she doesn't realize the amount of privegle she has compared to the dishwashers, bus boys, line cooks, expo, etc who unless are fucking dying don't take sick days.  

Ive seen this comparison to other service jobs like restaurants and salons and it's  a fucking joke. As someone whose worked in restaurants and family owns a nail salon, it's preposterous. The amount of hours worked and the lack of pay far exceeds that of an escort. Escorting is much more akin to being a drug dealer. For her and other escorts comparing themselves to blue collar workers in the service industry is not only ignorant but is a fucking insult.

As someone with a job where I can go from quiet to busy at a moment’s notice, I’m not great at planning appointments in advance and am frequently in a spot where I’m looking for someone the same day after I realize I might have a window in my schedule.  

I never say, “you available,” instead I inquire about their schedule or their availability. Often times, I quickly get a list of times that are open. Now I realize this is more effective for the busier massage gals, but that usually works for me. And while it might not work that day, I do then have some times that could work later and send a follow up a day or so later asking if a certain time works.  

Do I always find someone who I want to see who is available? No, of course not (and it has gotten harder with fewer ladies working later in the afternoon). Do I try to be polite and thank people for sending me times? Of course.  

I am a believer in life that your kindness and energy is returned to you (and sometimes you get more kindness in return than you put into it). So be nice and it just might pay off with someone making time for you or treating you fantastically or the like.  

For example, a few months ago, my birthday fell on a day when one of my favorite providers typically doesn’t work. I knew I wasn’t going to work that day, so I emailed 10 days or so before. I said that I knew that she didn’t work on that day, but was wondering if she would work as it was my birthday. I left the timing up to her (other than one thing on my calendar) and booked 90 minutes vs. an hour. She was happy to see me that day, she brought me a cookie for my birthday and we had a great time. Some of that was a rare moment of planning in advance, but some of it was also me being someone who she didn’t mind seeing and asking nicely.

If I am inquiring for times with schedulers Ive been cleared and scheduled with before I keep my inquiry very brief "please send availability".  Only because I know they are turning emails around and all I need is available times.

On the other hand, if it is a provider who I have not seen recently or new, I always introduce myself, provide references in initial email and suggest times of day, days which work for me.  

You get more with sugar than spice as they say... common sense shit, use your brain

For the 1st 18 months of providing,  I did answer every "you available" text and email with a greeting and a link to my screening page. And guess how many responses I got back? Zero, zilch, nada.

So now I just mark them as spam b/c a few will send the exact text, U available, for weeks.  

I'm really not angry/ bent out of shape about it, I was just annoyed at the time. And I thought that this is where we go to air our grievances?  

I love my job and even though I could do many other legit things, this is what I choose. So this is a very small blip in the whole thing.  

But... Just know that even to your regulars, asking "you available" is not helpful. Much better is, "would you be available in an hour or two?" Or "would you be available at 1 pm?"

Most providers appreciate some advance notice. 🥰

This was in the eighties when minimum wage in Virginia was $2.65/hour. And I bussed my own tables in all cases. So I know about working long hours for not much money in the food industry.  

But seeing providers is a luxury, not a necessity.  

So I should have said it's like going to a very fancy restaurant that requires reservations and charges $70 for a steak, going in and asking, "Food? Now?"

They would point you down the street to the McDonald's or in our case, to your local adult bookshop or somewhere equivalent.