The craziness that was DaniDD and her constant ask for handouts?
Over the last 4 or 5 years I’ve become I guess friends with or at least friendly with a local provider. Perhaps you’ve found yourself in a similar situation in the past or even right now.
I want to help a friend get back on her feet!
With inflation and income going down she basically homeless with her dog. They’ve been staying in her storage unit since she lost her rental.
I’ve been helping as much as I can with money , food , blankets , essentials etc but it’s not enough.
Providers/Hobbyists - Are any of you aware of local shelters, non profits, food banks , charity organizations etc that are friendly and supportive of a person in her situation? Or ideas on raising money?
I deeply appreciate any ideas or suggestions that can help my friend and her dog.
Blessings to you all!
Thank you.
… are VEAP, Sharing and Caring Hands, and House of Charity. They all greatly appreciate donations and volunteers.
Here are a couple of links. Good luck !
http://www.hud.gov/states/minnesota/homeless
http://endhomelessness.org/how-to-get-help-experiencing-homelssness/
Maybe you and her other regulars could donate to pay for some new ads and photos to go with it. If that’s not going to help maybe she should look for another job. There is no shortage of jobs at all levels available right now.
To be honest. She should grind/hustle, it's all apart of the "game." Book a few clients, sell plasma, sell pot.
Why is she unemployable. I see help wanted signs all over the place.
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Mental illness?
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Felony record?
When a person lives in a storage unit it’s hard to get ready for work every morning. I mean I never tried it but it seems like it would be really hard to pull off. Or having a car to get to work. But that’s the goal Lester! She just needs a helping hand to get there. And why I’m reaching out to the community is to generate ideas and leads to places that can help. I’m doing what I can but it’s not enough and every day that passes it becomes more difficult for her and I can’t stand by and not try and do more. Ya know… can’t
There are many businesses in my area that are providing very cheap or even FREE housing for full time employees. If someone is truly interested in work, pm me. The pet thing could be an issue however. Side note, one thing I've noticed when I see people seeking help or outright asking for money on facebook; almost every time their wall is loaded with pet pics! Pets are expensive and so are smartphones but yet so many people have prioritized both over food/shelter....and btw, save me the lecture on comfort animals. Service animals yes, comfort pets...fuck off. If you don't continue to perpetually make piss poor choices, the support systems currently in place combined with the ability to find a job ANYWHERE gives virtually anyone the chance to be at least a little self-sufficient. Bring on the whataboutisms now 3...2...1....
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In my (expensive) experience, they can be a bottomless pit of financial need. Just be forewarned.
I'll always feel for anyone who's going through a rough patch in life but, if she was a halfway decent provider why would she be homeless. Unless she's a drug user most providers are making straight bank and she should be making more than enough money escorting to take care of things. Even if she was temporary staying at an extended stay hotel calm and shotel, she was getting at least 2 clients A-day and was decent it should be enough to pay pay rent for this.
… we don’t know what road they’ve trod.
I’ve known providers who’ve had serious medical problems that put them in dire straits personally and financially. I know providers whose business was hit hard by the pandemic and it was really hard to dig out of it. Drug use can be an issue, but may not be a factor at all. We really don’t know this provider’s history.
All the OP was was a request for ideas on how this woman could get some help while she’s down. If you don’t have any ideas, that’s fine. But why jump to conclusions?
In my defense a lot of other posts said something about it not being hard for her to find a job. Yes everyone has different circumstances but if it's a medical issue or mental health issue then hopefully she gets all the support she needs. The reason I stated it was probably drugs is a is a decent provider who's charging 3- 400 bucks an hour, if she gets 2 dates a day, she's banking easily $3000 a week. If you're making that kind of money, you should be able to pay all your bills . The only way you wouldn't be is, for the most part, if you're a drug addict.
Again I'm not saying I'm right I'm just saying that's hithat's a highly likely scenario. Plus, and I know I might get criticized for this, but if you're dealing with homelessness ,you really shouldn't be worrying about a dog unless it's a service dog.
Lack of friends or extended family is also a tell. They may really be alone in the world but pretty often they've alienated everyone with their drama and/or mooching. I've seen that to often in the sugar babe world.
… the organizations that help the homeless ask: “Don’t you have friends or extended family you can mooch off of?!”
I have so much to donate and offer as far is materials ,
SO MUCH clothing, from hosting clothing swaps.
I have food I can't eat anymore due to new diet , women supplies. I space for her to work if she needs it.
Either you or her can email me to collect
There are women shelters , calling 411 may be a great start. VEAP is a great options and every now and then other dinner shelters. I remember attending one in Bloomington not sure if they're still running out of the community center there next to Penn Ave
You’re so kind and helpful. Thank you
I’ll pass along your email. I hope she reaches out to you.
Peace and Blessing.
Good afternoon 
Hope you’re well!
I wanted to see if your offer is still open to help a fellow provider in need?
If it is, what’s the best way for her to connect with you if she decides to contact you?
I’ve suggested a shelter or something like that but she’s resistant at this point. I can understand.
Anything you feel comfortable offering would be so helpful I think.
Blessings to you….
The craziness that was DaniDD and her constant ask for handouts?
I remember DaniDD. She suckered me in with her crazy deals and sob stories once. She gave me the runaround to get to her apt, was proud her p411# was only 3 digits, considered herself a 10 even though she was more like a 4. One of the more entertaining dates I have ever had.
I know or seen quite a few providers living in hotels or long term stays and I know they don't make that much. My guess hotels/motels are out because of the dog so thats a poor decision on her end.
I remember my dad always telling me that if you see a "homeless beggar" on the side of the road ask if they have a cell phone. If they do than they aren't really that poor. That phone is worth more amount of money they have earned that day.
I'll chime in here.
Firstly, it's very easy for most of us providers to become homeless by just a few missteps. We work for cash, usually can't prove out income so we're at our landlords mercy or we're paying double. If we have a lease we're lucky but usually we don't or it's lacking and the landlord can take full advantage of us. If we don't like it, we can leave.
The good old days of pulling in 3-4 sessions per day is long gone for most and most of us barely get that a week now. The pandemic killed us too. Yes, some gals are still kicking ass but not all of us. So our bills and budgets are still up there but we're just not bringing it in. I know I've had to drastically downsize everything and re-do my budget and quit shopping so much (which kills me) to adjust to this post COVID economy.
Now to answer the OP's question. I can't put the name of the shelter on the board for security reasons but I would love to help this gal out. I worked at a shelter last fall. Will you DM me so we can exchange numbers?
More than twice as many men are homeless than women. But a homeless man is just a bum, so no one cares.
It's also gross to promote the whole useless "boot straps" mentality when that's what got people like this provider and many others around here struggling in the first place. You suck at humanity and compassion.
Some great links for shelters and other resources have already been provided. Has this person looked into any of these?
Usually there is a backstory that needs to be told in order to provide some helpful guidance. So.....please fill us in. Other wise we will just have meandering bickering.
You asked for resources you could send your friend to. You got that as well as some offers from providers. Give your friend all that information and get her pointed towards using those resources. At that point, consider bowing out or at least reducing your involvement in the situation.
Why? Because you run the risk of becoming emotionally compromised. It's easy to want to help someone whom you are attracted to and like being around. Sexual attraction can lead to making mistakes that mess up your life. Someone once called it "damsel in distress" syndrome. Taking a step back let's the people who are better situated to actually help her be the ones doing so, so long as she is actually willing to do so.
Beyond that, the rest of us don't know the specifics of her situation and there is a good chance you don't know as much as you think you do. It's good of you to want to help. Just remember to keep an eye on your own well-being as well.
Like SW is a business right? Then treat it as a business, change the business plan, make some specials. And if it doesn't work out, shutter the business and move on. There's statistics that say a new restaurant will fail within one year from 30% to up to 60%. Up to 80% don't make it to year five. Businesses just fail.