Hello. I know this is not the best place for this question but I'm not sure how else to get this information. I need to have two reviews to get to the provider boards so I'm asking here.  

I'm setting up my first incall and I'm not sure how to go about it. I am looking at local hotels, specifically looking to keep price down and to see about external access to the hotel to avoid passing by the front desk too often or with different men.  

In my search, I found some rant boards from hotel workers about escorts, and one of the messages was that they are especially suspicious of locals renting a room without a really good backstory. I guess this means I have one more issue to figure out...

So, I live in the middle of nowhere and my two friends are coming from basically equal distances away from me on either side, so it makes sense to pick someplace local, but now I'm not sure what to do?!

My ideas (if asked) is to say:
1: I have to be discreet because I'm having an affair
2: I'm renovating
3: I'm getting a new roof and I work nights. I need a place to sleep. (I like this one best)

Thoughts?

Thanks!

...my niece is getting married and us maids of honor need a place to gather for a ladies night out and to do her hair and makeup before the wedding. They just painted my apartment and the fumes are overwhelming. I just can't stand it right now. It needs a few days before I can tolerate it again. My 350# boyfriend shat in my bathroom and the fumes are overwhelming. I just can't stand it right now. It needs a few days before I can tolerate it again.  

Also, I'd stay in an upscale hotel ie: Radisson in metropolis with high traffic in terms of head count and don't be too cheap. That would be my suggestion.

I say my address on my DL is an old one, that I now live out of town, and that I'm visiting family.

It helps not to look "like an escort" when you check in. Sweats, no makeup, etc. And don't be nervous (or try not to let it show). Just treat them like human beings and they'll generally treat you the same.
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... often asked to require a woman renting a motel room, especially in the lower priced ranges, to justify why she needs the room. This is to deter just the type of behavior she hopes to participate in.  She did specify that she's looking for a low cost option. Your upscale suggestion doesn't really fit what she's looking for. An upscale hotel is highly less likely to inquire why a woman would need to rent a room for two nights.

Get an upper floor room in one of the nicer places, good prices can be found on the various hotel booking sites for a nice hotel. Avoid places with outside room access, it's far to easy for someone to watch what you're up to. Tell them the inlaws are in town and you can't stand it anymore. If you are questioned when checking in don't be afraid to act offended, that should be enough to shut them up. If you're just seeing a couple guys you shouldn't generate enough traffic to draw any attention to yourself. Good luck Abbey!

First:  The message board posts about the suspicious hotel workers indicates that they are probably limited to the front desk area. Interior hotel workers (e.g., cleaning staff) should not have any idea where your home is located. Tipping the interior hotel workers for their work (e.g., extra towels, flexible cleaning schedule, purposely not concerning themselves with your business) can alleviate many concerns.

Second:  Keeping hotel costs down is a source of frustration for almost all providers. A visiting provider told me yesterday of the incredible deals she has been receiving on "hotwire.com." However, some costs are part of any business endeavor. If you price yourself correctly, overhead expenses should not be too much of a concern.

Third:  Is it automatic that you will given access to the "Provider Board" if you actually receive two reviews?

Fourth:  In any event, do you really feel that you are prepared to enter the escort business? Gaps in your knowledge could prove detrimental. You should seek-out a trusted mentor in the provider community

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The problem with that Remy is you still look great even when you try to dress down.

Your hotel advice is spot-on. I met a provider yesterday at one of the better Hilton chain of hotels in the Bloomington area. I believe she got an $88.00 deal for a seventh-floor room on "hotwire.com."

The worries about outside room access and front desk traffic are out-sized concerns.

A genuine concern is if the upper-floor rooms are security card controlled. Limited access to areas requiring the provider to meet gentlemen on the main floor can create a huge, on-going discretionary concern.

Perhaps I just don't get it (and yes I understand I am not a woman renting a motel room ) but I would tell the people at any place that started asking those kinds of nosy questions that if they are not interested in my business, I will find someplace that is.

Escorts successfully rent rooms all over the TCs, including not so expensive ones and from what I hear you can pretty good deals on hotwire.com and similar sites.

Abby, I don't know how much direct contact you have had with other local escorts but I think they would be the best ones to provide you with good answers to these sorts of questions.  They been through all this before.

Good luck!

all great stories. Thanks. I'll stay away from any that will have them expecting women to show up. That may confuse them.

There are no options like that in my area, and I'm new and keeping my introductory prices low to get started. I can't have a hotel bill eating up too much of my revenue or it won't be worth it.

We don't have anything like that around here anyhow

Thanks. I was hoping for one with more than just one entrance, where the guys can come to a side or back entrance near my room and avoid scrutiny that way.

First: Thanks for that tidbit of info. If I can't do an early check-in, I may have to reserve the room for 2 days to accommodate both men who want to be seen during the day.

Second: I was looking at those sites and most I'd save in B.F. Egypt (where I'm looking) is negligible.  

Third: No. I requested access and the response was asking if I had at least 2 reviews. That's the criteria I'm aware of, anyhow... Same with P411.

Fourth: Yes. I'm taking it very slow, and being cautious. I am in contact with a provider who is active on these boards. I hope to learn from her. She's seen at least one (maybe both) of the gentlemen I'm going to meet.  

You bring up good points and your concerns are valid. I am doing what I can to stay safe and learn, but some of this stuff you can't learn ahead of time. So, I go slow and for now I'm only seeing gentlemen I have spent some time getting to know and who are active on these boards and have been whitelisted. It's the best I can do.

Thanks Vorlon,

I have very limited contact with a provider (and now maybe 2) and I thought asking here would maybe be a better option. I think ultimately this is a question that is best asked (and probably already has been) on the provider message boards where I can't get right now.

In all respects, you will do fine in this endeavor. Your questions and responses exhibit a distinctive level of sophistication and intellect. Women with significantly less mental resources have stayed safe. Thus, your elevated intelligence (and common sense) should serve you very well in your efforts.

After re-reading your original post and various responses, you may have a discretionary concern in utilizing hotels in your local area. A chance exists that you may run into a friend, acquaintance or associate that works at one of the hotels. For example, a friend of one of your children may pull duty at the front desk. Personal questions and feedback to family members are more likely to take place in local area temporary accommodation situations (i.e., renting a hotel/motel room).

Opinion:  It is not unreasonable to ask the gentlemen that you are arranging to meet to supply the in-call location (i.e., you do an out-call). If they experienced, they are well aware of how hotel costs will impact a starting escort. All of the burdens -- along with diminished rewards -- should not be assumed by a single party.

Dear Abby...keep in mind that secondary entrances usually have video surveillance cameras that are monitored at the front desk or by hotel security.

Thank you for your thoughtful post. I am very impressed with how well you pegged me in the first paragraph.  

Initially, one of the gentlemen was going to be the one to get the hotel, but I kind of imposed that on him and when we started talking about offering the space to the other gentleman I've been in contact with, I felt it was only fair for me to take on the responsibility for the hotel cost.

Truth be told, I'm kind of in a financial bind. I've already set my price point on the low side to get started, and talk on these boards about how expensive TER girls are vs BP girls leaves me wondering what is a good price point? That is another question for another day, of course, but you bring up good points with the incall location. I could talk to the gentlemen (I'm sure they are reading this) about this dilemma and see what they say. They live around a half hour from me in either direction, so offering to see them in their location is definitely doable but may be difficult on the same day, which we have already predesignated for this week. I don't want to delay this any longer, it's taken quite a bit of courage to finally take this leap and I'd be disappointed if it didn't happen.

You bring up a good point on the possibility that I know or someone in my family knows the people working the front desk. It is a very real risk I didn't even consider. Thank you. I live outside the cities enough that there is a great deal of countryside between "city limits" so if I just bounce to the next town it should be ok. I doubt anyone at a location even 20 minutes from me would know me or my family. That being said, it's a small town but it's a place where not a lot of people know each other unless you frequent the bar scene.

As for the burden, I've been doing a lot of reading and learning here on these boards and from what I understand the generality is that incall and outcall have pretty equal (yet different) risks/benefits and so many providers keep the prices the same for both.  

I don't want to wait. I want to get started.  

You got me thinking though. I think it's time to talk to the guys and see what they say.

Thank you

"I'm leaving my boyfriend and haven't found a new place yet."

Just an option if anyone asks.  It gives a reason why you're there and explains away the "revenge sex" without actually having to say it.

For myself, your detailed responses -- which continually highlight your sophistication and intellect -- have produced a compelling aphrodisiac effect.

Thus, I have grown quite envious of the position occupied by your two gentlemen friends.

Please keep me informed when your dance card expands. Thank You!

I love that one!

So you're a sapiophile too!

Good to know!!

1.  Do not volunteer any information.  If they ask, use a plausible reason but keep even that short.  
The more you say, the more fishy it will sound.    

2.  Book through Priceline or Hotels.com or Expedia ....you can usually get 3.5 - 4 star hotels for under $100/night.

3.  Wear a diamond or cubic zirconia  ring that looks like a wedding ring or engagement ring.  They signal out single ladies.

4.  Dress casually and comfortably...don't check in looking like a "ho".    

5.  Act as though you belong.   Also, make sure your gentlemen friends know where the elevators are and what direction they go once they get off the elevator.  There is nothing more noticeable than folks looking like they are lost.    

6.  Pack light for short stays.  Do not check in with your biggest suitcase full of gear for a 1-2 night stay.

7.  Leave your room.  It looks suspicious if you are in your room the entire time you are there.
When you leave your room, put all your working gear in your suitcase, in the closet, out of sight of maids.

8.  Dispose of used condoms and wrappers....do not put in your room trash. (Maids are nosey).  Stuff them into a styrofoam cup and, when you leave your room, dispose of it in a public trash can outside the hotel.

The idea is to be inconspicuous as possible.

GREAT tips there. Thanks!!

As a hobbyist I really appreciate 5, I usually ask on my final call for the layout of the hotel if I've never been.  Elevator, where the check in desk is and if there is an alternate entrance and exit.  I really hate hotels that the exit is limited to the front entrance.  
 

I like knowing where the elevator is ahead of time and whenever possible leave by a different exit than the one I came in.

I didn't have time to read all the posts so my apologies if this is a repeat.  

Leave the door open to the room, ask the client to not Knock but walk right in, especially if there is staff in the hallway.