For my daughter I would be shocked at first then would come the fatherly safety and financial talk.
If it where my son as a hobbiest, safety and respect. Be safe at all times be respectful of the ladies you see. Always make sure the lady is well reviewed and screening is a good thing not bad. LOL and lastly I would say DON'T call your sister!!
Just an open-ended question from all the parents' out there.. Thx!
I would hope I could talk to her very openly and honestly. I would make sure she was doing things safely, securely, and would encourage her to be financially wise by saving for a future outside of this business. Mostly though, I would just want to make sure she was safe... through both practicing safer sex and screening.
....... have a gut feeling my natural reaction would be to flip. Why? Because it's my kid lol *shrugs* .... no kids yet but I think after I cooled down and got into "calmer mom" mode I'd make sure if she was sure about it and make sure she was handling herself safely.
Damn, girl, we could have saved $200K or so and just had you skip that college degree. And, by the way, YOU can pay back the loans now so I can get my life back. And then we'd do the father/daughter stuff.
No morality issues, but life is full of choices. Would want to be sure the choice was well thought out and was truly hers, not a reactionary decision. Then, if it was indeed her true choice, I guess I'd have to help with her marketing plan ... might as well be he best!
While I do appreciate what the escorts I have seen do for us guys (at least for the most part; there are those I don't appreciate at all), it's not something I think fathers go around thinking about as a career choice, even short term for their daughters and I am no exception. We all know the risks involved in doing this and there is no way I could be other than concerned about it and have a very serious talk with her about those risks,
There was a story in the news this summer of a man in Israel who was traveling on business away from home. He called a provider through an ad and the person that showed up was his daughter.
Plain and simple I'd be very upset, hypocrisy and all! Then I would give her a hug and tell her I still love her.
Use an alias to make an appointment. If you are able to meet her, she doesn't screen well enough.
Obviously you then take the opportunity to tell her the risk she is taking and if you were able to see her without her having any clue beforehand, just think of the creeps, pimps, etc. that could take advantage of her.
Incidentally, the "daddy-as-a-client" thing may be disturbing enough to spoil escorting for her and get her to quit outright without a second thought :p
I'll admit right up front that I don't have a daughter, nor do I have a lot of experience with providers. But the providers I have met seem like intelligent, level-headed women who enjoy being open with their sexuality and appreciate what they can do for their clients. It's not a perfect job (what is?, but I'd like to think that if she's enjoying the work and being safe, I'd accept it.
There's a difference, though, between a rational and emotional reaction, and I'd guess my emotional reaction would be something like the Chris Rock observation, "If your daughter's a stripper, you fucked up." I expect I'd be angry and upset, not at her specifically, but because I'd be desperately trying to figure out how I failed her.
First thing I'd have to decide is whether to disclose that I am a hobbyist. Cuz, you know, if I do it's 90% that her mother finds out also.
If I won't own up, it's pretty hard to give her sage counsel how to be safe and professional.
Whether or not I decide to bite the bullet, I hope I wouldn't react with anger or horror. I had to get past the squick factor of knowing my little cupcake would be sucking cock and getting fucked the day she left for college (before that I could cling to willful ignorance). I don't believe I harbor any scorn for the profession, even if I don't completely admire every single woman who participates in it. In fact, I think the anecdotal reports of women escorting to put themselves through grad school make a lot of sense. They are old enough to decide, sophisticated enough to do it safely and well, using the money for a worthwhile purpose, and hopefully having some fun along the way. Reacting with anger or horror for my own daughter would suggest a real lack of insight into my own state of mind.
Absolute last thing I would do is show up at her door as a client. Therapy is too expensive.
For my daughter I would be shocked at first then would come the fatherly safety and financial talk.
If it where my son as a hobbiest, safety and respect. Be safe at all times be respectful of the ladies you see. Always make sure the lady is well reviewed and screening is a good thing not bad. LOL and lastly I would say DON'T call your sister!!
thought quality of the responding hobbyists and are impressive. Nicely done fellas and great thoughts toward a most difficult situation. You are good dads.
Interesting question, Sexy.
So far, most of the replies here have covered how people would respond if they learned that their offspring was a provider. The responses are interesting but I'd also like to learn the thoughts of providers if their parents learned that they are providers.
This post is really interesting because I know exactly how my parents would react! Probably try to dunk me in holy water or something. Mom would cry, dad would cry eventually but probably ask why and try to give me money haha. Mom would tell me to 'go back to my roots' and read my one year bible I cracked once when I got it, and dad would probably be more reasonable and buy me a gun. Needless to say, my parents will never know - out of state student! ![]()
I suspect that the majority of respondents have a SO, and response cannot be made without a huge consideration to her/him relative to the outing. If one finds out, the same leak can be made to the SO, and he/she had better never find out how you reacted in any solo fashion. Seeing a provider is one thing, and may not be the final straw if caught. Acting alone relative to a daughter and getting caught, I don't like you odds.
That depends on how you find out about the daughter. Even if you do discover it by seeing her ad that doesn't mean you necessarily have to tell her about your activities. For example, you could say someone showed it to you.
I took it a little further about 5 threads above. Your's inspired me. The post just above mine asks a similar question, and is probably deserving of a separate thread too.
I accidently met one of my neighbor's 20 year daughter who was going to school at ASU while I was on a trip to Scottsdale a few years ago. Needless to say when the hotel door opened, we were both shocked and speechless.
Where's the review?
She was a really low volumne, like 2-3 times a month. She just wanted extra spending money and she quit the business a couple months later. Although it was interesting to see her at her parent's Memorial Day pool party later that year.
Happened to me too on a trip to Chicago. Friend's daughter...
She'd lost her job and didn't want to tell her folks about it (her Mom was a total bitch about her moving to CHI for her job) and started escorting as an indie to make ends meet. The shock probably wasn't quite as bad because she'd been a stripper here in Minne before she moved and I'd had more than a few dances from her, so she knew I could keep a secret. It was still a bit of a surprise.
Got to admit, strange at first, but after a bottle of wine and some talk it was probably the best sex I've ever had.
Too bad she's out of the business now...
"I have a daughter? Thank goodness you're old enough to support yourself."