I want to thank Priscilla for reminding us that this should be fun! We shouldn't let the drama-seekers get to us. I will try to be more helpful this time around. We were all newbies at one time.
Sometimes I think that being an asshole can be contagious. I may have caught a temporary case of that before I replied to your OP. In my defense, I had just re-read a post from a scum bucket who had actually been giving a lady grief about her offering to relay important safety information to other providers about a dangerous client, thus my mood was foul and my patience absent!
Sometimes it can be difficult for some of us to distinguish the difference between those who are new and lost and those who are just lazy.
You have found TER. That already puts you miles ahead of the newbies who just see a backpage ad, make a phone call, get hung up on, make another phone call, get hung up on, make another phone call and blindly go off into the night. Finding what you need to know is not always easy if you are new to this site. The navigation can certainly be less than intuitive.
There are "rules" to this site and to this "hobby".. Some are explicit, some are only implied. Some are general rules, some are rules specific to the lady. When it comes to rules, there are multiple general principles which apply. I consider the two most important principles to be safety and discretion. I will give you some advice to help you start to find your way. If sometimes it sounds like I am scolding, that is not the intent. My intent is to tell you some things you need to know to start learning more about all of this. Always keep safety and discretion in mind. Read, read, read, and then read some more.
In my weakened condition I was unable to resist the irony of the question "anybody have any information on her?" regarding a provider who probably has more reviews than anyone else in our state. Her name also comes up (in a positive way) fairly frequently on this board. In addition, she had just placed an ad a little over a week ago which was followed by numerous posts on the thread citing her as a positive example in regards to her communication skills and clarity, in addition to her other virtues.
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=138802&boardID=21&page=3
I also see now that you had added a message to that thread asking about an appointment. That is a bad idea for multiple reasons, some of which I will expand upon here.
1. It violates the principles of safety and discretion.
These are public boards. Anyone willing to click through the disclaimers can view all of the messages. This can include persons that don't have your best interest or her best interest in mind. I'm not going to list the various multiple possible negative scenarios related to this, but hopefully you get the idea. The time, date, and location of your meeting isn't anyone else's business but yours and hers (and maybe in some cases someone that a lady keeps in touch with for her safety).
2. You asked for a 30 minute appointment.
Want to get an appointment with a provider? Follow her rules. Read everything on her website. Twice. Read her ads. Twice. Do see any mention of 30 minute appointments in any of the information that she has provided? No. That means that she does not provide 30 minute appointments. If you request a 30 minute appointment from any provider that does not offer that, it is highly likely that you will never receive any response back from any phone message, any email or any text. Just like anyone else, these ladies have things to do and can't waste their time with people who can't be bothered to learn the basic requirements for making an appointment with them. It's just good business sense. If you knew how many rude, inappropriate, explicit, or uninformed communications these ladies receive you would be stunned.
30 minute appointments are inevitably rushed, 30 minutes go very quickly. I get the impression that you will be wanting to be able to start to get references from the ladies you will see. Most ladies will not be comfortable giving a reference for someone that they've only known for 30 minutes. That is understandable. If you worry that you will finish too soon and that the rest of the appointment is then a "waste", pick a lady that has massage and escort both in her profile. Getting a 30 minute massage by a lovely lady at the beginning or end of your appointment has its own merits. If you want to make sure that she has excellent massage skills, that is something you will need to look for.
3. You didn't follow her instructions for contacting her.
This lady DOES do one of the best jobs of explaining how best to contact her, as well as explaining what her anticipated response time is likely to be for each method. Different ladies have different contact and communication preferences. Find out what her preferences are and follow them.
4. Contacting a lady by posting on a board is not likely to work well.
Ladies have things to do and people to see. They might not even look at a board until they decide to place an ad again. By then the thread has moved off the first page and is unlikely to be seen by her.
I've included some links here to give you a start on learning more here on TER
FAQ for newbie
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/messageList.asp?boardID=33
Self-Help Center
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?BoardID=33&Page=1&Messageid=75528
How to search
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=83810&boardID=33&page=1
Before posting a thread asking a question, search to see if the subject has been covered before (see "How to search" above). Most questions have been asked before. Sometimes it is worthwhile to search the same term(s) on the Newbie, General, and Minnesota board. Key words like "verification" and "references" or a provider's name.
If you don't already have them, get a cheap throwaway phone and a separate hobby email account. Search "phone" and "email" on TER for more advice on this.
When communicating with a lady, even in person, I think the best advice advice I ever got about communicating with providers was "Don't ask a lady for what you want, she already KNOWS what you want." This applies until the two of you are in a position where you are very comfortable with each other. Of course she needs to know the date, time, and length of appointment that you are interested in, and in some cases whether it is incall or outcall, etc.
When contacting the lady that you decide on for you first appointment, let her know that you are a newbie. That gives her a better idea of what to expect for the appointment.
The ladies who are members of this profession have earned my respect and admiration (and in some cases my money). The vast majority of them want your visit to be a good experience, both for you and for them. Relax and enjoy your appointment!
You'll know for certain that everything went well, when before you leave she flashes a coy, sweet, seductive, genuine smile and tells you that you are welcome to return again in the future.
