Ok, so I just did my first two reviews, and I am finding it very difficult to write about "juicy details".  I am not naive about this hobby, but I still believe in treating women with respect and feel that the time we spend together is more than just physical.  As I mentioned in another post, I consider myself extremely fortunate to have spent time with Hilary and Alantra.  I just do not feel that the real experience with these wonderful, beautiful women is encompassed merely by any physical act.  Any attempt I made at describing it as such seemed.... extremely understated.  Again, I am not naive, and I am not under any illusions here on what roles we play.  I know that I work too much and this hobby is not the "normal" way of dealing with basic human needs, but I still consider my time with these women as "my time" and feel a little weird explicitly reviewing what my experience was like... Am I the only one who is thinking this way?

If you refer to my review of Hilary, I believe you will find I fought the same delimna.  When someone deserves respect it is difficult to write about them in a way that conveys anything less.  You are not naive, you simply have a healthy respect for women...

I understand where you are coming from, but this site is about helping your fellow hobbyist out and to let him know what to expect with a provider.  I would love to have a bunch of UTR providers but am not anywhere near such social circles.  There are too many scams and bait and switches out there that at least some juicy details are necessary in the reviews so no one gets ripped off.

It is still possible to post an informative review without the tacky "play by play bullcrap" where many of the reviewers try to make themselves out to be Superman.  Creativity allows you to accomplish both objectives...

If you are in this hobby, you need to acknowledge that she is not going to be your girlfriend or your one and only.  So there is no need for a kiss and tell rule.  Just let us here know what the experience was like.  The more reviews the better.  Enough of beating a dead horse.

I only started in the hobby in June, and have only a handful of reviews.  I've included enough "juicy details" to make sure the reviews are published, and to help my fellow hobbyists make informed decisions about these ladies.  But, with most of them, I've also left some details of what we did out, precisely out of respect for them, and "our" time together.  So, as another poster said, you really can accomplish both goals--helping fellow hobbyists and respecting the ladies--with the right write-up.  I agree that the "Then we did this...and then we did that..." with a hundred self-glorifying comments gets old really quick.

I also have a very difficult time writing reviews. To me, when you have a connection in a session, its so much more than the physical act. This makes it much harder for me to write a review because I want to treat them all with dignity and respect, which I feel they (the providers) deserve from all of us hobbiests. My problem is, I never took that creative writing class in high school....
Maybe I should take one now.

As i read these posts i agree 100 % .... the providers deserve a good review when it is due and we need to be honestly informative to each other so that the review tells the truth, but i love to be able to write in such a manner that it is also somewhat dreamy so that it is both informative and a pleasure to read............ i respect the provider and in MY dream we are the only ones but i have to realize that that ends with we hug good bye, or at least til session # 2. And we need to be able to close our eyes and relive the reviews that are written by others and enjoy them on the same level.
thanks for starting this thread! It sure beats looking at the dog out the window........ or someone ranting about his dear john letter.........oops that was me

to write juicy details! We ARE in the sex industry after all! I think society puts shame and guilt around such a NORMAL and NATURAL thing to do......and we, by osmosis, can't help but pick up on that distorted thinking.
Isquared......I DO believe this hobby IS a NORMAL way of dealing with human needs, after all, don't we all need sex??? Embrace it baby.....

I would have more reviews if I could just do the multiple choice part. Ive written 3 reviews that I never submitted, and there's 3 more I never started. I'm on the verge of having more white listings than reviews.
I suck as a reviewer but I definitely don't mind shilling when I've had an appointment that's worth braggin' about.

You have such a balanced perspective of what this "hobby" is all about. It's about sex, fantasy, romance and human connection, all at varying degrees based on the individuals involved. Sometimes it even varies within the relationship, (yes, I did use the "R" word). There are times a man just needs to hold someone soft and beautiful, and there are other times that a man is more primal and raw.

Thanks for getting it!

I was taken aback by how explicit it was.  I was very new to all of this, and barely aware that people wrote accounts of our sessions!  It brought me (very quickly, I might ad) to a state of complete reality at what I was doing.  I thought...."that's exactly what went on, OMG-others will read about it, too!"

And then, another review was written, and it wasn't so difficult for me to, well...swallow.  I provide sexual services, and telling others about the experience is helpful for the fellow hobbyists to decide if we are a good fit.  And, that takes details.  

I don't see it as disrespectful.  It's factual (hopefully) and educational (if not embellished).  But, VERY personal.  I'm used to it now.  And, am thankful when someone takes the time to submit one.  

So, thank you for being helpful to us!

That is why I have never written a review. I never see new, unreviewed Providers, only well reviewed ones. Most of them have so many reviews that are all good, mine would just be one more great review.  Having said that, I somethimes feel I am doing them an injustice by not reviewing them. It's a dilemma.

have left me at a loss for words. They are exceptional both in and out of bed. If Shakespere were a hobboest he could. (he makes a good fishing rod too!)   Again, I am at a loss...

They not only serve as a resource for other hobbyists, they help to remind well-seasoned hobbyists that we are still providing exceptional service, and to be noticed by the newbies on the site that may not have known....

so, review away!!

I know I said I wasn't going to beat a dead horse, but you hit the nail on the head, Alantra.

Of whose true-fix'd and resting quality
There is no fellow in the firmament."  William Shakespeare

… so we should have a bit more freedom to express ourselves in our own way.

Further, TER’s rejection of reviews that don’t meet their juicy expectations can encourage misrepresentations.  Boasting about something as seemingly innocuous a long DFK that didn’t happen can have unwanted ripple effects.

Then, too, some of us generally prefer to write more metaphorically.  Some of us just don’t talk about Fight Club. Some of us prefer not to paint the lily ... and so on and so on and scooby dooby doo-bee.

In hindsight, I suspect many would rather have just not been such cheap bastards and simply paid for VIP membership from the start.

I really do need to come visit you soon...

I don't choose to talk about Fight Club.  It does nothing to hold my reviews back either.  The only point I was making earlier is that if I write a well deserved good review for a provider, I'm not the star of the review and sometimes more was earned by the provider than a Dear Forumish account.  I've read yours before and they are well though out and somewhat similar in nature.

I would ask the lady in question...

Some providers like explicit details because it communicates what they are willing to do.  This helps them get phone calls from review postings.

While it is important to share information, both good and bad, it is also important to do so in a tasteful fashion, and without being unnecessarily derogatory. Striking a balance is difficult. So, yeah, I struggle with this one too.

Thank you all for your responses!  It makes me feel much better that I am not the only one struggling with this particular aspect of this hobby.  

On another note, I just received notice that my reviews were not accepted since they did not included a "blow-by-blow" description of the encounter that was detailed enough...  If I am honest with myself, I respect and encourage those willing to go into explicit details, but I am not sure I am at the point to do that quite yet.  As Alantra pointed out, I am sure this will probably change when I take a deep breath and just do it, and I am sure I am having these issues due to long held (and mistaken) beliefs created by a puritanical society when it comes to sex (as Hilary pointed out).  Nontheless and however they got there, they are still nagging at me and I can not quite shake them loose yet.  For that, I apologize to the wonderful providers I have visited and hope you understand...

So, it seems for the time being that I am stuck with the discussion boards and hope you all bear with my questions and thoughts on this and other matters.  Thank you all again for your thoughts and helping me out

Let loose, isquared.  I too have had reviews rejected for not being explicit enough.  Lots of people in your boat.  Hope to see your reviews!

I believe the purpose of a review is to provide information for fellow hobbyists to use to help decide if the lady is someone they would like to see.  If you are too vague in your description, you really aren't helping anyone out.  For me, the best reviews allow me to get a good sense of what it would be like to be with the lady in question.

I understand the reluctance many of you have to be explicit but consider this.  Presumably, you did research on the ladies you chose to see and read reviews of them.  Which of these reviews were most useful and why?  If all of the reviews you read were pretty general, would you have been as confident in the choices you made?

I couldn't review in such explicit details. It seems to demean both parties, the lady moreso.