A woman gets to set her own security rules including how to confirm that the guy on the other side of the door peephole is the same as her email correspondent.
If you do not like them, move on.
I never said "A woman should not get to set her own security rules including how to confirm that the guy on the other side of the door peephole is the same as her email correspondent."
Reading would be your friend.
...everyone has their limits to what makes them feel comfortable in either booking or not booking on both sides. If that's something that you're not willing to do, there are plenty of other providers that will screen you in a way that makes you both comfortable & that's who you should spend your time with. Whom ever you feel most comfortable with. No fun is to be had when either party feels that their boundaries are being pushed beyond their comfort zone. I have at a minimum of 1-2 guys/week that ask me for pics with my face not blurred. I kindly decline, letting them know that if I wanted to share those images, they'd have already seen them and that my "regular" job/real world privacy are important to me and just not something I'm willing to compromise on. Some understand, some don't. The ones that don't, move on and that's okay with me too since it's the best option for the both of us. I don't want to spend my time with anyone that doesn't respect my boundaries & wouldn't expect anyone else to feel pressured to compromise their comfort level either. Best of luck to you and always stay within your comfort zone while respecting your possible partners boundaries as well. 
Have a phenomenal, long weekend all & play safe! 
Xoxo Dani
*kiss-kiss*
You are not alone in NOT sending your pic....I've been asked and declined also. And I realize the
provider has the right to ASK for whatever she needs to feel safe. If either one of us is not
comfortable we move on.
No way would I send that personal information. I would limit myself to those providers who do not require it.
There is a part of my booking form where it asks if the individual is okay with sending a photo (I call it a glamour shot). I have yet to ever decline a date from someone that said, "Absolutely not". Then again, so long as the individual requesting the meeting is providing the information I request, I can ensure I'm not meeting a colleague or close friend.
Also, something to be aware of - not every provider accepts referrals alone. Especially since there's been a trend of referrals being... embellished.
I won't do that either. If that's what she insists on then it's time to move on.
I agree with Vorlon. My screening protocol is strong but I don't ever require a pic from a gentleman before our appointment. For those providers who need it to feel safe, I agree, they set their own protocols and have a right to adhere to them.
There are some awesome men who agree with Vorlon and I don't want to send them away. Also, once a man is screened, I will send him a face pic if he asks because he is the one paying for my company.
I request a face picture and name, but I am diligent about getting it in my home town more versus traveling, as I do it more so I can confirm I do not know the person that is contacting me. And I hate blind dates!!! You know what I look like....I like to know what you look like!!!
And not sure what you do for a living, but I do have some high profile clients (doctors, dentists, military officers, CEO's, police, fire fighters) and they give the screening info that I request without incident. Are you worried about blackmail? Your picture being posted somewhere? If that is the case I would say make sure you are seeing reputable ladies with good reviews. Once we do our screening all your personal info is deleted.
In the end we all want to be safe and have fun.
Xoxo
Scarlet
Dear Scarlett,
Serious question (not trying to be mean): If I'm LE, which of the following do you think I'm more likely to provide: (a) face pic or (b) referrals from reviewed providers. I think (a). Am I wrong?
Best regards.
Well, I have clients that are LE, and yes, they sent me their face picture. So, A and B?
Xoxo
So I don't think you answered the question I asked.... what do you think is going to happen to the picture? Do you think we sit around and make client collages out of them? (I am being sassy, but really, I check your picture and name, TER and P411 handles, and delete your info. )
To answer your question, no, there's never been any security/information breaches in Minnesota, right? All providers NEVER keep any personal info, right?
I am from Wisconsin, silly!!! We are nice to the east!!!
Well, I am nice.
You know the saying "A fool and his money are soon parted?" A fool and his personal info are soon parted.
And if you think a pic is not personal info, why do you think so many providers don't post their face pics?
Send me a PM. I will happily send you a full face picture of the one and only Mistress Scarlet.
xoxo
See my post below. If that's example of what can happen to "High Profile" well they low hanging just fruit just may be fucked.
I'll keep my privacy . This is the day and age of social media. Where all bets are off , not by all but to many for my comfort.
Posted By: WIMissScarlet
Re: face picture
I request a face picture and name, but I am diligent about getting it in my home town more versus traveling, as I do it more so I can confirm I do not know the person that is contacting me. And I hate blind dates!!! You know what I look like....I like to know what you look like!!!
And not sure what you do for a living, but I do have some high profile clients (doctors, dentists, military officers, CEO's, police, fire fighters) and they give the screening info that I request without incident. Are you worried about blackmail? Your picture being posted somewhere? If that is the case I would say make sure you are seeing reputable ladies with good reviews. Once we do our screening all your personal info is deleted.
In the end we all want to be safe and have fun.
Xoxo
Scarlet
I do this for my own safety. I'm not sure what the drama is about, move on
LOL, right?!? (TER Minnesota board virtual high five!)
You screened with a new provider and have repeated without being screened AGAIN.
Well how do you think that happened. By magic , no . Yes they do save info on you, you just don't know to what level. Face pic not a chance I'm sending that.
I save emails from gentlemen, nothing else, FYI.
I will not send a picture. I will move on... no hard feelings.
I have no problem with providers who want a picture, but since I won't share it, I move on.
Everyone has different things they will or will not do to feel comfortable.
Was blackmailed for over a year. I got the upper hand, and now the lady no longer is a provider because of it. Was a hassle. Time and involving authorities.
This is ROFLOL crazy/nuts! 😀
If I was asked, I would ask her to first send me her full name, social security number,drivers license number and current and last three physical addresses.
What is a face pic gonna tell her BTW?? Unless, perhaps she won’t see an AA etc. - only Caucasians...
I happen to be a Caucasian and I occasionally see TER ladies who state “No AA’s”. I won’t see her - my $.04
How is the world is asking for a face picture the equivalent to all of the above personal information? I ask for a current face picture to (A) confirm I don't know you (I live in a small town) and (B) confirm the person that walks through the door is the same person I have been talking to. I do give out my current address as I do sessions in my home, so yes, if wanted you could very easily confirm my true identity. (No, not a big deal for me.) I keep all of my clients info confidential and would expect the same from them.
If you do not agree with the screening info that a girl asks for than move on. All gals have the right to request what makes them comfortable according to their situations. Insulting a gal's screening practices are just tacky and unnecessary.
Just curious, but how many (say in a month or year) do you not see because you know them? Being from a small town, I would expect that you may have a higher percentage of guys you know than you would if you were in a large city.
I would say 5%. Not a large amount, but enough for me to continue the practice of asking for your picture.
A couple gals that I did want to see required actual full and last names, which to me is even more compromising than sending a photo.
The girls asking for this info say it's required for their safety. "My safety" is the same reason I refuse to ever provide it.
One is enough to fuck up your shit.
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Well, I can confirm that no once will ever say I am BSC. Kind of lazy, yes. Not a great house keeper, yes. Probably has too many pets, yes.
BSC? No.
Good to know that may not be your case.
But if hooker shows up to the dudes door and asks for cheese , I rest my case.
It happened , but he wasn't laughing as hard as you.
Those guys screen the women too. If a lady wants your real full name, those guys get the real name of the lady too. ‘Tit for Tat’. I don’t have the ability to do this. But it sounds like it works for them.
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You guys crack me up!! Do you worry this much every day about getting into a car accident? About losing your job? About dying?????
Who cares if someone knows your info? Live life without worry. I do not care if clients know my real name. The worst that has happened so far? I get cards and gifts in the mail.
Be a good person and be kind to others, including your lady of the night. Good karma will come back to you. Now go out and get laid!!!!
Xoxo
Scarlet
Yes. Worry every day about ‘getting into a car accident’, and ‘dying’,or ‘losing our job’..if involves a hooker! I don’t need my wife learning about this life either.
Taking the advice of retired hookers. With no strings attached to the biz any longer.
