I had the opportunity to see a very pretty and charming lady today that just turned 18 a few months back. She was so petite that I bet she weighed less than a 100lbs and was definitely under 5ft. She told me that someone wrote in a TER review that she offers a BBBJ which she states she has never done in her two months as provider. Anyway, an asshole came to see her a few days ago and demanded a BBBJ after he had given her the donation, which she refused do and he punched her in the eye. She said that he had become quite angry when he could not get a decent erection and blamed the condom and her. She showed me the bruise on the orbit around her eye, which was somewhat hidden by her mixed race complexion but was very obvious once she showed me. It broke my heart that she and other providers have to go through this kind of crap. She was a very gentle, sensual, and affectionate provider with me. My point is that it is very important that we relate the details of our reviews accurately. It had never occurred to me that some asshole could take my words and use them against someone else in an abusive way like happened to this young lady. I'm sure that these things are only the tip of the iceberg for many provider's experiences but at least this is one we can do something about.
It saddens me beyond words when I read of such things happening. This is supposed to be a pleasurable experience but how can a gent find pleasure in beating a woman? This I will never understand. Unfortunately, things like this do happen and because we do what we do, many ladies do not feel they can report the crimes against them. We have been robbed, beaten, and raped and worse. We are left to feel as though there is nothing we can do because we are providers. The men who do these things count on us being fearful of reporting their asses. But, let me say this to all the ladies...we are not punching bags, we have feelings and we bruise easily. NO means NO...we are women first, providers second. We do not have to tolerate being mentally, physically, or sexually abused by ANY man. If any woman should ever find herself in this position, she can come to me and I will offer advice, give her a few phone numbers of local helpful resources, and offer all the support I can. I have already done it once for one lady and will do it again. Thank you to the gentlemen who understand and appreciate that the providers are ladies and should be treated as such.
It is important when writing reviews...please leave out any location information and any "extras" you get that are not a normal offering, and let UTR ladies remain UTR.
Thank you, Belinda
This story also points out the need for screening. And for both GUYS ans GALS to cooperate with screening efforts.
Yes! Yes! And... if you feel able to do so, direct her to companions you know who might show her the ropes. It seems that she could benefit from some mentoring from experienced professionals.
It doesn't matter what he read. It doesn't matter if she did BBBJ with some other client. Assault is unacceptable and I hope that somehow that miserable creature ends up locked in a cell for a long time.
A fucking coward decided to abuse someone he was pretty sure could not or would not defend herself. The girls brother was sitting on the other side of the door, I guarantee you this scumbag takes his bbbj request and slides it up his ass. He punched her because he knew he would suffer no consequence. So coming here to tell us to please respect the ladies, foo foo fa fa, is excuse me please miss bell, utter bull crap! Guys who come to TER are not the punchers and abusers you need to be talking to. Your attention needs to be directed to those women who think so little of themselves they would allow a fucktard to assault them with no repercussion. Even the bible says there is a time and place for everything. You don't cut steel with a wet noodle. Sometimes in life you say the hell with the consequences and refuse to allow the assholes to win.
I am so sick of the 'I'm so scared of the police finding out I'm a provider that I will just let any man abuse me.' Bullshit. Chances are this coward has far more to lose by you calling the police than you do.
And so long as we ignore the real asshole in question and focus instead on the lesser things, screening, educating, these cowards will continue to get away with harming innocent women.
evil thrives when good people stay silent, even in the world of undercover sex.
when I said "we bruise easily" .........do you really fucking think I was talking about PHYSICAL bruising!!!!!! The scars are deeper than skindeep. If you really read what I wrote, you will see that
I wrote that these guys do it because they count on providers being afraid of reporting their asses to LE. I have been there for one lady and would and will be there for any lady in such a situation. The police will let the misdemeanor prostitution charge go to get a rapist or batterer off the street. What this man did is not just physical assault ...it is sexual assault. He forced her to do something she did not want to do. Sir, do you think yelling, screaming and carrying on is going to get ladies in that position to listen? It will not. It will likely scare them since the ones attacking them are yelling, screaming and carrying on. Compassion, dear, these ladies need compassion. And, wise counsel by those that have been in her shoes. But guys like the one the OP was talking about justify their actions by what they read in reviews and because of what we do. This is why it is important to be cognizant of what you write in them.
This is what I said, in case you needed me to clarify my position.
If you think that the guys of TER would not and do not assault the ladies. You , quite frankly, are clueless. Some TER guys are no better than the guys looking for their next victim on the street corner. So please do not lecture me. I know. I have witnessed the aftereffects of abusive scum
from this very site. MEN ARE MEN. I don't care if they are on TER or BP or CV or if they are trolling the gutters. MEN are MEN and some will fucking do what they want to get what they want. SOME of the men here are no different ............SO GET IT STRAIGHT!
The first step in preventing it, is screening. Some ladies do none. It's not acceptable in this day and age. You don't know if the guy you are meeting is the POPE or JACK the ripper. Screening is important for our safety and yours too, guys.
The second step is educating ladies. Teaching them and showing them that they will not get into trouble with LE for reporting crimes against them. Just because we are sex workers does not mean we are asking to be sexually assaulted, raped, beaten, robbed, or murdered. We are always women first and deserve to be treated well. There are places to go for help.
You don't necessarily have to disclose The circumstances under which you met either. We are a creative lot in the bedroom, we can be just as creative & convincing w/ LE as well. His word against yours, & you're the one w/ the bruises! Abusers...Don't be so sure you are safe from consequences because you walked away unscathed. Ladies can be patient.
And so long as we ignore the real asshole in question and focus instead on the lesser things, screening, educating, these cowards will continue to get away with harming innocent women.
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And my second point was that newbies have a hard time screening because guys don't cooperate with it. And if the poor gals sticks to her guns and gets the info from the guy, the next thing she finds out is the gals don't cooperate well either. So the newbie just gives up. So my point was that we can all help everybody stay safe by COOPERATING with screening.
Yes, I too would like to see the guy in question beaten, sent to jail, I don't even care. You name it. I did not mean to divert the discussion to a lesser issue. But rather to try to talk about something could be PREVENTATIVE. Other than having a bodyguard in the room, screening may be the only way to prevent some of this before it happens.
.....So my point was that we can all help everybody stay safe by COOPERATING with screening.
agreed
Please take the time to encourage her to "Blacklist" him. Also, it would be nice if she were to get on the "Provider Board" & warn the other ladies of this guy. My heart sincerely goes out to her.
Leann
I saw her partner a while back. Also very nice young girl, but I told her, that just checking for Crown Victoria cars does constitute screening. So very sad.
However, he was probably a TER member if he read in her review that she offers a BBBJ (only in juicy details), which is what he told her. When I checked her reviews, I did see that one hobbyist did say that she gave him a BBBJ but in all the others, it was a CBJ. Part of my point is that he is one of us and could probably have passed screening- who knows! I pretty much stay with the ladies that offer BBBJ but I have had the experience of not being aware of a condom being put on me for a CBJ. Case in point, a few weeks ago Maya adeptly place a condom on me and I had to look to make sure there was one because I didn't realize that she had done it and I know that she only does CBJ. I guess that I'm saying that someone could make a mistake with a BJ and not realize that a condom had be placed on. With the lady in question today, I knew it would be a CBJ and made the decision that for the $ and what else she offered, I was okay with it.
I don't give a "F" if he is the president of TER. His behavior was unacceptable & cowardly. If anything like this ever happened to me, guaranteed it would NOT go w/o consequences. And I promise you the repercussions for him would be long lasting, & painful. He's probably watching this feed right now, drowning in arrogant laughter. Back at you, you worthless pussy! (that's directed toward the abusive lil bitch) There is still time for the return attack. Hope he remembers that. Sorry for my temper tantrum but this stuff really infuriates me. Idm, I commend you for posting this. Hopefully she will see that she has a lot of support & will take action against this moron.
XXOO!!
Leann
If the provider in question is afraid to go to the police, at the very least, give his name to your fellow providers so that he's properly blacklisted. And give me his name so that I can clown him in every post.
sidenote to ldm: a lady who is able to deftly slip a condom on without you noticing or feeling anything different, is a lady with a virtuoso skill set!
One night, I met with a client who got a little too close because his dick touched my pussy. He did not do a true camel slide, but he touched it and I pushed away. Afterwards, he wrote a review talking about how his dick rubbed against my warm pussy. I asked him to edit it out and he said that he couldn't. He said the rules were that once his review was posted, he couldn't change it. I later found out that was a lie.
Anyway, after his review was posted, I received a lot of business. I was super excited. However, the guys I met with were interested in bareback. They thought because his review said that he slid his dick on my pussy that I'd do BB. I had one guy who kept trying and pushing and pushing for it. Eventually, I was able to diffuse the situation. It was a nightmare for a few months.
So, sometimes it is good to leave certain things out of your reviews, given you might not know how it might affect a lady's business interactions going forward.
Luckily, I had met with one guy who smacked me ass and pulled my hair in a session, but he didn't write about it in a review to keep any creeps from coming out of the woodworks. He kept that information between us.
If you get "extras" or something a lady doesn't typically offer, keep it to yourself. You will be doing her a huge favor.
Also, if she spends time with you off the clock or gives you extra time, do NOT say that in the review. You might think you're showing off, but you just put her in a very awkward situation with the next 50 guys.
Take care everyone.
I believe it is my review that stated BBBJ was offered.And it was.I stand by my review even though it makes me sick to think that the review may have caused this assault.At the time of my aapointment I did not have V.I.P. status so I had no idea what her menu was.I have no problem with a CBJ, in fact my regular gal is exclusively CBJ and does a wonderful job if it.But in this case I didn't even ask for BBBJ,it was simply started on me.The point is every guy must understand that it is the ladys preference and YMMV always applies.And while I feel terrible that this happened and the possibility that it was my review that triggered the iincident,I don't feel I was wrong in reviewing an honest acount of what happened.
...but it is also important to take into consideration how sharing extras might influence a provider’s future interactions with clients.
In your case, the provider's profile clearly says she offers CBJ. It's not difficult to see that information if you have VIP. So while it isn't necessary, it would be courteous to leave the BBBJ out. Leaving out the BB in BJ does not negate the fact that you received a BJ and you would still be accurate in your account but leaving out the specific type of BJ if it were an extra.
I would urge all gentlemen to consider leaving out extras because you create unrealistic expectations for the next gent. And in this particular case (while we never expect something like this to happen), sharing the extra YMMV lead to violence. Hopefully, violence as a result of unrealistic expectations does not happen to another provider, but since we never know if it will happen, it's just the right thing to do to leave those extras out.
Also leave out if she was in her apartment/incall or hotel. I believe escorting out of your home is a greater charge, and there’s no need to make the lady a target by sharing that information.
Some of these reviews do nothing better than feed a gal to the wolves.
If you read my review you will note that she did leave alot open to negotiate (i.e. up sell),but the BJ was not negotiated .She just proceeded with it.We talked about this at length after the session.My advise to her was to stick to a menu she feels comfortable with and set a price for the services she is willing to provide and stick to it.I actually said to her that that kind of ala carte situation could get her in trouble,more so with repeat business than an actual assault.As far as the profile,I very seldom read them or just skim them because it is my experience that they are fairly unreliable.I have reached out to the lady and if she wishes me to edit the review I will.
In my case the guy said he couldn't edit the review. It's good to hear that you are willing to do so if she feels uncomfortable with it. This is very kind of you.
Xoxo.
Neither you or you review is responsible for the assault. The only person responsible for that is the ass who hit her.