I think we all know this is a hobby and business that is purely based on pleasure but I look for some specific things in a provider that cannot be determine by the menu or prior discussions of GFE versus PSE. So let me throw out a few questions here and just say now that your responses, opinions and discussion will be greatly appreciated.

I've been hobbying for many years now and have always gotten great pleasure from inflicting pleasure.  I have been with providers that are GFE and have been with providers that offer PSE but menu's and acronyms aside, I have yet to find a way to tell whether a provider will allow you to bring her to orgasmic pleasure.  Some don't and I wonder if it has to do with keeping things more business-like between client and provider.  But then, some do and seem to appreciate it very much and have no trouble keeping things all "business".  I honestly feel cheated when I am not allowed to bring my provder to an orgasm and would even prefer that to having a release myself.  So tell me, is there any way to know without asking whether a provider will allow you to take her to the promised land?  Or is that one of those YMMV kind of things?  I don't know how to explain why, but it's not something I want to ask, I just want to be able to do it in the heat of the moment.  Does that make sense?  Is it something I should expect from a GFE provider?

And what I just asked leads to a few more questions.  Does a provider feel badly if their client never reaches the point of release?  I'm a man who has great stamina and I know sometimes it bothers providers that I can use the whole hour to reach one sweet pop, but sometimes I get so caught up in bringing them to oragsmic pleasure that I just can't get there myself, no matter how hard I try.  This has happened to me on a number of occasions and I felt like it may have actually bothered some providers.  I honestly think it has more to do with the use of a condom than anything but I'm not looking for nor do I have any desire for BB.  Does it help to asssure you that it was not you or your fault but simply me and my desire to inflict pleasure that kept me from having a powerful release?  Would telling you that I sometimes have a hard time reaching orgasm with a condom on make you feel like I was hoping for BB or make you feel like I was asking for BB?  I'm sorry but it's just a bit of an akward situation that can be hard to tell what the provider was thinking when it was over.  

Trust me, I love being with each and every one of you very much whether I reach an orgasm or not.  But I LOVE being able to take you to heaven!  Am I odd or what?

I would love to hear what you providers have to say.

fake a rocked-my-world orgasm when she knows thats important to the client.  But then, there are plenty who can bring themselves to a climax with very little help.  experienced tongues do help.

The rest of the session is all about communication.

If you share w/me what you like, I'll do the same. I'll even show ya what gets me off. I'll need your stamina for that though.

I have to admit.I'm a big time pleaser. If I can't get a gent off, I do tend to feel bad. I feel like I may have let you down or that my skills as a lover aren't adequate enough to pleasure you. But since you've been kind enough to express your inability to 'get off' w/a condom, than hopefully you'll be open enough to express what does rock your boat!

Again, it all comes down to communication. I'm open to it if you are..

I think it’s a great question.  I’d love to hear feedback from the providers on this.  To me this is a continuation of Marie’s great post “My Continuing Education” a few days ago.

. . . of the male sexual experience, in my opinion, is the satisfaction of seeing the female climax.

Without her being satisfied, the experience tends to be shallow, empty, hollow. Note that I said "tends to be," because I think most dudes are horny enough that a good fuck is better than nothing!

have a gentleman enjoy himself!

If climax is always the goal, there is too much pressure.

Let's have fun, communicate, and the rest becomes easy.

I also suffer from not being able to peak in one hours time on occasion. I chalk it up to getting older but I usually let the lady know up front that I might not get there. Every girl has been understanding but I have had a few that seemed unhappy that they couldn't get me there.

A large part of the experience is just connecting with another person, sharing the sensations. I do not have to have an earth shattering peak to enjoy my time with the ladies. The service of their "time" is just fine with me.  Especially some of the ladies that I have met here in the cities, by the way Red, its been awhile but damn you rocked my boat girl!