April, even though I have extended this apology
to you in private, I desire to use this media
to further extend my sincere apology to you,
for any harm or injury that I had caused you, by
my past angry words.

Long story, made brief, I met April back in 2005,
We hit it off, and had a wonderful connection,
I became emotionally attached to her, and when she
made it known to me, that I had to let go,
I became angry, and accused her of foul play,
in that I had felt that she had led me on.
Well the facts are, it was my own fault and I
did it to myself.

My heart was broken, but it was not she who did
the damage, but rather it was my own neediess
that hurt me.

April, even though you forgave me long ago,
I want to thank you for your kindness, and
for showing a true ability to care about others.
You are a beautiful woman, with an inner beauty
as well. I am thankful to have shared some very
special momments with you.

Thanks for allowing me to express this apology,
it was long overdue.

Trooper!

The highs and lows run to the margins. Very difficult to keep the balance when our real lives keep interrupting the bliss.

Yes it does. When lovely and caring ladies offer us emotional as well as physical intimacy as they share their favors with us, it can be difficult to remember and respect the boundaries of our relationships with them - especially when the bliss lingers until interrupted by real life.

to remember that Providers are professional Ladies whose art is to create as close to that perfect Fantasy for their clients as they possibly can within the time constraints allowed..

For the Local Ladies whom you see often they can do such a good job of building that complete Fantasy over time it can become easy to lose yourself from the reality that should hit you when you walk out the door....especially when friendships are formed....

It is apparent from Tropper's post April did her job and did it well and like many others before and many otherw who will experience this after Trooper lost the connection to the real reality of what a session is all about...

The majority of providers work hard to make sure each client experiences the total Fantasy and its always painful when a Hobbyist forgets or loses that sense of reality...

I do applaud Trooper for his kind words and knowing that April only did her job as she was asked to do.....thats a stand up guy....

And if I may one last statement....Providers work hard at their craft and provide outlets that I truly believe makes the world a better place...so for those that sometimes are quick to condem a lady stop and think before you act....

Thanks for allowing my comments....

Jack

Here I thought I was the only softy in the hobby. Yes, I think it is difficult for both the guys and the gals. I try, although imperfectly, to live my life not as a model hobbyist but with a certain amount of patience and forgiveness. Maybe this thread can serve both the gals and the guys in that I think we may all be given to not communicating problems sufficiently so as to make changes before it is too late. But I guess that is part of that it means to be imperfect. From the guys' perspective, the "supply" is large enough that we just move on instead of resolving our issues with an ATF. From the gals' perspective (danger zone here since I'm not a gal), the "demand" for their favors is large enough that they also just move on instead of resolving their issues with a former wonderful gentleman who has crossed the line. The end result is lingering unhappiness for both parties. Healthy closure is important not just for the moment but for our overall self respect in life whether a "kiss and make up" solution with successful restoration of boundries is achieved or a spirit of mutual respect is the ultimate outcome with no ongoing acrimony in the air. Either way two precious people are healthier for it.

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Went through the stripper thing myself a while ago-TCG you are so right-although I admit I crossed the line by wanting to see her OTC-being ignored and lied to afterward was not the way to handle it on her part-they ought to know that their regulars are bound to hit on them sooner or later-most of them need to learn more tactfulness-I've been hobbying for well over 10 yrs-have never had any problems since I understand the relationship is business-so for me-no more strip clubs-Hobby on!

Trooper, never met you I don't think, its late, just got home from that bar- all I can say is hey- sure wish other gentlemen that get into this situation would have half the character you have to get down and look inside and say the words that are mean't to be said. Providers are human, have hearts and sometimes real feelings of affection- it can't go any farther most of the time babe, but both client and provider have to unchain each other and say it was something that made a difference and left a sweet mark and walk forward. Nice job....big time and thanks for being a good fellow human! xxxooJ.