From about a dozen up until about 4 years ago, I was very active in the hobby, both in visiting Tijuana and in more local providers in the L.A. / area.  However, 4 years ago, I finally made a big decision and filed for divorce.

However, after dating for 2 years, I met my now wife and she and I soon married soon after.   One thing that made my wife attractive to me is that she is bi and that I told her about every one of the skeletons in my closet, particularly about my participation in the hobby.

One thing I never enjoyed about hobbying, however, was the deception and detrimental effect on the relationship/marriage.  

For the last 2 years there has been no deception but rather just being bad together with my new wife.  From honeymooning at a couples only, clothing optional, "lifestyle" resort in Cancun to occasionally getting together with other couples or single females, we have done everything together.  It is not always drama free as jealousy does seem to occur on occasion either between the two of us or with the other couple, but I still find it more desirable than sneaking around behind my wife's back.

The "lifestyle" is a word that means people who are in open relationships whether they only play as a couple together or whether they play with others separately away from each other.  My wife and I have chosen that we will only play with other lifestylers together.  Really, it is an entire subculture, just as hobbying is.

While we had talked about the possibility of getting a sexy bi female provider, we never had.

Anyway, the two of us found ourselves in TJ for an event.  I had told my wife all about my exploits in TJ dating back nearly 20 years.  Really, I was one of the first, if not the first one on TER preaching the good word about Tijuana.

One thing I have learned with my wife is that by not pressuring her and not having any expectations that my mileage definitely seems to improve when it comes to the two of us being with other women.  Naturally, as my wife, she demands to feel like she is "the one" and that other women are nothing more than a piece of meat to me (or her).  It doesn't mean that we are disrespectful to others but it does mean that, more than likely, we enjoy one time with another woman (or couple) and then move on.  Other people have ranged from students, an E/R doctor who passed out Ecstasy to guests at a party (and kept track of the dosages) to Ivy league professors /published authors and everything inbetween.  It is totally different from the hobby where everyone is pretty independent and anonymous as the lifestyle depends and thrives on the interaction with other people as opposed to thriving on anonymity as the hobby depends on.

With that said, curiosity got the best of my wife and while it was always our intent to go to check out Adelita's and Chicago Club, I really had no expectations beyond that.

So after dinner at a beautiful and delicious high end Argentinian restaurant, and likely fueled by a bottle of wine, my wife suggested that if I was good that she would have a sexy girl blow me later that evening.

We first went to Adelita's but I took her on a tour of the sidestreet around the corner that is lined with young providers.  My wife was in total shock but not in a disgusted kind of way.

Following that little tour, we went inside Adelita's arriving at about 9:30pm, and it was ok but to her it was jumping.  It is in my wife's nature to talk to others and she had no hesitation in talking up other mongerers, not judging them but rather talking about some of the sexy providers there.

One fellow mongerer suggested that we check out Hong Kong Bar as it was a very fun environment.  After a quick tour of Chicago Club (which was dreadful...like a giant ashtray), we made our way to Hong Kong Bar.  Wow, I had been there before, but not for like 5 years, I am guessing.

Hong Kong Bar was amazing and my wife loved the energy there.  Easily, this is the best place I have been to in Tijuana, although my priorities are obviously different now and more focused on fun rather than just fucking as I have a sexy wife and we do get together with other sexy women/sexy couples on occasion.

We settled in at Hong Kong Bar at the stools at the jacuzzi where there were two sexy girls naked inside fondling each other and pasting all their wet dollar bills on the wall.

Before I knew it, my wife was demanding dollars from me and not long after was making out with each of the two girls.  Definitely different rules when it is a sexy female mongerer than when it is just another mongerer with a cock.

This all got my wife pretty worked up and while she wanted to play with these girls, eventually on seeing this, our waiter brought over a cute 18 year old bleached blonde who he said would take care of us both.  Given that some other sexy girls had turned us down as they weren't bisexual, we jumped at the opportunity and sat down with this girl and had a couple drinks with her.  Usually my wife is not into blondes or girls that are under about 5'5, and this girl was both blonde, about 5'2" and younger than my wife usually likes (she was barely barely barely legal but must have been to be working in the club) but I think my wife really got worked up by the girls in the jacuzzi and by the lively environment with great bumping music as she agreed to this girls invitation that we take her next door to the hotel.

We were given the option of $80 for half an hour ($20 extra for a couple?) or $120 for the full hour.  Not wanting to rush, we opted for the full hour.  Annoyingly, the guy working the counter at the hotel demanded $70 for a room for one hour.  That was ridiculous as we were staying at one of the best hotels (if not the best) in the city for not much more than $70.  I refused to pay this amount and he went on and on about me having two girls and it didn't matter to him that one of them was my own wife and not a provider.  He knew that he had a captive audience and that if we wanted this girl that we were going to have to pay him for the room to enjoy her in.

After slapping a $50 bill on the counter and telling him to take or leave it, he let out a "Que La Chingara" or something to that effect, took the money, cursed me a little more, and handed our provider a couple towels and a couple condoms.

The girl was sexy but really not that experienced with other women although she gave it her best effort.  However, my wife, after about 5 minutes of being licked by this girl, turned her over to me and asked the girl to blow me.  While I would have liked more, I am happy with whatever my wife is comfortable with and I think that most married men would kill to be in my position.

So I got my blowjob, came after about 10 minutes while fingering the girl, and I think we were in and out of the room within about 25 minutes.

$170 ($120 + $50 for the room) later, we were done and had our first provider together, a cute young 18 year old girl.

Fortunately, although not a perfect experience, again, my wife would have preferred taller, early to mid 20's and brunette, my wife chalked it up to a learning experience and said that now she knows what she wants next time and will not settle.

I think my wife both and I agree that we would rather pay a sexy latina in Tijuana $60 - $120 rather than $250 - $350+ for a quality provider in Los Angeles.  

Rambling post I know, but a totally new experience for me (and my wife) and my first activity in the lifestyle in over 2 years.

For anyone reading this who is married and sneaking around but is not opposed to his own wife also having some fun, I would suggest that you give the lifestyle a try, if you feel that she would be open minded and you feel like your relationship is solid enough to withstand it.  I will not answer any questions in particular about the lifestyle but will say that it sure as hell beats sneaking around.  Unexpectedly, it eventually led me right back to here and it was nice to have my prior hobbying experience to call upon!

Hey, Zorro... glad to see a post from you and that you had another memorable experience in TJ.

Yes, you were one of the early guys spreading the word about TJ here on TER. It was from your posts that I found the inspiration to make my first trip years ago. Thanks again for that and congrats for having a wonderful wife!