From about a dozen up until about 4 years ago, I was very active in the hobby, both in visiting Tijuana and in more local providers in the L.A. / area.  However, 4 years ago, I finally made a big decision and filed for divorce.

However, after dating for 2 years, I met my now wife and she and I soon married soon after.   One thing that made my wife attractive to me is that she is bi and that I told her about every one of the skeletons in my closet, particularly about my participation in the hobby.

One thing I never enjoyed about hobbying, however, was the deception and detrimental effect on the relationship/marriage.  

For the last 2 years there has been no deception but rather just being bad together with my new wife.  From honeymooning at a couples only, clothing optional, "lifestyle" resort in Cancun to occasionally getting together with other couples or single females, we have done everything together.  It is not always drama free as jealousy does seem to occur on occasion either between the two of us or with the other couple, but I still find it more desirable than sneaking around behind my wife's back.

The "lifestyle" is a word that means people who are in open relationships whether they only play as a couple together or whether they play with others separately away from each other.  My wife and I have chosen that we will only play with other lifestylers together.  Really, it is an entire subculture, just as hobbying is.

While we had talked about the possibility of getting a sexy bi female provider, we never had.

Anyway, the two of us found ourselves in TJ for an event.  I had told my wife all about my exploits in TJ dating back nearly 20 years.  Really, I was one of the first, if not the first one on TER preaching the good word about Tijuana.

One thing I have learned with my wife is that by not pressuring her and not having any expectations that my mileage definitely seems to improve when it comes to the two of us being with other women.  Naturally, as my wife, she demands to feel like she is "the one" and that other women are nothing more than a piece of meat to me (or her).  It doesn't mean that we are disrespectful to others but it does mean that, more than likely, we enjoy one time with another woman (or couple) and then move on.  Other people have ranged from students, an E/R doctor who passed out Ecstasy to guests at a party (and kept track of the dosages) to Ivy league professors /published authors and everything inbetween.  It is totally different from the hobby where everyone is pretty independent and anonymous as the lifestyle depends and thrives on the interaction with other people as opposed to thriving on anonymity as the hobby depends on.

With that said, curiosity got the best of my wife and while it was always our intent to go to check out Adelita's and Chicago Club, I really had no expectations beyond that.

So after dinner at a beautiful and delicious high end Argentinian restaurant, and likely fueled by a bottle of wine, my wife suggested that if I was good that she would have a sexy girl blow me later that evening.

We first went to Adelita's but I took her on a tour of the sidestreet around the corner that is lined with young providers.  My wife was in total shock but not in a disgusted kind of way.

Following that little tour, we went inside Adelita's arriving at about 9:30pm, and it was ok but to her it was jumping.  It is in my wife's nature to talk to others and she had no hesitation in talking up other mongerers, not judging them but rather talking about some of the sexy providers there.

One fellow mongerer suggested that we check out Hong Kong Bar as it was a very fun environment.  After a quick tour of Chicago Club (which was dreadful...like a giant ashtray), we made our way to Hong Kong Bar.  Wow, I had been there before, but not for like 5 years, I am guessing.

Hong Kong Bar was amazing and my wife loved the energy there.  Easily, this is the best place I have been to in Tijuana, although my priorities are obviously different now and more focused on fun rather than just fucking as I have a sexy wife and we do get together with other sexy women/sexy couples on occasion.

We settled in at Hong Kong Bar at the stools at the jacuzzi where there were two sexy girls naked inside fondling each other and pasting all their wet dollar bills on the wall.

Before I knew it, my wife was demanding dollars from me and not long after was making out with each of the two girls.  Definitely different rules when it is a sexy female mongerer than when it is just another mongerer with a cock.